I've noticed, (w/ emphasis on I) that girls are doing little acts of chivalry. I was walking back to my dorm, and when I approached the door, a girl inside opened the door for me (not because she wanted to leave, she was having a conversation with a friend). Now I'm curious, is opening doors for guys a developing trend for girls or is it just the product of increasing gender equality?
2007-09-30 15:50:36 · 22 answers · asked by diaoman 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I open doors for men...I think it's common courtesy if I'm in front of them and get the door first. I'm glad we're seeing more and more of this.
2007-09-30 15:53:11 · answer #1 · answered by Lioness 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I think people don't even think about whether or not it is a guy or girl any more. It seems to be just common courtesy- if you are the one closest to the door, you open it. People do this in all combinations- guys for girls, girls for guys, girls for girls, guys for guys- you'll see it across generations too- people in their 20s opening for people in their 40s, people in their 40s opening for people in their 20s. I open doors all the time for people without thinking about it. The only time I make a conscious effort to be the door opener is when it is for an elderly person. Then I will go out of my way to do it. Otherwise, it's just whoever is closer.
I don't know the particulars of the situation you were in- maybe the girl just did it because she was standing there, maybe she was flirting with you. Who knows.
2007-09-30 16:00:26 · answer #2 · answered by blahblah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't exactly call it a "developing trend" per se... just common courtesy, is all *shrugs*
Like if I were to approach the door with someone else on the other side as well, it's only proper for me to hold the door open for the other person to pass through.
Gender doesn't really play into it at all.
2007-09-30 16:05:23 · answer #3 · answered by ViRg() 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's appropriate - like in this situation if I were standing at a door but not quite going through because I was talking to a friend, I would open the door for whomever came. Male or female. I don't call it chivalry, I call it being considerate.
2007-09-30 16:00:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a product of increasing gender equality. Now, women are free to do nice things for men without people thinking it's weird. I hold open doors for guys all the time...and they do it for me too. It's nice when everyone can just be polite to each other instead of one group being chivalrous and the other group being "weak".
2007-09-30 16:16:53 · answer #5 · answered by G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This was just common courtesy. She would have opened the door for you if you were a girl. I don't mind when a stranger opens a door for me and I have my hands full, but when a guy opens a door for me just because I'm a woman, I'm not quite as pleased.
2007-09-30 15:59:15 · answer #6 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she was just trying to be nice....but if she was walking with u and did the same thing then....I think there's something wrong with that. I notice that a lot of men don't do that for women anymore. There's nothing wrong with gender equality but what happen to men treating women like "ladies" back in the olden day even hookers got their doors opened for them...and a good nice looking lady these days can't get that...what's happening to our etiquette skills
2007-09-30 15:55:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Troll-Sharkâ¢'s guide to door-opening etiquette (mostly GENDER-NEUTRAL):
Follow these rules in this order:
1) If the other person is handicapped, you hold the door.
2) If the other person is encumbered with packages, you hold the door
3) If you get to the door first, you hold the door
4) If the door swings your way, you hold the door.
5) If the other person is female, and you think you might get laid, you hold the door.
Now if we can get women to adhere to the same rules that men have been using forever, we'll be all set.
2007-09-30 16:00:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I see people of both genders opening doors for eachother all the time. It just seems like a nice thing to do.
2007-09-30 15:55:52 · answer #9 · answered by Priscilla B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was just being polite and courteous. If you're in-stride and the door gets opened then there's no strain (and very little energy for her to give the door a push). If she just stood there, in your way, you'd think "out of my way, *****". Yet she opened the door and got all this other stuff on your mind.
2007-09-30 15:55:00 · answer #10 · answered by jemrx2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not a developing trend. She was just being courteous by opening the door for you. I do it for people male or female all the time, but still expect a man to open a door for me.
2007-09-30 15:54:02 · answer #11 · answered by me123 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋