He is already next in line to his female boss who is also married and is the daughter in the family who owns the business.
2007-09-30 17:49:26 · 27 answers · asked by Tita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell Him to keep a voice activated tape recorder on him at all times when he is in her presence. Also, he needs to be more assertive when he rejects her advances.
This women sounds like she is soiled, and is use to getting what she wants, when she wants it, even at other peoples' expense.
He will have proof of her harassment, and this could save his reputation and job in the future.
The other option....ask for a transfer, or start looking for another job....This Women is family, and that is dangerous!!!
2007-10-06 13:41:24 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is asking for a date, say dinner, he needs to say "I'll check with my wife and see if we can make it." Always include the wife in any plans she suggests. If she suggests something more intimate, then he should say, "Sorry but my wife and I don't like threesomes." Some such thing as that will let her know.
If this continues, then he needs to look for another job. Seriously, this situation can only bring nothing but trouble. He does need to do more than mildly object. A statement such as, "This is so inappropriate" every time she makes an advance is needed. This is a form of sexual harassment.
The problem in this sort of situation is that she can cause this man all sorts of trouble in the workplace and in his career if he stays with the company or is forced to leave because he rejected her advances.
He needs to start the job search process while he can leave on good terms.
2007-10-08 03:20:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all have you yold your wife. If not you must. Honesty first. Second don't laugh speak to a lawyer. Why you ask? you let the lawyer know what going on for if your boss tries to fire you or demote you you have prepared and if it came to court it would show you filed before you mentioned anything. Let your Boss know if she keeps it up your filling a harrassment suit. maybey its also a sign that theres a better job waiting for you. What if shes doing it to others. Its time for you to take the stand.
2007-10-08 07:23:46 · answer #3 · answered by Alyssa C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he could always make the "mild" rejections a little more stern. Say it with conviction. Make sure this lady is getting the point. Being the daughter of an owner does not entitle you to have your cake and eat it too. File a formal complaint. And make sure you have proof of these advances. heck, for all you know, you may end up owning the business one day.
2007-09-30 17:57:13 · answer #4 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Frankly and respectfully inform the boss that this is not acceptable and you have no interest in a romantic relationship. This is harrassment if you have actually stated no thank you and expressed your non-interest.
In the meantime, look for another place to work. If you have rejected repeatedly and the behavior is not changing, this is not the place for you in the long run. Decide if you would want to pursue legal action if retaliated against for your refusal of a relationship.
2007-09-30 17:55:48 · answer #5 · answered by relax1x 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
accidentally on purposes let someone find out about her unwanted advances.
or talk in a group setting with her there about how you find assertive females distasteful and unattractive. go on to say how much you really can't stand infidelity or affairs of any kind. say "people who do that, do not get my respect" etc. really go on and on about it, running 'those people" down to make a strong point.
you could start it off by saying something like "i have this friend who...." then describe your situation exactly. She will know what your thoughts are and back off.
be sure to tell your wife EVERYTHING. if somehow it got to her and you haven't told her first, you're in big trouble!
however if you wish to take a mature approach, write a diary and note every detail, especially your rejections (they should never be mild or ambiguous - make yourself very clearly understood).
keep this diary at home so its safe. if there is an HR dept, contact them and ask for their confidential support. you may be suprised to discover they suspect this behaviour (trust me - HR experts know everything!)
2007-09-30 18:08:09 · answer #6 · answered by sass24 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
depends how much he vaules his marriage and his job. I personaly would be a bit more direct with the rejections and not so mild. If it doesn't stop I would mention the laws on sexual harassment. Oh and document everything and try to get someone elese to see what's goin on.
2007-10-08 07:12:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmmmmmmm? that's a problem.... I would document what is happening (just in case) i.e. She does something did any one else observe it? Do you know the owner and can you talk to him on the Q T.. Can you talk to her? Is it a great job? The last resort is sexual harassment but you need the documentation. I trully wish you the best... Good luck... Grant M in Pennsylvania
2007-10-07 14:05:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely accept as true with Nikki. i myself dont get it why those married jerks try this. They continuously blame their companion and check out to fool around. nevertheless they are asserting no intercourse interior the commencing up in a pair weeks time they might placed various stress for it. in no way ever have faith them and that they are not properly well worth the complication.
2016-12-28 08:25:44 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In no uncertain terms tell her to back off or else
start looking for another job
then get one
then file a Sexual Harassment Charge on her or the company
2007-09-30 18:03:07 · answer #10 · answered by mw 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋