My best friend travels a lot to Morocco, he met an 18 years old beautiful girl at a local club. She was making money in exchange for sex(prostitution). They were dating for 2 years, she stoped prostituting and they are very much in love. He had decided to mary her and bring to the states where they can start a family. He told me that he loves her and most importyantly saving her from a rough and hard life of prostitution. What is your opinion???
2007-09-30 20:15:19 · 25 answers · asked by lucky_not 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
More details; The girl comes from a poor family and she was supporting her family. When he met her she tyold she just started going out for 6 months. He has supported her financialy.
2007-09-30 21:19:43 · update #1
I say good luck to them and she has a right to a normal life style and nobody else has the right to judge their decision and you should be as supportive and helpful towards him and his bride to be as you can be , because thats what a true friendship is about.
2007-09-30 20:56:54 · answer #1 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First off..... Hey "man or woman"...... you gotta be a woman. If your not then you are a guy who really got hit hard by a woman and are still very mad about it. Not saying that disrespectfully........ seriously Im not. You just sound like me when I found out that my X was cheating. LOL Very blunt and pesimistic about the whole relationship thing in general.
Back to the question or opinion part about this story. Its true that people who do not respect themselves have a hard time loving someone else because they cannot fully do that. You have to respect yourself before you can fully give yourself unselfishly to somebody else. Hard to explain, long story to do so, but its a psychological fact and very much proven. However, and this is important, if it is true that in fact she has taken a personal decission to change her life, has found herself a much better person and has taken that step to live a better life for herself FIRST and secondly for him..... then this could very well end up a nice ending to a very bad begining. What I am trying to say is that if she changed only for him then she has what is called a dependant stand point in this relationship and her dedication to changing her life is directly related to the eleation and interest in the begining of a relationship (the ohhh, ahhh, Im in love part). The problem with doing it primarily for him is that when the sparks even out to every day living.... that part of her that said that its ok to completely sell out your body for cash money is still there. Im not saying that she would be a hooker again. Im saying that her dedication to following a much better life wouldnt be as solid as it should be. She needs that in order to move forward. If she doesnt....... then she is a dependant person. (Incidently dependant people can be flamming, horrible cheaters and leave on a whim) He on the other hand, I have to say, has a hard trip ahead. Most men have alot of trouble with being involved with relationships in which the female has been with someone else while the relationship was still going (men have a harder time than women with infidelity etc). To completely forget that a woman that you are married too is known on a very personal level (to be polite) by hundreds of other men who frequented Morocco will be very hard to do and a tough, tough thing to forget completely. I often times have wondered how anyone could have a serious relationship with a porn star. If he can overcome that and she is changing her view of what is acceptable for the right reasons....... then it is quite possible it may work. But both have to be present.
2007-09-30 20:47:55 · answer #2 · answered by Kerrick C 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hopefully it will all work out for the best. Many young girls in third world countries are sold for prostitution to support their families. They don't want to do it and your friend has saved her from a horrible life. As long as he is fully aware of what he is getting himself into, there is nothing here to have an opinion on. You need to stay out of it and wish your friend the best of luck.
2007-10-08 13:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fine, but I doubt it will work out. Gotta love that though, it's every man's dream to be a knight in shining armor saving some poor woman in distress! (That comes from traditional sentiments about the sexes. Culturally we are still evolving away from these sexist ideas of chivalry, but men are still learning these ways and then decide this is a good idea as if love is a charity for women.)
2007-09-30 20:22:44 · answer #4 · answered by some female 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some people have to do terrible things to keep their family, prostitution is one of the oldest trades and she is not the first or last person to sell her body to feed her family. If he loves her and she has now stopped prostitution then why should she not be allowed to lead a normal life now? I wish them good luck.
2007-09-30 23:16:04 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just love how everyone is so negative! (NOT) Love can do powerful things and change lives. When did everyone become so cynical? Go ahead cast the first stone. You'll pay for it later I'm sure. I say good luck to them. If they are both happy and love each other then whats the problem?
2007-10-08 08:22:28 · answer #6 · answered by natasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my honest opinion, anyone who is in love with a foreign national should have to be married to the foreign national and live in their country for 2 years and stay together before bringing any foreign national to this country to live. I think that would seriously cut down the number of internet brides and grooms who marry to come to America.
2007-10-07 23:05:43 · answer #7 · answered by pitmanette 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The dude is not thinking straight, that's for sure... first of all, I would never believe a woman who sold her body was capable of understanding or feeling true LOVE. Love comes from inside a person, it is a learned feeling, and you have to have it for yourself before you can give it to someone else. How can a hooker possibly justify giving up the money for just one man when they see 10-20 a day!? What would make ANY man special to them??
The special man would be very gullible, lonely, single, and live in the USA!!!
Things might be great after he brings her here for a year or two - then she will leave him for a richer guy. But it doesn't matter anyway, he will not listen to anyone who disagrees with his plan - poor guy.
2007-09-30 20:27:26 · answer #8 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
well, you can never judge a person by the kind of job she has. We cannot blame those people who were born less fortunate and does not have a lot of choices in life to make their lives moving and living as much as possible. I believe that everybody deserves a chance. If she already quit her job for the sake of their love I think that is something, especially if that's the only job she knows. I mean, what about her financial needs? If he loves her, just give her a chance and hold on to their love.
2007-09-30 20:26:42 · answer #9 · answered by May 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Take the friend a bag of ice and have him sit on it. Then tell him when his brains cool down then he needs to do some real thinking. People don't marry to save someone. This just reeks of a really really bad decision. Save this friend, tell him how you feel and if he does go throught with it, you did what you could.
2007-10-06 15:23:34 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋