my name is Emma i'm 12 and i live with my dad, and 2 little step sisters and step mom. my step mom is only live to my step sisters which are her kids. when she moved into our 2 bedroom house (it was my dad and i , thats why it was so small) i had to move into the attick, which is my room now. and my 2 step sister got my room. she makes me clean the whole house, wassh dishes, do laundry, baby sit, EVERYTHING. when i said no she smacked me across the face. ive been talknig to my dad but he says shes a great person. HE DOESNT CARE ABOUT ME ANYMORE. my mom died last year, and i dont have any other siblings or family members to live with. HELP ME PLEASE.
2007-09-30 16:22:17 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
omg that totally sucks you really need to either talk to your step mom and your father.
You can call child protective services or a social services or it totally up to you if you call and get put into foster care. If thats what you prefer. Im so sorry your going through this just really try to get thrrough to your father
i really dont know what to tell you but best of luck and i will definatly pray for you!
2007-09-30 16:27:56 · answer #1 · answered by lexxa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, Emma, that's awful! You're like Cinderella except your Dad's still around. Blended families are so difficult, especially if the step parent doesn't make any effort to bring you into her/his family. She shouldn't be smacking you across the face - she shouldn't be hitting you at all - that's called physical abuse. You need to tell your teacher at school. If not a trusted teacher, then your counselor, even the principal. But, you need to tell an adult that you can trust. It's better if it's an adult at school like your teacher because they are trained to handle stuff like this. They will get you help and get your step mom and dad help. Your step mom and your dad need to know that how they are treating you is not right! So, tell somebody, if that somebody doesn't do anything, tell somebody else.
2007-09-30 16:29:27 · answer #2 · answered by lordmisrule2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off: My sincere sympathies honey, I wish I could just hug you. It's hard to lose your mother!
They care! I think you need to talk to them...or just your Dad!
you NEED TO COMMUNICATE OPENLY other wise you will have a really bad child hood. I'm a mother and I have open communication with my children. What ever is on there minds or outragious questions I will answer. My oldest is 20,then a 17yr. and I also have a 14yrs. daughter. (and 7yr. twins)
You need to tell your Dad everything! (do not yell) If they don't know what you are feeling and you aren't understanding them then you have a lack of communication and not a very good family life and it'll only get worse.
You also have to admitt of your own Jealousies too. You do need your father attention by yourself and maybe you could ask him if 2-3 times a month you two could have a father-daughter date? You could probably try this with your step-mom too, you may see that she's really not so bad and like her? Hun, she isn't your mother both you and her know that but, she IS a part of your life now and its up to you if you want to make this difficult!
2007-09-30 16:34:47 · answer #3 · answered by Numb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be so hard on yourself. I think what you're feeling is very normal. Giving birth to your own flesh and blood is more of a closer emotional bond compared to your spouses child. You can love them both, it may not be the same but try not to let that show, try to do the best you can to treat them the same. With your step-sons behavior, i would talk with your husband and his mother about what's going on. It's obvious that you really care about him. If he's only in preschool and acting the way he is, it may be because you do have a new baby and he could be acting out of jelousy because he probably loves you too and wants the same attention that you are giving the baby. I have a 6 year old and a 7 month old and she gets jelous because i have to tend to the baby much more than to her. I do make time for just me and her to let her know that i do love her very much. Oh, and it's ok to be so completely in love with your baby.....you should be! :-) Definately talk to your husband about the behavior thing. Good luck with everything.
2016-05-17 22:04:52 · answer #4 · answered by carlene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey Emma, I'm really sorry about what you going though. i am going through the same thing. it's probably harder for you because your only 12 and I'm technically 15, my parents separated when i was only a year old so i didn't really have to go through the pain of watching my dad marry someone else. just know that no one will ever replace your mom. and I am very sorry about your mom. just know that she's always watching over you and will always be a part of you. well if you can comment back. k . good luck with solving your problem. bye bye
2007-10-03 13:42:04 · answer #5 · answered by kenzie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first your step mom should not hit you at all if you do something that needs you to be punished she should call your dad and let him handle yor punishment. I have a number for you to call it is for faimlies in all types of trouble. maybe they can help or know someone who can. 800-568-7776 or you can look them up at www.ntxyouthconnection.org it is based in north Texas but if you live in another state they might have the same program in your state. let me just say as a step mom of 3 wonderful boy's that I feel for you you see in thier case there mom walked away from them and gave them to me 3 years ago. at first it was hard becoming a mom over night. but I have never hit them and their dad is out of town alot with work. know don't get me wrong even though I have no kids of my own the boy's and I share the choirse of the house together. It works for us but I would never make them do it all on there own. If your step mom works i can see why she would have you whatch the younger ones but doing it all all the time is to much. you are a child and as such you should be aloud to have a child hood. good luck to you and if you need to ask any thing or just want to vent or you want someone to talk to you can email me through my yahoo answers and I will respond. good luck.
2007-09-30 16:55:47 · answer #6 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i symphatize with you.. I also have a step mom and she only cares for her own children and she gives all the chores to me and my elder sister. She will never be fair to you if that's what you wanted.. Remember, she's not your true mom and she'll always side with your stepsisters no matter what happens.
Your father cares about you, don't think otherwise.. Just think, he married that woman maybe because he wanted someone to look after you when he's away (like you said you don't have any siblings or family members)..Don't take it against him, maybe he's lonely and he wanted someone to share his feelings.. you might not understand it now (you're still young), but you will eventually..
my advise to you is to try to get along with her.. always pray and ask for strength (and will) to compromise with her.. maybe she's not yet used to being a stepmom..give her a chance to change.. when your old enough, just move to another place so you don't need to see them..
2007-09-30 16:44:50 · answer #7 · answered by toink0520 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
step moms are monsters and i realize it. dn't you have relatives you can go live with? i mean anaunt or uncle or cousin? if not just keep your cool till you turn 18 and then save money and move out.
2007-10-04 13:17:34 · answer #8 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to a teacher at your school that you trust and tell him/her that you are being physically abused by your step-mom.
2007-09-30 16:26:56 · answer #9 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋