2007-10-01 02:34:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't make him happy. He needs to do that for himself. You can be loving, supportive, available to talk, sweet to him, etc, but you can't fix him. I would let him know that you are available to help him...and see what transpires.
2007-10-01 02:40:37 · answer #1 · answered by Dynamic H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you remember the first time that you met him. The things that you both enjoyed doing together. Reflect on these and I am sure you will find your answer. Often times we may think that our love one isn't happy when in truth and in fact we're the ones who ain't happy. It's a way of transferring emotions. We often tend to project what we may feel unto someone else. Take a time out reflect on togetherness you both make up a team. Start from the beginning and remember all that you do keep it simple.
2007-10-01 09:43:27 · answer #2 · answered by natalia i 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happiness comes from within a person... not from other people.. Sure, another person can brighten our day, give us a "lift" by complimenting us, and doing nice things...
I think one thing you could do is reassure your husband you care and love him. You could let him know he seems unhappy and that even though you can't solve his problems, you'd be happy to listen and lend a shoulder if he needs to talk.
Maybe he will?
2007-10-01 09:41:26 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Really. My husband was like this for a while and I kept blaming myself. I finally figured out that he was having a really hard time dealing with the death of his father. He never talked about it. I tried everything. It took a major health scare to snap him out of it. Just be there for him and help him through whatever he's going through. Try to get him to talk(usually harder for men) and reassure him that you are there for him. You might suggest that he get some help if he's not sure how to overcome whatever he's going through. Hope that helps :)
2007-10-01 09:43:02 · answer #4 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe hubby is clinically depressed or just overly burdened with stress and fatigue. Ask him. Tell him he appears so sad and you'd like to help. Maybe he'll open up. Men were raised to keep things bottled up.
2007-10-01 09:48:51 · answer #5 · answered by zen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is ultimately responsible for the own happiness. If you have done all that you can and have tried to meet your husband's needs....then he is choosing to be unhappy and your are not responsible for that.....Don't beat yourself up...it is useless and unrealistic to believe that you are to blame for him being unhappy. Now if you are not being attentive to him and his needs you may owe some responsibility for him not being happy.
2007-10-01 09:47:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Un-Happy with what? You , life home??? Only he can make himself happy, but if your the cause, then you need to ask him what you can do to Help him...
2007-10-01 09:52:55 · answer #7 · answered by happyslysmile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't always please another for satisfaction you must first learn to find within yourself love, respect, and the rest will come when he sees you are happy with yourself
2007-10-01 09:38:42 · answer #8 · answered by danaispeace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thanks goodness you are asking now! I felt the same but didn't know what to do about it and now he's gone!
I'll put a few links below.
And I'm sending up a prayer for you now.
2007-10-01 13:34:09 · answer #9 · answered by believeinlove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How often are you giving him some A...S...S. ?
2007-10-01 09:43:53 · answer #10 · answered by br_wy 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋