did love you, but does not love you anymore, and also, hurt you very badly. Why do I still love him? My ex bf....even if he still loved me, I could not be with him because he betrayed me. But why do I still love him...I have not seen him in over a year, and he made it clear that he does not want to see me or talk to me, and I have cried literally everyday since. Please help me...I dont know how to deal with the pain and hurt.
2007-09-30 14:42:44 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I remember that time.
I went and had myself a very good cry, I had a bowl of ice cream and went to bed.
the next morning I got up and put away all traces of her in my life and got on with the rest of my days.
Does it hurt? Yes, but you accept the decision and move on
2007-09-30 15:05:45 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please ask yourself two serious questions:
1: Do you still love your ex-boyfriend? Or, do you love what might have, could have, or maybe even should have been?
2: Are you able to see yourself in a scenario, for your life, that does not include him? Even if this guy were perfect for you (which is at least debatable depending on how he hurt you), could you see yourself in a loving and gratifying and fulfillling relationship with someone else?
Your answer to question one will help you frame an answer to question two. There is no right or wrong answer, and your answers will change with time. It is a long and hard process to get over some relationships, and I hope that you will find the courage and the self-respect to do it.
2007-09-30 21:55:37 · answer #2 · answered by Pagan Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You loved him a lot. If he betrayed you and hurt you that doesn't mean you love him less. If you know he is bad for you you don't love him less. If you know you can't see him anymore you still don't love him less.
You have to endure the pain until it fades away. It will fade, just give it time.
It's been three years for me and the pain still flutters around the edge but most of the time I can deal with it. It's hard dear but things like this happen to most people and we all have to endure.
Good Luck and keep your head up. Bad things can happen to us but we don't have to let it defeat us.
2007-09-30 21:59:37 · answer #3 · answered by Big Red 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop crying and find something to do. You probably are still thinking about him because you are doing nothing else. Go out with friends, get a hobby, take some classes, make some new friends. It will get easier and if you are busy you will not think about him much and soon he will only be a passing thought. You don't want to talk to him anyway it will just make things worse. You owe it to yourself to be happy so get out there and start enjoying yourself. Even if you don't want to go, go anyway and you will be glad that you did. Good luck.
2007-09-30 21:49:44 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't let go, try some counselling. Sometimes hanging on is an excuse to avoid moving forward with your life. You still loved him when he betrayed you, and you still love him. Nothing wrong with that, and it makes sense, but it is stopping you from living your life "in the now". It is painful to let go, but until you do, you will not heal. btdt
2007-09-30 21:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, been there, done that. believe, it does stop hurting. for me it stopped hurting two days after. and that was just because I was studying at college at the moment and had something to concentrate during the time. i guess my advice is to concentrate on doing something you really enjoy, eat and drink your fav. meals and take good care of yourself. that's the best medicine and know that you deserve better!
if you REALLY need to feel better soon, I recommend that you take a good shower, put on some nice music that you enjoy and you know will make you smile, drink something u really like, and think of something you really want, besides the problem, do not think about the problem, and just enjoy yourself. good luck
2007-09-30 22:03:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah we've all been through that ordeal, move forward not backward...remember if they harmed you once odds are they'd do it again. So just keep moving forward away from that ex of yours..there are more opportunities out there.
2007-09-30 22:47:28 · answer #7 · answered by caminolargo76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do need to move on. Stop thinking about him so much.
You may have to see a counsellor.
2007-09-30 22:43:37 · answer #8 · answered by sheila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋