My Girl friend is 22 years old and her mum is strcitly against our affair.
She is making life hell for us. Can i take legal action since my girl is an adult
2007-09-30 23:38:27 · 12 answers · asked by lincolnveto 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
No, you can't take any legal action against your girlfriend's mother because she is either morally against premarital affairs in general or you, in particular. It is a moral issue; not a legal one. No one above legal age, unless they are mentally and/or physically handicapped, can be in an abusive situation with anyone, unless they allow it. Don't get in between this girl and her mother; let them sort it out.
2007-09-30 23:48:15 · answer #1 · answered by claudiacake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 22 she is no longer legally considered a child. As a full grown adult, she can do as she pleases, regardless of what her mother says or does. However, as an adult it is your lady who must deal with her mother. She has to chose whether to honor her mother's wishes, or to forsake her and make her life with you.
All you can do is talk to your lady and let her know how you feel about the situation. You might want to tell her she needs to do take a stand and make a desicion: stay with mum, or come live with you.
The only way you would have any legal leverage, is if you and your lady were married. Then, as her husband, you could insist she lives with you. Then, you might be able to ask a court to step in and help mediate the issue.
Disclaimer: I am not a member of the legal community, and as such have no legal ground on which to render legal advice. Herein I merely offer information to suggest options you may be able to look into.
I highly recommend you check with your local legal establishment and find out what actual rights you may have, and how to proceed for the most beneficial outcome of your situation.
2007-10-01 07:22:07 · answer #2 · answered by John Silver 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the age of 22, your girlfriend's mother will abuse her and hurt her as long as the girl allows it. If your GF does not like what her mother is doing to her or how she is being treated then she does not have to be around her mother. Like you said..she is an adult right?? then she should tell her mother to shut up and stay out of her life. I know that there is more than one side to every story and maybe your GF is over-reacting to her mother's concerns. It is only natural that her mother is worried about her and doesn't want her to get hurt. If that is the case then a gentle but firm (and respectful) talk with her should help to allay her fears...if in the end it is simply that the mum is just a rotten old cow then I would just tell her to mind her own business.
2007-10-01 06:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by dances with cats 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a person can be abused at any age, but over 18, it's not child abuse. tell your girlfriend to get a place of her own. you can't take legal action against the mom. her daughter is an adult, and it's up to her to stand up for your relationship. and unless she is cheating on a boyfriend, it's not an affair. sounds like your girlfriend needs a spine. if she loves you, she'll talk to her mom.
2007-10-01 06:44:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you can not take legal action against your girlfriend's mother. If your gilrfriend is living under her mother's roof she must comply with her mother's rules. Your girlfriend is an adult if she wants to live by her own rules she will have to get her own place and start paying her own bills to do so. However even if she gets her own place she will have to comply with the landlord's rules. Sounds like the both of you are extremely immature, no wonder her mother is against your "affair", neither one of you are old enough for it.
2007-10-01 14:47:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abuse can happen to anyone at any age, but being a pain in the A** doesn't qualify. Abuse is physical, or emotional (excessive name calling, put downs etc). You may not like her Mom disapproving and being vocal, but that, in itself, does not make it 'abuse'. No, you can't sue her- at most your girlfriend could get a restraining order out against her, but if there's been no threat or actual physical violence, it's pointless and won't work.
2007-10-01 07:00:42 · answer #6 · answered by magy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a grown women now.She can do what she wants.If she still lives at home,she needs to grow up and move out.If not,she still needs to respect the rules of the house.If she lives outside the house then she needs to read the book Borders and put her mom in check or not talk to her at all to keep piece in her life.Good luck.
2007-10-01 06:46:50 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
parents cannot abuse at all
they can physically discipline minors under 18
but at age 22 she is an adult and can press charges against her mom
YOU cannot take action. SHE has to file a complaint...
or move in with you.
2007-10-01 07:44:21 · answer #8 · answered by Mimi 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Has she thought about moving out? Is she doing anything violent towards your girlfriend? If she is being violent that is considered domestic violence, and she can be arrested for it yes. If she's being more "I don't like your boyfriend, he sucks" there isn't much you can do about that other then to ignore her.
2007-10-01 06:55:59 · answer #9 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did I miss something? You only described disapproval, not abuse.
How is she "making life hell" for you?
2007-10-02 18:17:48 · answer #10 · answered by Wayner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋