For all ladies in relationships-
I need to prove to my husband that I am not the only woman on this planet who feels this way and so I would like others comments.
How would you feel if your husband/partner was living away from home; wining and dining with other women; taking them out; sightseeing; letting them lodge in his flat?
What would you do if your husband said it was all just 'innocent' when everyone around you is raising their eyebrows and wagging their tongues?
What would you think was going on? What would any normal, half decent human being think was going on?
Your comments, suggestions and experiences would be most grateful so I can prove that I am not the only cynical and frustrated wife out there.
2007-09-30 22:04:21 · 22 answers · asked by missylassie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't need to be "cynical" to see that there is likely cheating going on.
Does he do this for his job? If so, then he needs to find a new one. Cheating doesn't just mean having sex. It involves so many things and all of them keep one from their spouse.
I'm in a divorce process because of the relationship that "just happened" between my husband and my replacement.
In the beginning the time he spent with her was "just for work" and then they were "just friends".
Then came the call to me from her significant other to inform me that he found them in bed together.
I wasn't cynical...just stupid. I guess I should have known and maybe I did know but I didn't want to believe it, but whatever the case...I can understand why people are raising their eyebrows to your husbands behavior. It isn't appropriate to show that type of attention to other women without your spouse present.
Don't let it sneak up on you like it did me.
2007-10-01 00:10:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not like it at all, first of all, why is your husband living away from home? I would be there with him, especially if I knew he had this open door policy towards other women.
I would not believe him, he is not innocent, he is having affiars, I would divorce him, if you are hearing things, I would confront him, and then file for a divorce, I would not be living like this if I were you, he sounds like a dirty dog to me.
What is going on is that he is having his own harem over there, and I would divorce him. He is having other women, why in the world are you putting up with this??
My comment, get a divorce, my suggestion, getting a divorce, and my experience, I dated a guy like that, and he did the same stuff, and I just let him go!!!!!!
2007-09-30 22:59:01 · answer #2 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am not a woman but I would think the same thing the others are.
1. You are not wise to allow this, (you're a sucker)
2. If he has not already, he will soon make "THE" Move.
3. The worst thing is that I would think that even if nothing is happening (yet), he has no respect for your feelings, or what others might think of you "the fool"
Number 3 to me is the worst, "He just doesn't care about your feelings or making you look like a fool".
2007-09-30 22:23:39 · answer #3 · answered by Stupid Me 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How wonderful it is to have some perspective, dear. After constantly asking yourself what direction your life is going, doesn't it feel great to finally feel as if you know? How very wise you are! Yet all this recent wisdom is exhausting. You feel as though you've made a long trip up to the mountaintop to speak with the learned wise person at the top. Now that you're back down in civilization, it's time to find a soft bed and relax for a bit.
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2007-10-02 08:09:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This behaviour is totally unacceptable! He is married and should not be entertaining any women! He is living two separate lives and you are letting him. Give him an ultimatum, either he starts acting like a married man or you separate. Can he not get a job closer to home so that he comes home every night? I would wash my hands of him if he is unwilling to change, he is behaving like a bachelor and he isn't. He is getting the best of both worlds here, wife at home when he wants one and women on his arm when he works away, what a man slag he is.
2007-09-30 22:36:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
i Think He Would Be Cheatiin And i Won't Trust Him Properlii
If He Loved You He Wouldnt Treat Other Women This Way The Way He Should Treat You
If He Doesnt Understand How You Then Is It Worth Specially Since Since He Lives Away From You?
2007-09-30 22:34:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband didnt work away and didnt wine and dine other women but he still managed to cheat on me for 9 months, and i trusted him like u wouldnt beleive. So sorry hun need i say anymore? Good luck u know the score
2007-09-30 23:57:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im assuming this is for work, and no its not so innocent, and as a married man he should insist the client get a hotel or he gets a hotel and the client stay in the flat till business with them is over... and Im sure this would be ok with his boss.....
2007-09-30 22:22:00 · answer #8 · answered by Renee 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If it's work-related, and he's so open and up-front about it, there really isn't anything going on. It's when they get secretive that you need to be worried about what it is they are trying to hide.
If you're in doubt, why don't you just show up at the flat unannounced, and see what he's up to? You do have a key of your own, don't you?
2007-09-30 22:53:49 · answer #9 · answered by Orla C 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
most women wouldn,t put up with it why do you have you no self respect letting him treat you like an idiot i would get him told he wants his cake and eat it he should be wining and dining you or find a decent man who will treat you with respect
2007-10-01 13:18:10 · answer #10 · answered by margaret d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋