If you were going to get married to the person you're with now in a few years, and you and your best friend planned on her being the maid of honor, but then something happened and your other can't stand your best friend and really don't want her to be in the wedding...would you drop her and find a new maid of honor, or would you keep her? I already know what my answer is, just wanted to get other peoples ideas. Also...you know that her being their would mess up his mood, which would mess up your mood, which would mess up the mood of the wedding. Oh....and who's getting the Jungle Book dvd?? I keep seeing commercials for it! Yay! ok.
2007-09-30 17:00:08 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would drop that girl like a ton of bricks. No need to have someone you don't care for in your wedding, plus, if she's going to upset you why would you even want to invite her to the event? I think it's like asking "if you planned on marrying someone and then he turned out to be a total jerk that you couldn't stand but you already made the arrangements three years ago would you still marry him even though the sight of him made you gag?" The answer again would clearly be no.
2007-09-30 17:03:53 · answer #1 · answered by Hallie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Question One:
Sweet Nicole,
I saw a similar question in the Playboy Advisor a while back and part of that applies here. You, your better half and the maid of honor are all big people and able to control your emotions and responses. If you guys are unable to work through to find compromise and equal happiness there is a hedge communication skill and interpersonal relationship ability problem. You should be able to sit all three of you guys down and talk this out. This does not mean anyone is asking for a friendship between them. However for you, they should be able to be congenial for shot periods of time as you don't expect him to dump his friends and he should not expect you to do this either. Talking through and asking for a limit or reduction of time spent with these friends may be ok if both parties agree and only upon agreement.
So if they can't get along for such as a one-day activity, how much compromise will they work with in the future?
Question Two:
Jungle Book DVD ... Hummmm, no plans. I only wish they would re-work the original with Sabu (non-cartoon) as it is still a very good movie and brings the messages and meaning forward in the light I find most beautiful.
2007-10-01 03:46:20 · answer #2 · answered by Black Sword 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have a maid of honor who is no longer your friend. It will cause problems because the maid of honor is supposed to help you plan the wedding, etc. Just find someone else.
2007-09-30 17:04:51 · answer #3 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's too common these days that one or the other partner seems to pull best friends apart. Be clear on why he doesn't like your friend before you make your decision. Sometimes it is just a fear of sharing you with someone you have been close to longer. If the reasoning is sensible, then you have to go with your future, will she always be there or will he? Good luck getting to the root cause of the change of heart.
2007-09-30 17:05:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would drop her- you chose to join your life with him, He will be your partner, and his opinion counts. Before dropping her I would try to resolve the conflict, but in the end you will be going home to him not her. And Ryan is getting the Jungle book DVD and throwing a party on Tuesday night to watch it. I probably won't go, because I will have too much homework.
2007-09-30 17:04:50 · answer #5 · answered by Ledreru 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a position to be in...but the wedding isn't going to be for a few years.....perhaps your hubby to be will come around and will accept your choice for a bride's maid. If you know for a fact that her presence will cause problems....then maybe you should choose another bride's maid.
2007-09-30 17:08:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your wedding, your special day. You decision should be based on those points. All involved in the wedding should simply grow up and respect each other for those few short hours to ensure your day is as wonderful as you deserve. Good luck and God bless**** Just my opinion!
2007-09-30 17:36:56 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can't help but to wonder why your lover would want ur best friend in ur wedding. what happened there. how ever if he really loved u he would try to be reasonable if having her in the wedding party means alot to u and if she was really ur best friend she would step down because she won't want to mess up ur wedding. so talk to both of them ask hubby to be that if she is not in the wedding party would it be okay for her to attend that she is ur best friend not to count her completely out. and hopefully ur best friend will understand and be there for u if she is a true best friend
2007-09-30 17:16:21 · answer #8 · answered by playinthegame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to always plan on having certain people in my wedding, but when it came time for my wedding, I chose people that supported our union. The most important thing is the couple's happiness on their wedding day, so if she would ruin it, don't have her participate. I wouldn't!
2007-09-30 17:04:34 · answer #9 · answered by ~Katie~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HEY NICOLE!! I'M MARRIED SO MAYBE MY ANSWER WON'T BE CONSIDERED, AND BY THE WAY!! YOU SEEM HIGH ENERGY!! I LIKE THAT. MY ANSWER!! CHOOSE YOUR MAID OF HONOR BASED ON YOUR FEELINGS. AND HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT THIS PERSON. CONGRAT ON UP COMING WEDDING!!
2007-09-30 19:14:38 · answer #10 · answered by mother of 4! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋