i've never been with another girl before, but after a stream of stupid guys, i've finally found this girl who is just a beautiful, amazing person. she makes me really happy, i'm comfortable kissing and cuddling and i find her very attractive, but when it comes to the bed room i don't know what to do. i don't like people going down on me, and i'm not sure how i would feel about going down on her. my idea of sex has always been "inserting" things. i care about her, and i want to be close to her, but its going to be hard to have a relationship if we can't please each other. what can i do to make things work?
2007-09-30 16:14:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Despite what some people are saying, dont try use a "toy" or whatever, it will make it much more difficult and youll have twice as much problem sorting out what to do! At least for your first few times.
Just use your hands, I think... much more sensual and easy to do. Even if you don't like going down, you can still kiss her in all sorts of places that don't involve 'that' and are quite delightful... eg hips, "pantyline areas", the small of the back. The first few times is all about sensuality and excitement anyway, so hands/breath/body are much better, and clumsiness is excused when you're both having fun!
Going down on someone often seems a little daunting or off-putting.... but when you're both comfortable enough, try it and you might be suprised!
*edit* Also... what the hell? I wouldnt suggest threesomes either???!! I dont think I would appreciate a man being there if Im trying to have fun with a girl!! And they would also be more difficult if you dont know what you're doing in the first place.
2007-10-01 02:21:03 · answer #1 · answered by a forest nymph 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to discuss your sexual needs and concerns with your partner. For some people, oral is a big deal; for others, not so much. There are other ways to please each other without it. There are toys that make *your* idea of sex possible between two women. ;)
By the way, if you don't mind me asking, why don't you enjoy having another person go down on you? Do you think it could have anything to do with insecurities after being a long stream of bad relationships? Do you think there is any chance you might enjoy it if you were with someone you trusted?
2007-09-30 23:20:03 · answer #2 · answered by ?Heretic? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is this her first lesbian experience also? If it is, maybe you two can ease eachother in to it. If that isnt the case, maybe consider involving a third party. Im saying with either a man or another woman. You should be able to come to some kind of compromise. If she cant do it, then you know that women can be just as bad as men. Nobody's perfect, but if ya'll have love for eachother, it'll all happen for ya's!
2007-09-30 23:38:57 · answer #3 · answered by ndolden2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my girlfriend and I first got together, I was a little apprehensive also because she was the first girl I had ever been with. I got into things soon enough though. If you truly care about this girl then it will come with it's own time. She should be understanding though, I know my girlfriend was. Good luck girl!
2007-09-30 23:20:31 · answer #4 · answered by ☆you ♥ me☆ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Experiment. Play. Enjoy!
2007-09-30 23:18:01 · answer #5 · answered by auntb93 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking too hard on an act that comes quite naturally. The more you get to know her intimately, you may find you'll discover more about yourself.....and surprise yourself
Good lick...I mean luck!!
2007-09-30 23:20:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like the idea of inserting things, why don't the two of you go shopping for a strap on?
2007-09-30 23:18:33 · answer #7 · answered by Group836 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Watch some lesbian porn. It will get you used to the idea of sex with women and you'll learn the tricks of the trade to it.
2007-09-30 23:18:45 · answer #8 · answered by smooth_stalin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I'd be trying to find a guy who's not "stupid"!
After all, another girl has no "equipment" to "insert", and I would feel awkward as hell looking for "objects" to substitute for the REAL THING! Lesbianism is NOT the solution to a "dry spell" with the guys.
2007-09-30 23:36:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
i'm just a guy but if ur comfortable with eachother than you should take with her about it cause asking a question to random people isn't gonna help you know what she likes and doesn't like.
2007-09-30 23:20:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋