OMG, I'm not bragging or anything my my Dad is a lawyor and my family is really wealthy but they still make me pay for things! And this just started happening recently! He used to give me his credit card whenever I needed to go shopping! He bought me a car for my sweet 16. Now all of a sudden he is making me pay for my cell phone, gas, and he won't pay for me to go shopping anymore! I didn't do anything to cause this punishment! I am not a bit*ch to my parents or anything! Its definitely not fair! Right?!
2007-09-30 12:54:29 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
btw, i'm 17 and its not like i have a steady job, i babysit a few times a month but its not like a have a main income!
2007-09-30 12:55:17 · update #1
btw, i'm 17 and its not like i have a steady job, i babysit a few times a month but its not like a have a main income!
2007-09-30 12:55:25 · update #2
I guess I could get a job at Abercrombie and Fitch, everytime I go in there my friend who works there tells me to apply but I never do!
2007-09-30 13:03:07 · update #3
Welcome to the real world.
2007-09-30 12:57:32 · answer #1 · answered by Das ist mein fluch 5 · 19⤊ 1⤋
First of all, you come from a wealthy family and yes your dad got you a car for your sweet 16. However, that does not mean that he has to pay for everything else. Like you said you're not mean to them so that's probably why he got that as a present.
Second of all, if he'[s making you pay for other things that's good. For the fact that things now a day are not cheap. I'm sure he wants his little girl to be ready for the real world and financially stable on her own. Yeah he might help from time to time but that's because parents are just like that.
So what you can do is get a part time job and save your own money. By doing this it will show him that you're ready to be dependent on your own and that you're ready for the real world. I know he'll be very proud of you. Who knows being a man with wealth he can show you how to turn $100 dollars into thousands... take care and good Luck!!!!!!!!!
2007-09-30 13:18:20 · answer #2 · answered by NENA 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
This is a good example of why you do not buy kids everything they want.. and it has nothing to do with how much money a parent has! Now... here you are and your father wants you to pay for things and be responsible, but because he's paid for som many things and you have never wanted for anything, now its kind of shock isn't it! Look at it this way.. you are 17 and you are eventually going to have to make it on your own, pay your own bills ! Do you want tour father to always fix everything, and not be able to make it without him, when you go out on your own? It is going to be very hard finding someone in a relationship down the road because his financial status will probably have to be substancial to afford the life style you have gotton use too!
Remember... everything in life is not fair, and as you get older, you will realize this fact..
Good Luck To You!
2007-09-30 13:07:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's called growing up and your parents want you to know what the real world is like. It's a painful transition. But, if you just accept that now you have to start paying your own way it won't be so bad. Also, maybe mom and dad are gearing up to pay for your college which will likely cost them a pretty penny. Be very grateful that you had it so good. Some kids never get a chance to live it up. Just work hard at school and maybe someday you can spoil yourself.
2007-09-30 12:59:48 · answer #4 · answered by 354gr 6 · 8⤊ 0⤋
a "few" is 3...you perhaps would have pushed it to 5 or 6 and nevertheless have been ok yet 20? you could say all you like which you probably did no longer do something incorrect yet i heavily doubt you theory your mum and dad could be comfortable with your having 20 human beings over whilst they pronounced you have got some. you're basically mad you got caught...that sucks yet you probably did abuse ur discern's even letting you have anybody over. do no longer combat this one. even although i think of grounding you for 2 weeks is somewhat lots, i'm no longer able to blame your mum and dad for punishing you. once you're a minimum of a somewhat clever 17 year old, your mum and dad understand which you already know a "few" isn't 20 and consequently knowingly broke their rule. ask for forgiveness and don't play dumb next time your mum and dad supply you a rule. you're basically approximately an grownup, it style of seems such as you will desire to do some transforming into up for beneficial. playstation . even asserting that some thing isn't "honest" makes you sound somewhat immature. you will possibly to boot be leaping up and down screaming "wahhhhh it is not fairrrrr!" like a three year old having a tantrum.
2016-10-10 01:55:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong.Your father is trying to teach you the value of a dollar.The best way to learn this lesson is by seeing how hard it is to earn one.The next lesson will be teaching you to save a dollar.Your father loves you enough to prepare you for life,it is not a punishment.Most people work,even your wealthy father.there is nothing like hard work to make you appreciate the value of an education ( and a dollar).Your friend has a job and she is encouraging you to apply at her work., take her up on it.You are fortunate to have been given a car for your birthday.If you are responsible enough to drive you are responsible enough for a part-time job to offset the costs of driving.A car does not operate on air.Good luck in your job search. Drive carefully .Take care..
2007-10-01 16:32:51 · answer #6 · answered by gussie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the real world of responsibilities. You are an adult almost. Continue with your studies, get good grades and start going to college or university afterwards. Maybe get a job after school doing something. That way your income can go to gas, and shopping...Get a plan for your cell phone. It was nice of your parents to give you a car, and for them to give you credit cards to go shopping, and a cell phone, not every 16 year old has that privilege you know...
Work with your friend then. That might be fun. You are just like a friend of mine, I give her tons of leads for employment and she won't look into them...She never wants to work again and mooch off people all her life from friends and Gov't. Seriously you don't want to be on welfare... she is 38 now, and on welfare, she is perfectly able to work as well.
I had my first job when I was 16 years old in the summer time...I was into my studies in Highschool. If you go on welfare then you'd have to sell your car, there is only so much you are allowed to have on welfare. Your car would be generated as income when you sell it.
2007-09-30 13:01:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
well i think he is trying to teach you to become more responsible bc you are almost an adult and you in only a couple of years will be on your own and you will not have anyone to pay for this for you. you will have to make this money. i think he could have sat down with you and told you he was going to start doing this and i agree he should have expected so much from you in such a small amount of time, but i know where he's coming from, he's trying to teach you a valuble lesson. i would talk to him and say i think this is a little much and that you are willing to start taking more responsiblility and will start to work for your money and will pay for your things but it's a little much to pay for EVERYTHING. but also remeber, you are very lucky to have all of this. rememeber there are homeless people that for there sweet 16 get nothing, and people who will not see their 16 birthday. just remember that
2007-09-30 13:23:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no its not fair that for so long you havent grasped the real world and how it works.
Daddy cant always foot the bill.
Your about to be an adult get used to the world s***ing on you.
Life isnt perfect being "really wealthy" only gets you so far.
appreciate what they do and have given you, and appreciate this the most. they just gace you a fighting chance at surviving in the real world. if they hadnt cut you off you may have never gotten a chance.
2007-09-30 13:05:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
My dad is a lawyer also and I have to pay for things that I WANT too. My family provides what I NEED for me, but if I WANT a fourth blue sweater, I have to pay for it myself. You don't need your own car. You don't need to go shopping all the time. If they're not providing you with toilet paper and making you buy it yourself, that might be a little unfair. But refusing to pay for a ninth pair of jeans or ten thousand extra cell phone minutes is completely fair.
2007-09-30 13:26:21 · answer #10 · answered by Squeegee Beckingheim :-) 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, no offense, but you've been spoiled A LOT. Actually, it's 100% fair, because your parents finally realized that you need to mature, and take responsibility. You need to realize that when you're an adult, they won't help you anymore; you have to earn your own money, and be independent off your parents. Someday, they won't be there anymore, and what will you do then?
You know, not all parents can pay for those privileges (car, cell-phone). For ex. my brother is 19 now, and HE bought his cell-phone, and HE bought his car, and still goes to university, comes back at 8 pm, and still has a job.
It's hard for him (and both of us were trained since we were kids); and if it's so hard for us, imagine what it's like for you.
Grow up.
2007-09-30 12:58:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 1⤋