I have a wife of 34 yrs. and we have not even touched each other in over 4 years!!!!!! She has absolutely no use, no want and I don't think she has even a thought in her head about it! I on the other hand am still alive and looking. Unfortunately, not alot of couples or singles want anything to do with a married guy 54 yr old.
Therapy would be out, because evidently she see's no problem.
2007-10-01 03:38:57 · 29 answers · asked by S S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Those older chics are poppin!
2007-10-01 03:41:49 · answer #1 · answered by ranch_tester 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
.WTH Thirty four is not old . She just don't give a damn. If she says she can't see that there Is a problem there is definitely some thing going on with her. I have a problem if i don't get some loving a couple of times a week . I am over a decade older than her.There may be some health reasons why she is this way. My husband (now deceased) had congestive heart failure and was a heavy smoker and it affect our sex life. She can seek help from a doctor there is medication for women with a low sex drive. Sex is important in a relationship, going with out for four years has to be hard on the relationship. Talk to her and try to get her to open up.Good Luck
2007-10-01 06:08:41 · answer #2 · answered by Precious 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Everyone is different, but in a lot of cases its the opposite. Men's sex drives tend to slow as time goes on. While some women may see an increase. But after 34years that may not be the issue. Be open and honest with her...You still have needs and if she can't be accommodating, then maybe its time to look elsewhere. And there are women or couples who will do things with a 54 year old man.
2007-10-01 03:45:24 · answer #3 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It could be menopause or an hormonal thing, or simply something that she no longer feels is important to her. I have discussed this with some of my female friends and one of them said the moment she hit menopause she lost all interest, whereas before she had always had a high sex drive. Another friend said her interest increased with menopause: both had been on Hormone Replacement Therapy.
I don't know how you are going to deal with it if she won't see a doctor. I am assuming you have tried to talk to her. You may have to choose sex over your wife if it is so important to you.
2007-10-01 14:28:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sort of curious here... What have you done to show her that you want her?
And don't be an idiot! Women are a lot slicker than we men think. You wife could be getting it and you never know. But it sounds to me like you and your wife have no lines of open communication. I'm completely perplexed at how the 2 of you could not touch each other for 4 years!
2007-10-01 03:44:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell your wife that while she may not have a problem you do.
Tell her you want her to have some blood work done to check her hormones.....it's possible she could be starting menopause and that may be what's happening right now.
If this is the case there are things that can help with this problem and the sex part of your lives will be restored.
Again.....make her know that this is important to you.....if she won't go to a therapist then you go.....you'll be surprised how it can help you and your marriage.
***note I've been married 32 years and my sex drive is fine....LOL
2007-10-01 03:50:45 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First off menopause is not to blame. Your sex drive comes from how you feel about yourself. When my husband and I started dating he was 48 and had a E.D. problem and wanted Viagra for it. I finally was able to convince him that it was all in his head (he had no other medical problems) Anyways he is 51 now and his sex drive is at a peak, no problems. In regards to your wife you need to gently get her to understand that you find her very attractive, This could take a few weeks but don't rush her. The pressure of being pushed into something will make her back down.
2007-10-01 03:54:09 · answer #7 · answered by lucidwillow 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Clearly you are frustrated but even then it seems like the only person you are concerned about is yourself. That tends to be a huge turn off for women. Women need to know that their men care about them, know them on more than just a physical level and love them.
Because sex is about more than just the guy getting his own enjoyment. Have you considered her? Are you treating her like the love of your life or a sex object/maid? Do you know what the term foreplay means? Do you know what turns her on? Do you even care?
2007-10-01 04:02:49 · answer #8 · answered by Saphira 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she isn't turned on by a 54yr old man either... I am her age and want/have lots of sex.... But I wouldn't even think of it with a 54yr old man...Have you looked in the mirror lately? Maybe it's you... Are you nice to her? Compliment her? Take her out on real dates?
Oh wait nevermind, I misread it, I thought you were saying your wife was 34... Sorry.
2007-10-01 03:56:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Women need to feel intimacy to have sex and men need to have sex to feel intimacy. Have you tried helping around the house, telling her how beautiful you think she is, or just romancing her a little bit?
2007-10-01 09:39:34 · answer #10 · answered by pretiusmaximus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have a problem with it, then there is a problem. you need to make her see this. the only thing that i can come up with is that sometimes women get tired the same old sex. if we know that it isn't going to be that great for us, why even bother. however, whatever the problem is, you both need to get to the bottom of it.
2007-10-01 04:30:39 · answer #11 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋