Am married for 3 years now , but my husband doesnt spend time with me , he is not busy at work , he is always at his family he remeber he has wife when he needs to have ...........
so i need some attention in my life , love ,
2007-09-30 22:42:56 · 20 answers · asked by ZED 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have you tried talking to him, maybe he secretly thinks the same way, but your to much of a lady to even think about adultery, don't be to Hastie, try too talk fist then take it from there. I do hope you resolve this
Regards
Ryan Dior
2007-09-30 22:48:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If by 'relationship' you mean having an affair with someone else, then No it is not ok. Cheating is reprehensible and will just make matters worse.
You have two options:- End the marriage, or work on improving the situation. You need to talk to your husband and tell him you are unhappy, and suggest you both go for Marriage Guidance Counselling. If he won't acknowledge there is a problem, maybe saying you want a divorce would wake him up!
2007-10-01 07:37:43 · answer #2 · answered by * Xanthippe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak with your husband about the whole situation and tell him how you feel. Both of you need to discuss openly what the 2 of you expect from each other. And if does not work for you, then leave him.
'Coz if you start having a relatioship with someone else (without telling your husband) all you will get is more trouble in your life. I believe it is better to move on in life if things do not work between a couple.
You are the better judge of what you want. Just think before you take the next step - 'coz it will be a life changing one. Don't put yourself into a situation where at a later point you regret your own decision.
Good luck to you!
2007-10-01 05:50:47 · answer #3 · answered by Billy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Talk with him and tel him you need more attention. if you two can't fix the problem on your own, go to marriage counseling and get the tools you need to make your marriage a happy, healthy and satisfying one.
You've committed to this relationship, and relationships take work. Don't look for an easy way out before you've exhausted all of the possible ways to make you marriage good and strong and fun!
2007-10-01 05:53:18 · answer #4 · answered by Greenman 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no it's not ok
what you should do is get your husband's attention , tell him all what you have bottled up ,tell him you need him and he has to spend time with you, even if it annoys him it will be less than the reaction he would get if he found out you cheated on him
you only appreciate what you got if you lost it , by then it's too late
sit down with your husband, see a therapist if you need
have you got hobbies/ friends ( girls) you can meet with who are sensible to keep yourself busy when your husband's not around?
2007-10-01 05:49:23 · answer #5 · answered by sweet tooth 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to talk to him and tell him how you feel. If you are talking about a sexual relationship with someone else then no it is not ok. It is cheating and will only end in heartache. If the marriage is not working then you need to communicate with your husband and if that does no good then maybe it is time to move on.
2007-10-01 05:46:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is not fare with ur husband if u have relation with someone else. Try to make him realize about this. If u will have some one else except ur husband then u will feel disturbance in ur family life. or otherwise if u find some better loving and sincere person then u leave ur husband and get marry with him.
2007-10-01 06:12:40 · answer #7 · answered by Calculator 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't throw away your marriage over an affair, that's just cheap and nasty. Ask him what his problem is why he can't find the time to spend with you. Tell him what you have told us that you want some attention, affection and love from him.
2007-10-01 05:49:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you tried sitting him down and talking to him about your feelings? Tell him how you ARE his family and he needs to spend time with you too. Cheating is cheating, whether or not you think you are neglected, nobody is driving you to cheat, it's a decision you make on your own.
2007-10-01 06:34:13 · answer #9 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Propose seperation from him.
Tell him that you are looking out for options so he also knows that he's off the leash as well.
Make a clean break.
Don't mess it up with deceit and cheating.
It will spiral out of control and wreck things big-time.
Eventually, you two might divorce.
But consider things jointly.
2007-10-01 05:52:36 · answer #10 · answered by Adarsh G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋