He locked me in the house,closed my yahoo account(I think I forgot to sign out),took my cellphone etc, because I was honest enough to tell him I had cheated on him.
2007-09-30 23:07:32 · 16 answers · asked by adasnameismalika 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is against the law to lock anyone inside the house. I do not condone cheating but locking you in the house is against the law and he could go to jail for "imprisonment". Get out why you can in one piece.
BTW: If he locked you out of Yahoo how'd you post this?
2007-09-30 23:14:29 · answer #1 · answered by newtooocala 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well I think it's all more complicated than what you've revealed. You've got all the legal answers you need but I don't think that's what you're asking. What are your feelings for him - truthfully? Did you feel abused or just angry when locked in the house? What happened next? Did you think that being 'honest enough' to tell him would soften the blow? He's obviously very angry - who wouldn't be? I did the same to a good man and got smacked but didn't actually feel it was abuse - just his hurt feelings with no other way to express them. He loved me. How do you both propose to lead your relationship from now on? Are there children involved? Please for their sake, keep this out of their way. These crises are often there to make us question what we're doing and what we want to do. Think hard and long and be as brutally honest with yourself as you've been with your husband.
2007-10-01 06:37:22 · answer #2 · answered by Boudicca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABUSIVE? Surely you jest.
When confronted with your "honesty " that you were banging someone else you were fortunate that he did not give you a sound beating. Now that's abuse.
Locking you in your room and taking away your cell phone (which he likely pays for) were minor compared to the truly physical abuse that he was able to resist.
BTW your honesty is not the virtue you want to think it is.
there is nothing quite so despicable as infidelity and no amount of confession softens that.
2007-10-01 07:44:43 · answer #3 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is abuse, there are different types of abuse, mental and physical. But on a legal point I dont think you have a leg to stand on as he didnt lay a hand on you. The way I see it is live this way till you have earned back the trust or get the hell out.
2007-10-01 06:21:10 · answer #4 · answered by kyleemckenzie 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If he locked you in the house, and you were not willing and unable to get out, that's false imprisonment, and a crime. Taking the phone without your permission is theft.
Closing your Yahoo account, is stupid.
All in all, if you can prove this, you can get him arrested. And could certainly get a restraining order to protect yourself.
But girl - DON'T CHEAT. It doesn't excuse his behavior at all, but you were not being fair.
2007-10-01 06:20:28 · answer #5 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You prob should get counseling cause that not the way to handle the situation you guys need help from a professional and yes that is abuse but i dont know what you did to make him get that way or maybe hes the crazy one i dont know
2007-10-01 06:28:34 · answer #6 · answered by CHRISTINA L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you confessed, there was nothing that ran through your mind as to how he would react. Now that you've opened pandora's box, it's going to get worse. You should have been prepared to move out when you became so honest.
2007-10-01 07:07:01 · answer #7 · answered by peggy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mental abuse hurts just as badly as physical abuse. Trust me get OUT! If you cheated on him then why continue to stay anyway?
2007-10-01 06:19:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anji 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
it is abuse, psychological/emotional. obviously he didnt appreciate being cheated on but then he could of just put an end to the relationship. if he chose to stay with you then he needs to get over it, if not, he should leave. things like this can be very complicated though......
2007-10-01 06:19:32 · answer #9 · answered by MeGaN 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He could have thrown you outa the house but he should be glad you came clean.Legally speaking you both need a lawyer soon
2007-10-01 07:09:21 · answer #10 · answered by ajal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋