as a form of self taught emotional protection why would you still be able to be shy
2007-10-01 01:41:44 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
its a natural reflex... you cant control it...
even if you think u dont give a sh!t you body is saying diffrent...
2007-10-01 01:44:25 · answer #1 · answered by stamponants 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because you really do care deep inside so it's just a front.
Like you said it's self taught protection. You are still protecting yourself by being shy because the fact is you probably do give a s _ _ _.
2007-10-01 08:50:58 · answer #2 · answered by bruce 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a thing called 'emotional assertiveness' in which I use at work. This means I like to keep people from entering my boundaries, such as snooping in my personal life. I take very little sh*t from people, but can be shy in new situations. But some people can become too distant as a defense mechanism, such as in the cases of abuse.
2007-10-03 08:58:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has different coping strategies in different situations. In essence, we all have many different "personalities"/ aspects to our personality. People tend to label others as "loud" or "shy" but even shy people can be outspoken and vice versa. Humans are more complex than labels suggest. It's more problematic if you are either one or the other all of the time. Some situations require tact and sensitivity but being meek and mild all of the time won't get you anywhere.
2007-10-01 09:25:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone is born to be shy by nature. Some are a lot more than the other. The babies seemed to cling to their mom or parents more than the other people. As we grew older. Some will try to get out of this norm by show of, have the activities, or talked more with people. Sadly some never could get out of it. They chose to stay in or cape in because a rack of capability reasons.
From my own theory, and still need to be edit.
2007-10-01 09:00:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
When life has made you cover yourself and most often, our hearts in a case of cold, hard, shiney black metal, we seem shy because we don't view our emotions.
Shy has its own stereotype these days - Small, skiny person that would burst into tears at the slightest insult and constantly gives in to peer preasure.
Yet those of us that do not show our feelings are apparently shy. Some of us are, I'm not, I'm an arrogant, confident b!tch, but I keep myself to myself, except when bothered.
I appear shy, but I am not.
So, there ya' go.
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2007-10-01 08:45:52 · answer #6 · answered by L8F20G 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The ability to choose to be shy- is that?
Or, is shyness more like a permanent condition?
There may be some correlation between shyness and hypersensitivity, but I am not aware of its dynamics.
2007-10-01 08:51:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The two don't go hand in hand- I learnt long ago not to give a hoot about anything, and shyness/ embarassment went out of the window with it.
2007-10-01 08:43:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're not 2 mutually exclusive positions on the same spectrum like happy and sad.
2007-10-01 08:48:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to be to sensitive i had to learn not to take things to heart id be kind of shy till i get to know a person
2007-10-01 08:44:52 · answer #10 · answered by angel 36 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a form of selfishness. you're too proud to lose face or look ridiculous because that won't serve your personal interests. but if not for that you'd do anything and not give a d*mn about what everyone else might think.
2007-10-01 08:50:12 · answer #11 · answered by Groggy G 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋