He leaves his dirty socks on the floor, he can't cook, he thinks the house is clean when it's not.....

Question

.....he's generally uncivilized in the home. These are some of the main complaints about men from women. Although as guys, we see these things as quite minor, couldn't guys score a lot of points with this woman by fixing these types of things?

Chefmel, now that's what I'm talkin' about.

Answer 1

Absolutley. As girls, we're taught that pride in our home also shoew pride in ourselves so that's why we want a clean house. If a man doesn't mind picking up the vacuum cleaner or a bottle of windex on occasion to our female minds, it'll kinda feel like he loves us more for trying to make the home nice. If he doesn't mind it dirty, maybe he doesn't respect us as much as he should. It sounds kind of irrational, but that's a woman's mind.

Answer 2

Or both parties could compromise. I've been on the short end of the stick when it comes to whether the house was clean or not (you just have to love mothers) as far as the socks, I know people who simply state if it isn't in the laundry basket it won't get washed.

I think when people start complaining about clothing on the floor or cooking skills, it's more a sign that something else in the relationship is sour, or the person complaining is a nit picking wench.

The cooking could easily be more along the lines of, I do all the bloody cooking and he can't even get off his butt to make some toast than complaining about how he can't cook to save his life.

Answer 3

Yes. The problem is not so much that they don't pick up after themselves, but that *someone* has to. That someone is usually the wife or girlfriend, and it's very disrespectful. Personally? I stopped doing laundry that wasn't in the hamper. It's amazing how quickly the "dirty socks on the floor routine" ended... Hubby and Wife have to try to aim for the same standards of cleanliness, and both can try to keep from creating too much work for the other. Usually, that means the wife lowers her standards a little, the husband raises them, and they meet in the middle. Of course, if the guy is a neat freak but doesn't clean up after himself, that would drive a woman batty. That's basically treating your wife like your servant.

Answer 4

No. He was speaking for himself and guys like him. Men aren't carbon copies of one another...just like women are all different. If I made a statement saying that all women go for guys with money, wouldn't you say that it wasn't true? Those are either bad, selfish or greedy women. The same idea applies to men who think dirty. The reason those guys are that way is because they see women as objects created for their own pleasure. And yes...they do. If they didn't, then they would also think about how much fun women are, their sense of humor, good conversations, friendships with them, etc. Also women aren't all innocent and often are just unaware that the guy that they are talking to is sleazy, a player or is only talking to them in order to get her into bed. That doesn't go for all guys. Some men have real friendships with women, enjoy TALKING to women, like hanging with women, like having discussions with women, like playing (board, card, video) games with women, etc. Guys don't have just one personality or viewpoint. We were all born different, live in different houses, some live in different neighborhoods, have different parents, watch different shows, read different books, etc. So how could we all think the same? If we did, then what would be the point of marriage? I mean, the guy would be thinking sexually of every woman in the room. What would make YOU (his wife / girlfriend) special? Just because he comes home to you every night. LOL. Relationships wouldn't make any sense because there would be no TRUST and the woman would constantly have to keep him on a leash to make sure he didn't stray. That's not love and those types of men don't represent all of us. That guy is speaking for himself and all men like him. Those men speak the loudest often because they've done things in the past that make them feel guilty or because they are like that / have that view of women then all men must also believe the same thing. Also many of those guys have warped / messed up ideas of what it means to be a man. Women aren't innocent...they are human beings. And not all men are going around looking for any woman he can sleep with or take advantage of. Men like that were influenced by the media, magazines, internet, lack of parenting, a good role model in the home, an absent / busy mother or no father in the home to guide him & explain what it means to be a man. I mean...if he thinks all men are like that...what's the point in being his friend since HE is obviously that way. Why are you his friend? Obviously he plans to make a play to get you into bed at the first opportunity. Tell him not to assume that all men share his opinions of women.

Answer 5

I'm a woman and I'm kinda like the description you gave of a man lol. But when the house gets to a certain state I do clean it. I think that men should do half the job too, there is no question about it. I don't do anything unless I want to; very stubborn. I wouldn't want someone else to do something unwillingly either just to get in my good books.

Answer 6

It's interesting to watch everyone define cleanliness by female standards. I clean my home when I consider it a mess. My other half cleans when she considers it a mess. She usually finds herself uncomfortable well before I notice that anything is amiss and so, she usually is the one cleaning. On the other hand, I change the oil in our cars when I think of it and she changes the oil in our cars when she thinks of it. So far, she hasn't thought of it.

We aren't the same - we aren't meant to be the same. Sure, some women complain about men not cleaning the home. Should I complain then about her not changing the oil? Isn't it easier to just take care of the stuff that bugs you and not get all worked up over the fact that it doesn't bug your partner?

Answer 7

They are all quite minor issues, but all added together can make a very big annoying issue!

Personally, I would go for the scoring brownie points approach. You might be surprised at how grateful a contented woman can be :D

Answer 8

Only because home is the kingdom of females.

I suffer this same thing at my home. But alas, my car is often dirtier than my home with my little son’s leftovers, sweets, waste food, lots of long hair on the seat where my wife sits etc. etc. Inside of my car is dirty only because of the females and children using it and not cleaning themselves. AND THEY NEVER COMPLAIN. My friends complain and I either clean it myself or pay for interior cleaning.

Answer 9

The only womem who complain about this are the womem who don't even bother to ask the man. "Could you do me a favor? Could you run the vacuum". All a woman has to do is ask nicely. And don't bother with the argument "A man should know when". You give us too much credit.

Answer 10

If we dissected and analyzed the things that bug both men and women about their spouses the most, I think we'd find that they are very small and easy to rectify - like picking up dirty socks and wiping up spills when they occur. How difficult would it be to have a conversation about our 'biggest pet peeves' with respect to our partner's habits...and then make a conscious effort to fix them? I think we'd see alot happier people - and guys - you'll get more sex from your wives...I guarantee it!