When I was 17, I was raped by a friend of mine. When I told one of my closest friends about it, he didn't believe me, so I didn't go to the authorities because I was too scared to think they wouldn't believe me either. I have tried forgetting that the rape ever happened for the past 6 years, but it has caused me to not be open and honest with others and not to trust anyone, including my friends and relatives. Recently, I've been going through a state of depression and just started reaching out to my friends telling them about my situation, which helped me stop blaming myself for the rape. I am looking to seek professional help because of my friends, but it is still very, very hard for me. Are there any other ways to get through this?
2007-09-30 13:46:14 · 10 answers · asked by LadyPrincess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My heart goes out to you; I'm sorry that your friend didn't believe you. It is unfortunate that you didn't go to the authorities about the rape but I understand your fears.
I think counselling or talking to someone whom you really trust is very important. Can you talk to a family member about this? You may be surprised how supportive they may be when you tell them. I wish you all the best and that your heart and spirit will heal... Patrick
2007-09-30 13:53:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't have any personal experience with this type of situation but I would suggest calling a rape hot-line or your health insurance and get referrals for a therapist who is well experienced in this particular area. From what I understand this is a long and hard process, however the fact that you are willing to begin addressing and confronting it at this point demonstrates your strength. This is something you will probably never forget probably but at least you know it what was not your fault and that this person who did this to you is a sick, twisted individual. Keep your head up, confidence and stick to the fact that you did nothing to encourage this. I wish you the best of luck and God bless.
2007-09-30 13:58:00 · answer #2 · answered by Nancy D. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to hear this and i speak from experience i was raped at 17 so 4 years ago and the truth so far i have found is it never leaves you. Sure you have your good days and bad but i found that telling myself its not my fault and im acheiving my life goals everyday helps. I have trust issues but slowly im letting friends into my heart. There are councillers that are specially trained in this area maybe try talking to them im not sure how it works because i have never got help i guess im to stuborn for that. I suggest you take each day at a time and dont expect to be feeling normal tomorro everything takes time but look at it this way you are a stronger person because of it i mean yoyr still here right? and that in its self should show you your an amazing human.
2007-10-01 17:00:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How awful for you,not only to be violated by a friend,but not to be believed as well is an insult to injury.Try to find a help group and enrol,that should start the process of helping you cope ,understand and forgiving your self for an act that was not your fault.Remember,those who hurt you were at fault and i send my very heart felt bestwishes lol.
2007-10-01 03:57:27 · answer #4 · answered by shane c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i am truly sorry to hear about that......i am going to tell you that i have been ganged raped 3 times and have been raped more than 8 times, it has been 18 years from now i am 26 now and let me tell you it was very very hard to get over........i was very depressed and felt like i did not have anyone to talk to and i felt like i did not belong here...what happened is that i went to go and talk to a therapist and i must say that it helped but it was also an hard task to do, having to go back to the horrible memory's of it but it was really worth it. i mean it took me several years to get over what happened to me but i had to make a choice if i wanted to put my bad memory's behind me and move on with my life and i chose the path to move on and it was a journey and it was very hard for me to trust someone with everything but i started to open up and talking about it everything started to go smoothly as time progressed, but i must tell you that you need to keep your head up and don't be in a shell the more you be in a shell the harder it is going to get..... but yes therapy is the way to go and i wish you the best. if you need to talk more about it you can email me tyandtee1@yahoo.com good luck to you
2007-09-30 14:11:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried meditating? I think you should. I don't want this to happend to you because you see, I am a depressed person. I am now a drug user and I am selfdestructive. You know what you should talk to a therapist or find one, atlest try and tell a family memeber if you don;t get along with family then umm I guess talk to a cop
2007-09-30 13:54:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NLP.
Picture the event in your mind. run through it forward, the run it backward. Change the background music. change the end. Change the speed. Very important: do it faster = like the whole thing in 20 seconds.
Thoughts are things. its a matter of getting edges on it so you can grab it and throw it out.
Most importantly: Forgive yourself. . . the forget about it.
2007-09-30 14:02:07 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend didn't believe you then he's not good enough to be your friend. Why would someone lie about being raped? It's not something that people would lie about. You should go to the authorities.
2007-09-30 13:52:17 · answer #8 · answered by Unleash the Bats 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Really sorry to hear about your problem.
Perhaps you should seek professional help. Enrol in one of their programmes.
2007-09-30 13:55:19 · answer #9 · answered by Street Smart 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have been holding this in for a long time.now your talking about it. thats the first step to healing.
2007-09-30 13:54:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋