I found out my husband has two myspace profiles. The one he is open about says he's married. The second one, I just found, is set on private and his status states he's here for dating, serious relationships, networking, etc. He's done some shady things in the past and this is making me very insecure. Do you think he is up to no good? How should I confront him about this?
2007-10-01 03:14:38 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
for jezyka: i know his status is for dating, serious relationships, etc. because when you enter his display name on search, it shows those details. i found out he has this second account from his friend's list that I already know about. he added his private account to his list. now i can't find it anymore unless i search for that display name because the layout he uses does not display his friends anymore.
2007-10-01 04:16:35 · update #1
He's good, sneaky too!
2007-10-01 03:17:34 · answer #1 · answered by ranch_tester 5 · 3⤊ 5⤋
Well, if the profile is set to private, then how do you know his status?
And if you have seen the profile, then obviously you know his password or something. So if that's the case, look at his comments and messages......then you'll know exactly what the deal is.
Another thing, has he logged onto this myspace RECENTLY? I know I had one a few years ago, but could never remember the password...so I made another one not too long ago. The first one I made isn't ''secret" there's just no use in talking about it.
I really think that you should have put in more details about this myspace page.
2007-10-01 03:40:49 · answer #2 · answered by jezyka 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes he's up 2 no good. And I would bring him to the computer sit him down and go 2 the myspace and say " What the hell is this" wait for his response. Either way he's done shady things in the past so go w/ ur gut and I would leave cuz ur worth more then that and can find better then him
Good luck 2 u
I don't know why people have to ask if u have kids, kids are not gonna change anything...What cuz u have kids he deserves a 2nd chance?? Nope I don't believe that, it may make it harder to leave but ur decision should not be based on that, Do what ur heart tells u to!!
2007-10-01 03:21:54 · answer #3 · answered by NONAME 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is not already up to no good, he is planning on being bad in the future, that is for sure. Print out everything you have found before confronting him. Only confront him though, if you are ready to get out of relationship. He will probably try to turn the tables on you, asking how dare you invade his privacy by checking up on him. He has one profile set up to cover his *** over the single and dating profile. He will probably say he does this because you don't trust him anyway. Ask him why you should at this point. Doesn't seem like you will be losing much. Is it worth it to have a mate that you can't trust? Why would you want to be with someone you have to check up on? You will always be wondering what he is up to and that sucks. Get away from this jerk and find someone who really loves you. Past behavior is a great predictor of future behaviors. Good Luck!
2007-10-01 03:30:20 · answer #4 · answered by Really now 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's obviously looking for discreet sex. You said that he's done "shady" things in the past, which gives further reason to believe he's looking for discreet sex.
I can understand how you feel: I had a girlfriend who was unfaithful to me. But I can imagine that you feel even worse than I did, because he's a husband and not a boyfriend.
If your husband has done things of this nature in the past and still doing things of this nature in the present, he's very likely going to do things of this nature in the future.
To tell you the truth, I think you deserve better.
You asked how you should confront him. If I was in your situation, I'd get a divorce. You don't need him; he's an unfaithful man.
Think about it. Divorce is probably the best way of confronting him.
There are plenty of other faithful men out there who would glady date you.
2007-10-01 03:23:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should minimize his profile and tell him to come to the computer, you found something amazing. Then maximize the screen, that way he doesn't have time to come up with a bad excuse. Or another way is to get the software that tracks every move a person makes on the computer, and find out where he is going on the net, and to be 100% sure it is him. Choose how you want to do this, you know him better than we do. Good luck!
2007-10-01 03:30:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, he is up to no good. Just confront him head on and don't listen to any blame he tries to put on you. Most likely he will outright deny it or make up some excuse, but get solid proof of his profile and show it to him. Pin him to the wall with it. He may even accuse you of snooping around in his private files, but don't listen to any of his bs! Once you have wrung the truth from him (or as near as you're ever going to get from the slimy ba****d) begin the process of putting his cheating behind you.
If he has done shady things in the past, then why put up with it now? Sounds like you gave him a second chance and he blew it.
2007-10-01 03:26:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, then ask him what it is that you and he are missing in your relationship that motivated him to do this.
What are the shady things he's done? If he's cheated and promised not to do it again, then he's obviously lied to you and is still looking to do it again.
OR..post a response on his single and looking site, arrange a meeting and don't show. For a picture use one of those "babes" from a "dating" website. Then play with him. Tease him with promises, cyber-sex him, build him up. Keep copies of the messages he sends, find out all you can.
Then hire a lawyer and HAMMER HIM!
There's your options...depends on if you want to work it out or just end it.
2007-10-01 03:25:20 · answer #8 · answered by David 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Clearly he's up to no good. He's a sneak and if he's not already a cheat he's working awfully hard to be one.
He's also a liar. C'mon, he's decieving you about the second myspace account and flat our lying to everyone who reads it.
People with honorable intentions rarely lie to their spouses and other people.
With all of that in mind, I wouldn't confront him. I'd get a lawyer.
2007-10-01 03:38:21 · answer #9 · answered by Saphira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right as his wife, to know what he is doing and saying to other women. So don't let him pull the anger bit about you invading his privacy. He is a married man and in the way he has no privacy.
Yes, confront him with what you have found and watch him try to twist it all around and try to make you look like the bad guy. Just remember he is the one who is guilty, not you.
He is totally disrespecting you. He needs to make up his mind who he wants. Don't put up with on line infidelity, it can turn into real world adultery.
2007-10-01 03:27:23 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Need more info. Probably is up to know good. Buy the way have you done your work? Have you keep him busy in the bed room? It sure dose sound like you have not do your work.
Himmmmmmmmm Your good and sneaky your self.
2007-10-01 03:34:21 · answer #11 · answered by tadm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋