How could i control/stop myself to became GAY??

Question

im 16, a basketball varsity...should i control or stop myself of the feeling of being gay? i like to see naked men and enjoy myself looking at my team mates naked in the shower. i also kind of masturbate to mem porn but all of these are very secret. im ashame or afraid that they found out my feeling that i will be outcast especially my dad, my elder bro and my best buddy. i have my girl friend for two years now and we had some kissing that i also became very aroused. we plan to have sex soon but i dont know

Answer 1

Hi

If it's "in you" to be gay or bisexual, then there's really nothing you can do about it. Don't try to repress your feelings because you will eventually make yourself very miserable. If your family truly loves you and if your friend is really your friend, they will accept you. But I do understand if you don't want anyone to know because you are afraid of their reaction. I have read some articles that indicate homosexuality or bisexuality may be genetic, which is what I mean when I stated that it's "in you".

Check this out:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Biology_and_sexual_orientation
http://www.livescience.com/health/060224_gay_genes.html

If you do determine that you are indeed gay or bisexual, that does NOT make you a bad or nasty person. You need to accept yourself for who you are. As I stated earlier, do not repress your feelings. Do you know how your family and friends feel about homosexuality or bisexuality? They may not react as badly as you think. Tell your family whenever you are ready, but do not let anyone force you into revealing your sexual orientation. I wish you the best of luck with your situation, and I hope this helps you.

Answer 2

To my knowledge there is no way of stopping becoming gay, because if your asking this question you’ve already realized your attraction to the same sex. You say that you have a girlfriend and that she physically arouses you, so by the sound of it you may be bisexual? Do images of woman also arouse you as the images of men do? If they don’t then you might just be aroused by the physical contact, I suppose you can deny your sexuality but it only hurts you in the long run.
I guess the only advice I can give you is to be comfortable knowing that your beginning to understand yourself sexually it’s the first step to self acceptance. Which directly relates to your friends and family if you cant accept your own sexuality they wont be comfortable doing so either. So accept yourself and they eventually will too, if they love you they love you for who you are as a person not because of your sexual orientation.
The other thing I recommend is to find someone, anyone, a relative, a friend, even a guidance counselor or teacher at school who you know is accepting of gays that you can talk to, one of the big things is to have the support of someone you can trust when coming out.
You should never be ashamed of yourself either. And as for sex with your girlfriend, you should never feel pressured into doing something your not comfortable with.
I hope this helps you, and good luck with everything.

Answer 3

I suppose you are feeling the same thing that other kids feel all the time. I suggest you talk with a trusted adult friend. I also feel that you can choose to be what you want to be. Just let this go until you are older and can make good decisions for yourself.

Answer 4

I DON'T THINK YOU CAN BUT YOU MAY WANT TO GET SOME THERAPY!

Answer 5

pray hard it really works..