I am very worried abouy my boyfriend?

Question

Hi,

I am 23 (Female) and I live with my boyfriend who is 22. I have known him for five years and we are very happy together. I am a nurse and he owns and operates sveral businesses with his father inclduign gyms nightclubs and restaurants. We have very large and close families and always gave lots of people around us.

He works very hard and has a very hectic life style, he is always been called away in the middle of the night to sort something.

This is a link to a photo of him

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Recently I have noticed some changes in him. He gets very upset for no apparant reason, he tells me that he thinks he's ugly..and that he doesnt deserve me. I have also found anti-depressnats amongst his things.

He is also losing weight and not eating as much. He refuses to talk about it and it just causes a row when I bright it up. His father is retiring next year so he will be soly in charge of all the companies...so lots more work for him

Answer 1

Something about this doesn't make much sense. Thats not typical behavior of an indiviaul, thats; ONE been in a deep, geniune relaitonship for more then 4 years. TWO a person thats been in the nightclub, gym, and restruant business doesn't typically run into such insecurities, doesn't make sense at all. UNLESS the boys cheating, no offense, but typically persons who have had a relationship for as long as you guys, PLUS part of a social crowd DO NOT all of a sudden start being insecure about their appeances(Its not unheard of thou, there all body-morphism disorders in which a persons perception is abnormal causing all kinds of disordered perceptions of themselves). CHANCES ARE, If he does, its part of a larger personaligy disorder, in which his inability to truly relate who he IS, is causing him all sorts of conflicts. Are he is bs himself and you, because he can't comment. So ether way seems you guys are suffering from not being able to truly relate your feelings. So your best bet, HONESTLY talk about whats going on, the relaitonship depends on it, as it always has. I'd be carful thou, unless he was shielded by an over-barring father that FORCED him to socialize (and now the sons paying for never being able to spend the time to get comfrontable with HIMSELF to enjoy it), this guys playing games.... all that aside, for the relaitonship to get to this point shows you guys depended to much on love, and not enough on compassion, passion, trust or understanding, the situation shows that.... takes two thou, so your both to blame, but thats what sadness and anger are there for, to drive us to fix that, use it....

Answer 2

properly, a minimum of he's now no longer doing it on the decrease back of your decrease back. i does no longer worry too a lot, yet carry your preserve up. proceed to look at his messages and computer screen what's being reported. this is going to probable be high quality. only confirm that you in worry-free words and your boyfriend have an open and honest courting to the position he feels snug sufficient to allow you to understand inspite of and the coolest purchase it is on his ideas. pay attention, nonetheless, when you think about that chatting with an ex can fireplace up historic thoughts, and reason complications. So, proceed to seem at that.