been his for the past 8 years. She has told this 8 year old child that my husband is the father w/out doing a paternity test. 6 years ago there was a PT scheduled, but she was a no show, and now 6 years later she wants one. The reason my husband left her is b/c she was a 'walking whore'.
The DNA test was done last Thursday...do youthink my hubby is the father? I am stressing and don't wanna wait for the results, but have to.
She claims she is not out for 'child support' money. She said she has been targeting my hubby only for the past 8 years b/c he is the only one not a druggie, alcoholic, and a stable life.When she found out he was married, she was dissapointed.
What do you think in your own opinion the possibilty of him being the father? From what I said?? We have 2 kids, and he has 2 from his ex wife...and they ALL look like him. This 'other woman' sent him pictures of the child, and she looks nothing like him, but that doesn't mean anything. Yes the DNA was done.I want ur help!
2007-10-01 03:33:45 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know it's hard but you have to wait until the test results are in. No matter what our opinions are, the facts and the truth will set you free. If he cheated on you with this women and wore no protection, it's a 50/50 chance that it could be his. This one might be the first that looks like the mother. Has he slept with anyone else?? Are you going to have to go through this again? I hope not.
2007-10-01 03:44:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course it's possible he's the father. But it could be someone else too. At this point all you can do is wait for the test results. Obviously your husband is pretty confident, since he wanted a paternity test years ago. And since she was a no show, I'm guessing she has doubts. It's not unheard of for a single mother to claim a certain man is the father, not because he is, but because he would be the best choice.
Just based on what you've said, I don't think he is the father. Obviously that's just a hunch and not fact. There's two things to consider here. One, if your husband really is the father, then I'm sure the requests for child support are going to start. She may not be after that now, but if she find out she has legal claim, she'll probably change her mind. Secondly, if he's not the father, and this woman still keeps trying to push herself into his life, you may want to look into a restraining order or something, she sounds a touch desperate.
2007-10-01 11:23:15 · answer #2 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the child is his and the woman is not looking for child support then the only reason at this time for bringing it all out.....is that she wants the daughter to have a relationship with the father. I would prepare myself for the out come of the DNA test if it comes back positive. I would start communicating with my husband now in how the two of you will deal with this. How this little girl got here and why was no choice of her own so the question is ....where will she fit in and how will she be accepted? Even if there is no connection to her at this time she may show up in the future when she is older and want to know her father and her half sibblings. This situation will not go away if she is a part of your own children and your husband. This will not be about the mother here .....it will be about the child and finding a way to place her in all of your lives. It could be the right thing to do if you and your husband deal with it in the right way! You love your husband and he loves you and together you love all of your children....I would look at it as there is enough love to extend to a an 8 year old girl that one day could even look up to you in her life ...,,,for respecting her and not making her feel indifferent. She will not always be a child and someday as a woman she may hold a tender place in your heart and hold the same inside hers for you? I would not be stressing over a situation that you cannot change I would try to look at it with an open understanding of what good could come out of it and count on the strength and love in your marriage to see it through.
2007-10-01 11:44:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Never mind the mother and the affair. The PT (DNA I'm assuming) will show paternity. If your H is the father... think of the child even though it's not yours, and support YOUR husband in being a father to the child ONLY.
Maybe some family counseling would help. But YOUR family with his child. She is NOT the focus, the child is.
But DNA will show the paternity.
Sounds like a good Dr. Phil, or Dr. Laura question.
2007-10-01 13:24:39 · answer #4 · answered by believeinlove 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is always a chance the child is his and the test result will prove this either way. Your husband made a very bad decision 8 years ago and I hope you both were tested for STD's and HIV-Aids.
She is obviously hoping to cash in if the child is his. Keep in mind the child has no say in the matter and is paying the highest price. If the child is your husbands at least he will have a brighter future.
Good luck.
2007-10-01 10:41:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is a walking whore? Is it any different from a sitting whore? If so, what is a sitting whore? Are there skipping whores or running whores or cartwheeling whores?
Shakes the crazy8ball, "Ask again later" who knows who the baby daddy be...only DNA test will tell.
2007-10-01 10:37:52 · answer #6 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that you are stressed but there is no way of knowing if the child is his or not until the test comes back. If it is his you will just have to deal with it. My best advice to you is to pray and keep praying for things to work out.
2007-10-01 10:47:57 · answer #7 · answered by moonchild 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1) US grant was a great general because he did not stress about things he had no control over. Relax and wait for the results.
2) She is going to try to get money and she will spend it on herself. They always do.
3) Educate your sons that psycob@#ches are great sex partners but they are trouble afterwords.
2007-10-01 10:41:07 · answer #8 · answered by eric l 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
50/50 chance and btw how do you know it was one time? is that what he says? I bet it was many times..
2007-10-01 10:40:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋