2007-09-30 22:41:33 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I loved a guy, who also love me very much and i assumed him to be my world. Infact he proposed me but i said no intially but he made to love him.But later on he told me that he cannot marry me bcoz our horoscope doesn't match and his parents are not agreeing. He thought about all people who will think what if he gets married to me for e.g his mom, dad, sister, cousins, other relatives, but didnt think even atleast one time that what will be my condition. He keeps on cribbing that he should have checked all these before proposing me and he feels that he cheated on me. During our relationship he was unable to give me much time, and i never complained regarding anything to him. I have gave him lot of love, respect, care, and ontimes i have helped him with money also but i feel that this all had no value in front of my horoscope. It is very paining for me to leave him. I cannot live without him. I dont what do to? If we are not for each other then why do god made us to meet?
2007-09-30 23:33:54 · update #1
Yes, it really hurts when the one you love and want to marry no longer wants to be with you. Sometimes the love and hurt can blind us so much that we are unable to see the situation clearly.
You have written: he himself says that he cheated on you and he regrets not having the horoscopes compared before starting an affair with you. A man who did not care about you would NOT say such things to you.
From the way he is behaving in this difficult situation... it seems that he is really torn between his love for you and his love for his parents.
Please try to see things from his shoes. Why do you love him? Doesn't he have good qualities which you really admire? Isn't he a man who deeply love his parents? Think about it.... he has known his parents since his birth. They have loved him and made many unmeasurable sacrifices to raise him. So how strongly do you think that he loves his parents?
He must really love you as well. After all he did want to marry you and went to his parents to get their blessings. The problem with horoscopes is a situation he must not have expected.
There are people in our culture who deeply believe in horoscopes. They believe if two people with incompatible horoscopes get married.. their lives will be ruined forever.
His parents must be fearful of your marriage to him because they do not want anything bad to happen to their son. Would you allow something terrible to happen to him? Of course not.. because you love him.. just like his parents.
Without their blessings, he is unable to continue the relationship with you. This is a very cruel situation for both of you. Unfortunately life is like this sometimes.. There is no one to really blame because everyone is acting out of love.
Even though you are deeply hurt and you do not believe in horoscopes... you have to open your eyes and see the situation from his side. He loves his parents too much to hurt them and his parents are unlikely to change their deep rooted beliefs in horoscopes. However, this does not mean that he intentionally cheated on your love.
Let your heart see how much he loves you from the way he is now regretting the relationship and what he did to you. His love for you may be muted by the love for his parents. The only thing is .. you have to let him go if that is what he needs to do.
You can ask him whether there is any chance of convincing his parents that you are the right one for him.. but most likely they won't look beyond the horoscopes. If you can handle it.. you can continue to be a good friend to him and perhaps give his parents a chance to get to know you as a family friend. However, there is no guarantee that they will ever overcome their belief in horoscopes.
Believing that he intentionally cheated on you.. only makes your situation more hurtful. If you can see it from his shoes and accept the concern he still has for you... then may be you can find a way to move on with your life... without feeling like a woman who was cheated on by her love.
May life treat you kindly in the future...
2007-10-02 02:12:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men do, there are a lot of them who don't.
There are a lot of good men who are being treated badly by their female partners too and vice versa.
The way I see it is this - marriage is for life whether it's 5 years or 60 years.
I'll say this though, if one thinks that after a few years, one is going to get fed up of seeing the same person day after day,after day.........don't get married.
Another question that bugs me is:
Why women who cheat on their husbands are called horrible names [some names too rude to mention on here], but men who cheat on their wives they never get called anything ,sometimes even laughed at as if it's a joke or normal?.
2007-09-30 22:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by xyz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all not only men cheat their partners.Women do too...
They do it because some of them just concentrate how long they will live in this world.
If the man is 25 years old.He believes that he will stay in the world 50 years and die when he is 75.So he say that "Why I will be loyal and refuse to taste other delights in the world?? I don't want to die with out any experiences and I don't want to say "I wish" ".And they cheat their partners...The just think theirselves...
That's it...I mean this is my idea...
2007-09-30 22:48:00 · answer #3 · answered by TURKISH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please look around women are becoming the front runners.My point is that infidelity is now gradually becoming the accepted norm for the society. People are becoming more self centered in their relations. My needs first concept is catching. It is sad. If u r in such state either get out of it or if have no option than just merely accept it and live with it
2007-09-30 23:39:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men cheat women and don't care about their feelings, emotions, love and respect is not universal truth.Your man might have been one who cheated you, didn't care bout your feelings, emotions and love but that doesn't give you freedom to put all men in the same category.
2007-09-30 23:27:47 · answer #5 · answered by nazbak 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey now, Easy!!!! A lot of guys out there (including me) don't cheat...I have been cheated on twice in my life and it hurts all the same. Guys and girls are the same. you just have to find the right one. Some girls suck just like some guys suck. once you find the right one, you are happy, but, please don't sit there and say "why do men" as if all of us do. I promise, you keep your head up and you will find a good guy. There are plenty of them out there. The fact that you wrote this question proves that you deserve a good guy. Keep looking. he will come....hang in there!!!
2007-09-30 22:46:22 · answer #6 · answered by RB luv 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, It's not only men. Their are plenty of woman that couldn't give a hoot about man's feelings. And just as much cheat on them.
2007-09-30 22:45:30 · answer #7 · answered by Is it can be hugs tiem now? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really can't generalize.
Men/ women are very varied.
Find the right kind for yourself.
You probably drive men away because of your generalizations anyway.
Get smarter. Honest advice.
2007-09-30 22:45:49 · answer #8 · answered by Adarsh G 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ya men do cheat women, but not all of them. Even women cheats men, not all womens here also... what i belive is...
Scn I
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A = Male (Not at all serious about love)
B = Female (Searching for true love)
Now what happens A meets B, then the relationship will grow... one day "A" will be ditching "B" for some stupid reason.
Now B will no longer belive in love except its just an timepass.
Scn II
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B = Female (Not at all serious about love coz of her last relationship)
C = Male (Searching for true love)
Same as above B will meet C, then then relationship will grow.. one day "B" will be ditching "C" for some stupid reason or whatever.
Now C will no longer belive in love except its just an timepass.
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This chain is growing very fast.. donno what will happen... ;)..well i belive every guy/girl who loves to have fun in the name of love had a bad experience in their past.
2007-09-30 23:01:27 · answer #9 · answered by bl_ue_unicorn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not like that....its other way round also....u r girl...that y saying like this....other wise boys can also frame such question....that y women cheat....and i have seen many examples where girl cheated a guy.....it is just may be happened to u....or ur close one....but doesnt mean blaming boys like this....
i hope u understand
2007-09-30 22:45:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋