She knows it and so does the whole family. But she won't leave and has alot of excuses. She also has a 8yr.old kid. I can give her all the help she needs. Should I keep on telling her that she can trust me and her brother or should I just let her be? Her husband is cheating on her with another dude, plus he uses cocaine and he verbally abuses her and physically.
2007-09-30 14:37:50 · 15 answers · asked by M.M. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you have facts, rat him out. Just DO IT.
It is hard to leave an abusive relationship for many reasons that don't seem logical, because they are not. It is so good of you to keep offering, but the thing she needs most is self-confidence and for him to be put away so she doesn't have to be afraid of him.
2007-09-30 14:44:37 · answer #1 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is continue to be there for her. Try not to judge her for staying. If she comes to you to talk or for a shoulder to cry on be there for her. Show her she can trust you and your husband. Sometimes words are not enough, sometimes it is what the person sees and how they feel with people. Let her know she can have a safe place when and if she needs it. One day her husband is going to push her to the limit. If she knows that she has the support it will make her decision easier. Do not let her be, just change how you address the situation. Show her, tell her. Ask her how her child is doing, how is her child taking everything, ask her if she is concerned for her child or concerned about what her child is learning from this relationship. Show concern for her child. Be supportive, don't judge, be there for them when she wants you and needs you to be. Do not give up. Pray and hope that one day soon she will be ready to leave.
2007-09-30 15:10:35 · answer #2 · answered by bkdrm41897 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone leave as much as you try. Where is the child when all this is going on? Maybe you should call social services and get the kid some help. Tell your sister in law that she has a moral and legal responsibility to her child to keep them safe. It does not sound like a safe situation. Be there for her as much as you can and keep trying.
2007-09-30 15:01:42 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing to remember i guess with people who are getting abused is fear, and yes continue with reassuring her of your help, just reminder her of how she is endangering her life with the possibility of contracting AIDS, how this is affecting her child being left in this situation, and the risk of the abuse turning on the child and just not herself... let her see actual options, like her living arrangements giving her and the child a safe place to live, getting her down to the police station for a restraining order, helping her with getting a job so she can support herself and the child.... things like this might just give her hope and encouragement to make the move out of that bad situation.....
2007-09-30 15:04:29 · answer #4 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately if SHE isn't ready to face reality you can't really do anything about it. just be supportive and let her know you are there for her. try not to constantly talk to her about it though, because she may come to resent you and I'm sure she really needs you as a friend. however if her child is in danger, screw the friendship route and call the cops. only she can decide what she is willing to put up with but no one has the right to keep a child in an unhealthy situation.
2007-09-30 14:45:50 · answer #5 · answered by paula t. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend that was in a similar situation. You can start by giving her a spare of your house key (if you have roomates or a significant other living with you, you need to talk to them about this so they're cool with it.) That way the offer is in front of her for an emergency situation and you can sleep better knowing that you're doing what you can to help.
2007-09-30 14:50:10 · answer #6 · answered by a jaded angel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call child protective services and get her kid the heck out of there. Once she had a child she gave up the right to be an idiot. She needs out. Get her therapy. If you can help, then do it. Get her somewhere safe. It turns my stomach. I am so glad you are there.
2007-09-30 14:46:13 · answer #7 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He replaced into your customer and you mustn't have kicked him out as a results of fact that he performed no injury to you. despite issues your sister in regulation is having with him are her corporation and not yours. If she is back with him then it potential she nevertheless needs him and that they reconciled. by using treating him this variety you close up the door to any attempt for him to rectify his acts and take a check out to be somewhat of the kinfolk.
2016-10-10 02:02:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad.... all you can do is be there for her and speak the truth in love and have her consider the example of such a relationship to the child who is watching.... you can't make anyone make a decision though... good luck!!!!!!
2007-09-30 14:42:02 · answer #9 · answered by Dulos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister in law is in trouble. But it could be hurting her child even worse. That is what I would focus on in trying to get her out. Appeal to the "mother" in her.
2007-09-30 15:42:34 · answer #10 · answered by Stacy J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋