I have been made an offer for standard visitation for my 4 children. this has been a 6 year fight with my ex and I'd like to know exactly what it means. my attorney says its a legal term and there is a nation standard they go by.
My children have been thru so much and my relationship with them is greatly diminished due to many times in court and the ex being in trouble 4 times over neglect and abuse issues. ranging from plain neglect ,psycal abuse (son mostly) felony neglect without harm etc. this issue is becoming more and more convoluted in the court system and the effect is showing in my kids son 9 now on prozac! I must get some relief for them!
my Ex has turned the kids against me even as far as now the kids tell me im not thier father.
2007-10-01 03:46:12 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you have custody??? If not then I don't understand why you don't have full custody because of the x being in trouble 4 times over neglect & abuse.
Traditional or Normal Visitation Schedule
The following is a commonly used child visitation schedule for the secondary residential parent. Although this visitation pattern with children is still common, and has been traditionally used by the courts - child visitation laws are now much more flexible. This schedule for visitation is only a beginning point in designing parenting time with your children.
Weekend Child Visitation Schedule
1. Every other weekend, from 6:00 p.m. on Friday until 6:00 p.m. Sunday.
2. 6:00 P.M. until 9:00 P.M. on the Monday following the non-visitation weekend.
3. Three (3) uninterrupted weeks during the summer to start no sooner than one full week after the last day of school and to end no later than one full week before the first day of school. The non-residential-parent will designate his or her choice for the three (3) week summer visitation no later than April 15 of any given year.
Holiday Visitation with Children
4.
A. Christmas: The parents will alternate, on a yearly basis, as follows: From 6:00 p.m. on the last day of the school year until 4:00 p.m. on Christmas Day and from 4:00 p.m. on Christmas Day until 6:00 p.m. on January 1.
Jewish and other non-Christian families will follow this schedule as it is designed to effectively split the Christmas school holiday period.
B. Thanksgiving: The parents will alternate, on a yearly basis, as follows: From 6:00 p.m. on Wednesday, Thanksgiving Eve until 6:00 p.m. on the Sunday following Thanksgiving.
If Thanksgiving falls on the non-residential-parents regular visitation weekend, he, or she, will enjoy the additional two days and nights of visitation. If Thanksgiving should fall on a weekend wherein it is the non-residential-parents visitation weekend, but it is the residential-parents turn for having the child or children for Thanksgiving, then and in that even, the non-residential parent will have his or her regular visitation the following weekend.
C. Easter: The parents will alternate, on a yearly basis, as follows: From 6:00 p.m. on the Thursday before Easter until 6:00 p.m. Easter day.
Any conflicts between regularly scheduled weekend visitation and alternate yearly Easter visitation will be handled the same manner in which the Thanksgiving alternate yearly visitation is handled (See: sub paragraph B. above).
F. Jewish and non-Christian religious holidays and festivals: The parents will alternate, on a yearly basis, these occasions, keeping in mind the custody, beliefs, and practices of their faith and the right of the child or children to maintain, without interruption, the said customs, beliefs and practices of their faith.
Visitation on Birthdays and Special Occasions
D. Spring Break: The parents will alternate, on a yearly basis, as follows: From 6:00 p.m. of the first full day of Spring Break until 6:00 p.m. the evening before the last full day of Spring Break (i.e. if school starts back on a Monday, the child or children would be returned at 6:00 p.m. on the preceding Saturday.) Any conflicts between regularly scheduled weekend visitation and alternate yearly Spring Break will be handled the same manner in which the Thanksgiving alternate yearly visitation is handled (see sub paragraph B. above).
E. Mother’s Day and Father’s Day: Each parent shall have the child or children with her or him from 6:00 p.m. the evening before this day until 6:00 p.m. on this day, no matter what the visitation schedule would otherwise be. There will be no make up day for the non-residential parent should his or her weekend visitation be cut short as a result of the Mother’s Day/Father’s Day entitlement.
5. The non-residential parent shall be expected to maintain any regularly scheduled important events while exercising visitation (i.e. religious observances, team sports, music instruction, etc.).
6. The visiting parent shall also maintain, without fail any and all medical prescription dosages and/or medical therapy as may be prescribed for the child or children.
7. Finally, the visiting parent shall advise the primary residential parent as to the whereabouts of the child or children during any visitation period; especially if vacations or trips out of the immediate area are planned.
2007-10-01 04:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Standard is typically every other weekend and certain holidays which you will have every other year. Also normally is 1 month of visitation in the summer from July 15 to August 15 and 1 week every other Christmas with you getting the kids on the actual holiday.
2007-10-01 03:50:46 · answer #2 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would insist on sole custody of your children if you love them. A child who is being abused by the mother, should not be with the mother. You aren't protecting that child if you don't step in and ask for full custody. Standard visitation means you'll only see your children every other weekend and on alternate holidays. That is not enough to help them. Ask the judge to let you raise the kids, so you know they'll be safe. They can have standard visitation with their mother.
2007-10-01 04:46:02 · answer #3 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first you need another lawyer because he shoudl tell you what the standard visitation schedle shoudl be. It should be you get to see them every other week and a week a year for vacation.. But you need to amke sure your lawyer do everything for you and not try to go thru it as fast as possible. And if she is been abusing the kids don';t see why your not going for full custody. And if you can prove she is turning your kids against you I woudl file for full custody and give her teh standard visitation. So good luck.
2007-10-01 04:02:04 · answer #4 · answered by Always ready for anything 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With your description of events I would reject the offer of standard visitation which is primarily: Dad's custody every other weekend, every other holiday and 8 weeks in the summer (depending on your state)
If you can prove these issues, I would fire your lawyer for not explaining things adequately to you, and hire someone to pursue full custody with supervised visitation for your ex.
Good luck
2007-10-01 03:56:14 · answer #5 · answered by vaughnc5920 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It used to be every other weekend, rotating holidays and approximately a month in the summer time...I would at least have an attorney go over the paperwork before I agreed to anything if I were you.
Good luck
2007-10-01 03:57:00 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-10 02:39:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Standard in our county in Ohio is every other weekend, every Tuesday and Thursday on the weeks you don't get them on the next weekend and Tuesday OR Thursday during the week that you do get them that weekend. Every other holiday.
New Year Mother - even years Father odd years12/31 at 6:00 pm to 1/1 at 6:00 pm
Martin Luther King Day Father even yearsMother odd years Sun 6:00 pm to Mon 6:00 pm
Presidents Day Mothereven years Father odd yearsSun 6:00 pm to Mon 6:00 pm
Easter Father even years Mother odd yearsSat 8:00 pm to Sun 6:00 pm
Memorial Day Mother even yearsFather odd yearsSun 6:00 pm to Mon 6:00 pm
4th of July Father even yearsMother odd years9:00 am to 9:00 pm
Labor Day Mother even yearsFather odd yearsSun 6:00 pm to Mon 6:00 pm
Halloween Father even yearsMother odd years5:00 pm to 9:00 pm
Thanksgiving Mother evenFather oddWed 6:00 pm to Fri 6:00 pm
X-Mas Eve Father even Mother odd12/23 12:00 pm to 12/24 9:00 pm
X-Mas Day Mother evenFather odd12/24 9:00 pm to 12/26 6:00 pm
Mother's Day Mother evenMother odd10:00 am to 9:00 pm
Father's Day Father evenFather odd10:00 am to 9:00 pm
For all other holiday's, including religious holiday's celebrated by the family which are to be included in the above list, the parties shall alternate from year to year with the mother having the even # years and the father odd # years on those particular holiday's. For holiday's that extend for more than one day period, the parties shall divide the days as equally as possible in order to permit both parties to spend that holiday time with the children.
For school districts who have Fridays or Mondays off that are not listed in the holiday schedule, for Friday or Monday, the parent whose weekend it is shall have the option of extending their weekend companionship to include the extra day.
Birthdays
In the even # years the mother shall have the children for their birthdays on the following schedule: If the child is in school on that day, the time will be 5:00 pm to 9:00 pm, if the child is not in school on that day, from 9:00 am to 9:00 p.m. the father shall have the children in odd # years on the same time schedule.
The parenting time for birthdays shall include all the children of the marriage, not just the child celebrating his/her birthday.
The children shall spend each parent's birthday with that parent unless otherwise ordered by the court or agreement of the parties.
If you have an attorney, he/she should be able to get you a copy of what your state and county have for their standard order of visitation. They all can vary some by location
2007-10-01 04:27:39 · answer #8 · answered by ♦justme♦ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your issues isn't 'standard visitation' which is every other weekend and trading of holidays for even and odd years, your REAL issue is why you are not filing for sole legal custody?
2007-10-01 03:51:03 · answer #9 · answered by hexeliebe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every other weekend & holiday.
You will always get them on your birthday & father's day. You will get all of them on their birthdays one year, then the next year she'll have them on their birthdays.
You I think also get 2 weeks in the summer.
2007-10-01 03:56:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋