My question kind of different...I am 20 weeks pregnant with our first child...Have an extremely caring and sweet husband
He works very hard, and travels a lot too. I get very little time to spend with him...Living in a joint family too...
Problem is ever since I am pregnant he stays away....Earlier he had a wonderful drive and used to initiate things at least 2-3 times a week...Now it is always I who initiaites "things"..Which is even brushed off gently ...When I confronted him...He says he is afraid he will hurt the baby...I love him for his concern....But I also ache to have him hug me and cuddle me...How do I convince him?
Funnily enuf my desires are on an all time high LOL! My pregnancy is normal (touch wood ) ..Dr has not given any stay away warnings....I dont think it is wrong...Besides if I was uncomfortable I wud definitely tell him so....Please guys I am not trying to sound desperate....But atleast cuddling kissing and caressing would be welcome at this point ...Help !
2007-09-30 23:58:45 · 4 answers · asked by febdue 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
this is a completely normal feeling for men they all have this worry that they may harm are hurt the baby but there is no real need to worry try reassuring him and if that still does not work then i agree with the others have him speak to your doc or midwife that way hes getting the right info from a professional
good luck
2007-10-01 00:15:21 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ mum of 4 ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have him talk to your doctor! I know it can be embarrassing, but sometimes talking with a medical professional can set a new father's fears at ease. You aren't sounding desperate, so don't worry about that, but your husband is probably afraid that if he kisses and hugs with you, it will lead to other things and then he will have to stop because he's so nervous, or perhaps he's afraid he won't be able to perform because of his fear of hurting the baby.
2007-10-01 00:07:07 · answer #2 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have him go to your prentatel appt.s with you or at least one so that the doctor can explain to him that the baby is safetly inside tucked away and he can't hurt it.
2007-10-01 00:03:34 · answer #3 · answered by Vada83 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he ain't getting it from you he is getting it from some place else. Sounds like he is cheating.
2007-10-01 03:58:14 · answer #4 · answered by Corey D. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋