My wife wants a divorce. i don't. She is unwilling to work things out. We have been married for 3 years and together for 6. She says she does not feel the same way about me as she used to. We have an 18 month old son. How do i let her go?
2007-09-30 18:07:37 · 9 answers · asked by bingobrozz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Look as long as she is wanting to let you go there is nothing you can do to keep her. I would tell her that if it is what she wants that you will let her go but let her do all the filling of the divorce papers and all the work. Make sure you tell ask her if she has someone and make sure you ask her to tell you the truth. I hope it is not because you have been mean and rude to her that she had to look else where for that love and now you realize you were wrong. But if that is not the case and you have been the great husband that you should be then, let her go and one day she will realize that you were a great husband but if you have not been she will be happy to get out.
2007-09-30 18:20:36 · answer #1 · answered by LittleDaisy. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to marriage counseling, ask her to come with you. Explain you want to learn how to make the divorce as smooth and painless as possible, and this will give you both the tools to do so. It will help with custody issues, since you will both learn to negotiate and compromise and do what best for your son.
Along the way you and she may find you have more going than you thought, but at least if she still wants divorce you can remain friends and partners.
IF she refuses to go, go by yourself, and get those tools for your son's sake.
2007-10-01 02:30:57 · answer #2 · answered by Greenman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what changed between then and now. She used to love you, and now she thinks she doesn't. Maybe there have been some things that have happened that she doesn't WANT to love you anymore. I would sit down, and ask her what happened, and then just listen. Women like talking to men who just shut their mouths and look them in the eye, and just listen. We're not looking for answers, she doesn't want to argue. Promise her you'll just listen to whatever she has to say. Tell her to be brutally honest, nothing she can say can hurt worse than saying she wants a divorce. She'll unload on you, and you'll probably get more than you bargained for. When she's done, just say thanks for talking with me, and leave. Then go and digest what she told you. Maybe she has valid points, maybe you can change some of the things she said, and maybe you can't. But at least you'll know.
2007-10-01 01:15:20 · answer #3 · answered by hrcarr 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you feel that there're nothing you have done wrong to make her feel this way toward you, then keep your head high let her go you cannot make someone stay and love you if theey dont, there is definitely a problem, as yourself why, it seem to me that she is maybe fallen for someone else or up to no good
2007-10-01 01:40:16 · answer #4 · answered by paoddow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that this is happening to you. I ask myself what would I do if it was me. Therefore, please don't get upset with me. I just want to be truthful to you, but first please allow me to make this statement to you.
When someone heart has fail the love for you. You don't want to be with someone who's does not ache the love for you. There's no way you can make her happy. Since you can not do that then she going cause you to be unhappy. You want to be someone who's going shower you with plenty love and affection. One more issue you need think about. She already express her dislike of the marriage.
Therefore, you have been warned. This will give her the opportunity to have affairs behind your back. You must ask yourself can you deal with the idea of someone making love to her?
If I where you. I tell her to go, but I'm going to have sole legal rights to our son. I give you permission to visit of him course. I get the house and 50% of our joint money.
I pray your not mad at me...God bless
2007-10-01 01:43:52 · answer #5 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are right to try to keep your family together. Fight the divorce if you don't want it, and get into marital counseling.
2007-10-01 01:12:11 · answer #6 · answered by trbessie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry for what you going throught, but you cant make some
love you when they dont. if she does not want to work it out
then all you can do is move on.trust me in time it will work
itself out for everyone. but for know. time to let go and move
forward for your child as well as your self.
2007-10-01 01:24:00 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no point holding her back if she doesn't love you anymore, you can try separation for 2 yrs than file for divorce, during these 2 yrs you can try to win her back, have you tried counselling session? as for your son, i'm sure you both can have joint custody
2007-10-01 01:11:55 · answer #8 · answered by bec 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets put it this way. its not fun haveing someone with you that does not want to be with you. therefore go and let her go. i know its hard but you have to think of yourself also. you need time to relate and get used to this and be yourself again. it will come in time and you will be fine. take care.
2007-10-04 20:24:53 · answer #9 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋