This musician buddy of mine at the gym asked why i'm not working and i tok a bit of offense to it.But then i asked what he meant and he meant gigging.I don't know why he would give a crap so much,sincei've talked music with him all the time and he knows that i am legitimately skilled.Why would he imply that i'm not working or whatever?It's an offense to me,because of all that we have talked about and having a commin bond.I thought he meant that i don't do anything with myself...
2007-10-01 02:54:52 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
get a job you lazy cheese
2007-10-01 02:59:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like he was trying to make conversation with you while you were working out. I don't believe he meant to offend you but sometimes people have an ulterior motive. I have found from past experience that people dig for information to divulge to others. It makes them look cooler because they have the inside scoop and they are saying well I am better than you because of whatever reason. As for being a musician I know getting a gig can be quite tough, everyone is trying to break out into the business at once and there isn't enough room for everyone. In the future I would only give him a grain of information because it really isn't any of his business what is going on in your life. Live life for you and no one else.
2007-10-01 10:15:02 · answer #2 · answered by WiseHermit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Musicians can be full of rivalry. If he's getting gigs then he could be using it as a way of showing off and point scoring against you.
On the other hand, he could be just asking innocently and was trying to make conversation.
It sounds to me like you're a bit upset at not having too many gigs to do. You need to put yourself out there a bit more. Offer to do some freebies and see if you're invited back.
Or you could get a paid job and do some gigs in your spare time until you're established.
It's notoriously difficult to make money in the music industry, however talented you are.
2007-10-01 10:07:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath! It is not as bad as that and I have a strange feeling that he might be a bit confused with your reaction - I am sorry to say but you reacted as if you are guilty of something - but most likely it is just cheer frustration at not being able to go further than you have - you will need this friendship to keep you sane in the world of "make or break" music contracts- He probably recognises the skill in you - I have a question - is there anything else that you can do to give yourself exposure so that you get that break?
2007-10-01 10:29:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your music buddy sounds like he is pretty goofy and this is a good time to understand 2 concepts of human nature before you become 'buddies' with fruit flies. 1) Consider the source. If someone makes a habit of insinuating something in a question and giggles because you want clarity than you know he must have been dropped on his head several times during his formative years...2) Some jerks know they are lazy slackers, or losers or dum but since kicking themselves hurts they try driving down the importance of another persons worth. Is he jealous? Bipolar? or just socially ignorant and that social inepitude is reflected in his sence of humor. He is a GOMER!!! I had a friend like that once and when I got tired of her inappropiate comments I wouldn't return her calls and I dropped out of sight. Hint. If you are proud of your musical ability and know you are good, please spare yourself responding to these offensive people... before you loose your temper and smash him over the head with your guitar or violin. Musical instruments are expensive.
2007-10-01 10:12:26 · answer #5 · answered by sliverofmoon2000 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Obviously you wouldn't be working cause you would rather dedicate time to your passion of creating music, instead of working in a regular job and he should know because he was suppose to be interested in making a band with you?
Or..
You found it patronising of him to imply you were lazy for being unemployed, when you're reason for that is you want to dedicate time for your music, of which you take seriously and work hard at when creating. Which rules out laziness, and rules in determination..
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2007-10-01 10:27:59 · answer #6 · answered by Sereniti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound a bit paranoid. the poor guy was only trying to make conversation wasnt he? Lighten up for goodness sake. I shouldnt think he will dare ask you again if thats any consolation :0(
2007-10-01 09:59:11 · answer #7 · answered by dances 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He probably knows you have talent and in his eyes you aren't doing anything with it. There are a lot of "bedroom" or "closet" musicians who are great but they NEVER play in front of anyone. He's goading you into action.
2007-10-01 10:08:23 · answer #8 · answered by Robert C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could have meant 'Why are you not working? I'm surprised someone of your skill isn't making the best use of his talent!' Constructive criticism maybe? Don't be offended. Why aren't you working anyway? :)
2007-10-01 10:01:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like an offhand comment was taken out of all proportion.
were you feeling guilty {giggle}
lighten up a bit
2007-10-01 10:00:33 · answer #10 · answered by Vinni and beer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe...your being a little over sensitive...maybe hethinks your good enough to be on the gig circuit and it was way of encouraging u...ask him again and you never know if u have a common bond..you never know you may be the next take that or mettallica (whatever yr preffered genre is)..take a chill pill....
2007-10-01 10:00:27 · answer #11 · answered by lancashiretasty 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋