How do you handle this situation?
2007-09-30 22:19:29 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I would have a full family discussion about the event with the two kids me and the mom/other parent. A serious birds and the bee's talk with both along with the hazards associated with the act of sex. Then it's punishment time.
2007-09-30 22:29:12 · answer #1 · answered by aswkingfish 5 · 12⤊ 0⤋
If the girl has started menustrating you really need to have a serious talk with her. Let the father or a male figure talk with the boy. They are probably wondering about sex and how it feels.In some peoples eyes it may be incest but they obviously trust each other or maybe one is abusing the other. Either way I would talk with them and explain pregnancy and get the girl on birth control and show the boy how to use a condomn, Explain masturbation to them and let them explore that option own there own not together. Counseling would be my last resort because social services would be contacted then a whole bunch of questions of the parents and accusations. A little more supervision may be neccesary for a while.
2007-09-30 22:37:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-17 23:07:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have a very long disscusion with both the children explaining all the details, and why its wrong what they done. make sure there fully aware of everything, if the girl hasnt got her period yet she should be soon & you dont want another baby in the family do you.
& maybe not leave them alone for long enough to get themself's into that mess.
2007-10-01 00:10:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
You need to seperate BOTH children, and they should be prohibited from entering each other's rooms- PERIOD !!! Then you and the children's father need to sit down with them and a have a serious discussion about sex and relationships- indeed, you should have had this conversation a number of years ago. These kids are curious about sex, which is normal at their ages, but they need to be shown and told in no uncertain terms that what they were doing is very wrong and can get them in a LOT of trouble, both from the point of view of pregnancy and also LEGALLY if word of what they did gets to the right ears. This is incest, and it's also considered to be sexual abuse, particularly for your son. HE can wind up in jail and having to register as a sex offender if he isn't stopped from doing this again.
Apart from this, both these children need to be in therapy with a trained mental health professional- that much is obvious. Most girls your daughter's age are normally mortified at the idea of doing something like kissing or touching their brothers in a sexual way. That your daughter doesn't seem to have the instinctive taboo against incestuous behavior is cause for real concern, because clearly, something is wrong there. Could she have been abused at some point in early life? Boys typically have a similar instinct- they also are repulsed by the idea of messing with their sisters, or of having anyone else do this either. It puzzles me that your son apparently lacks this as well.
Now, I know that this may also just be a case of kids exploring their own sexuality by imitating behavior that they have seen somewhere ( could they by chance have seen you and their father making love at some point- possibly without your knowledge,and decided to imitate you to see what it is like? )or out of curiosity, especially since your kids are a year apart in age, and girls mature more quickly than boys do, as a rule. But the fact that they were naked and in bed together tells me that it's likely that they probably saw this happen more than once ( like in the movies or on TV, or even on the internet) and have decided to try it themselves. Either way, they need to be told and shown that it's wrong, and prohibited from doing this again, or even attempting to do it again. BTW, this was no "accident" as you call it. These kids WANTED to be caught, or they would have made a greater effort to keep you from knowing what they were up to. It may also be that this is an attempt at rebellion against something you have said or done, or a rule or restriction they don't like. In any event, I hope you can get them some help, and keep them seperated, because otherwise, you will have to deal with an unexpected, unwanted, unwelcome grandchild if you don't. You and your husband also need to examine your OWN lives and relationship. Good luck.
2007-10-01 02:30:08 · answer #5 · answered by Starlight 1 7 · 7⤊ 3⤋
Tell them to get out of bed, put on some clothes, get in the car, and drive them to the nearest psychologist.
2007-10-01 04:05:10 · answer #6 · answered by Corey D. 6 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like it's time for a long talk
2007-10-01 03:03:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
WHAT?!?!?
what the hell do u let them watch on tv?
u need to sit them down and tell them its wrong for brothers and sisters to be naked in bed together doing who knows what!?!?!? u know they r old enough to KNOW that this kind of stuff is wrong. its not like they r 3 yr olds.
2007-09-30 22:24:30 · answer #8 · answered by M S 2 · 15⤊ 1⤋
this is a situation for a professional! those kids obviously have some veryyyy serious issues that need to be discussed. and i wouldnt just seperate their rooms, i would send one kid to a grandparents house or soemthing so they are FAR away from eachother because that is just weird
2007-10-01 04:02:45 · answer #9 · answered by thischick 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Get the kids some help. They are experiencing inappropriate sexual feelings for each other and need counseling to sort themselves out.
2007-09-30 22:23:23 · answer #10 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 15⤊ 1⤋