Hi
My now ex and me had been dating for 2 years and known each other for 7 years (since she was 14). She was always really into me and talked about marriage and kids and how much she loved me and couldnt be with anyone else. She has had a few b/f before me 2 of which where serious but she said she was always in love with me.
As of this year I moved from Australia to New Zealand to begin a career in aviation because she next year will finish her law degree and I didnt wish to be left behind in terms of careers. Anyway she was really excited for me and she also decided to do 6 months in college in the USA, she would always talk about how good this would be for are relationship and such. Anyway i moved over to New Zealand in july and 2 weeks later she came to stay for a week before heading to the USA, everything was perfect she said she loved me more than ever and had a great week togther. Once she arrived in the USA she begun college straight away and 2 weeks in it was my birthday and she sent me a gift and a card saying how much she loved me and how being away from me made her realize how much she wanted to be with me.
I continued to get called by her and emails from her however I started to get a weird feeling in my stomach that something was changing in her. Anyway she is listed on facebook and I do not have a account so she didnt think i could see what was going on however my sister one day calls me up and tells me she (my g/f) has changed her relationship status from in a relationship to nothing. I started to get really concerned at this point however 2 days later she sends me another email telling me she only is thinking of me and all that crap. At this point I was very confused so I called her up and confronted her and she starts crying and all that and to cut along story short she breaks up with me (she also confessed to cheating on me) . At first she sounded like she would want to get back together when she got back but i kept calling her asking for answers and she seemed to push further away and almost act cruel towards me.
After all of this I made a facebook account and she added me and she is now listed single and has all these photos of her partying and drinking (which she use to hate and never did much drinking if any) she still writes and trys to call but only if I dont contact her for sometime. I also asked if I could come visit her when she finishes her time at college and she said yes (but she said no to me visiting whilst in college)I know she really likes a guy at the college and it hurts like hell because she will not admit to it, but on facebook she will hint at it by saying her crush is a secret. Also I have seen a photo of the 2 hugging.
What is going on? We where best friends and now I feel i dont even know her and she treats me like crap, I also have heard from friends she likes this guy she met but he is from argentina why would she throw everything away for something that could not possibly work?
This weekend is very hard because her and her friend (who she went with) are in Las vagas with 8 guys including the argentine. Also the friend she is with was always jealous of me and my g/f because we had such a good relationship I feel as if she has helped bring this all about.
Why is she acting cruel?
Why hasnt she taken any down time after are split? (she is listed on myspace as ecstatic)
Do you think we have a chance together?
Or do you think she has really moved on?
The one thing that really upsets me about all this is how she hasnt treated me like the best friend we use to be and also how she seems to have no heartbreak over all of this. I am hoping once she returns back to Australia and a normal life she might realise what she did and give me a real sincere apology for what she has done.
Any advice on what is happening would be great I really need it because all i see and hear is how much fun she is having I have even heard she wants to move there. Also when I ask her does she still ove me she says of course??
2007-09-30 14:44:23 · 7 answers · asked by Blake E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your girlfriend is feeling guilty. She know she is in the wrong so what she is trying to do is bait you into being mean to her so she won't feel guilty. If you express anger and start saying bad things about her, that will ease the guilt she is experiencing. From the sound of things you two are both young and have yet so many things to experience in life. The best advice I can give to you is to move on and start dating other people. By her actions it is quite obvious that your girlfriend lacks the maturity and committment necessary to carry out a life long monogamus relationship. If the two of your meant to be together then you will be, if not, that only means that God has better things in store for you. Peace and God bless.
2007-09-30 15:07:33 · answer #1 · answered by cave man 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
sorry sounds like shes moved on with out you adn shes partying hard. in fact i woldn't give her the time of day now. you can find someone else and better then her. its sad that you have waited this long only to find out shes messing around all over shes changed i am sure for the worse and you are just not going to like her when you would see her so go and move on take care.
2007-10-04 13:07:28 · answer #2 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear,as you two have grown up together you have grown apart from one another.You're interest have changed as you have both come into your own, nothing wrong with it just natural. Let her go and if it is meant to be it will but like anything that is held on to tightly the life will be squeezed out of it. Take time to heal and enjoy something new about life.Her loss not yours.
2007-10-01 13:25:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Moving to New Zealand is a terrible mistake. Move back to Australia.
2007-09-30 15:17:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say move on, she obviously has. this is a new era in her life, she is still trying to figure out who she is (like most college students) and wants to do new different things. you sound like a nice sincere person, you should go out, enjoy yourself. sure it's a stab in the back for her to move on so easily but sometimes people just out grow each other.
2007-09-30 14:53:58 · answer #5 · answered by paula t. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry. She grew up and out and away. You will always be her first love, but she has moved on. You need to too. Maybe someday you two will be together, but I wouldn't hold my breath. You have lost her. Watch what she does, not what she says out of guilt. You need to mourn this and move on. So sorry.
2007-09-30 14:54:40 · answer #6 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but it sounds like your out of sight out of mind. You will find a woman you will love you for you. Sounds like she will make a great lawyer she has the bull s--t down to a T.
2007-09-30 16:34:00 · answer #7 · answered by farmboy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋