My husband likes to hang with his work buddy and we've visited over their house several times this past year. I just find his wife terribly boring with no interests. She yells at her 4 kids a lot and her husband has taught them curse words. When she is away from the kids she wants to get "hammered" which I don't enjoy or she wants to go out to the bars. Should I just avoid going with him over there or should ask that he distance himself from them too? It seems like if he is going to be friends with him, I get unavoidable invitations over to their birthday parties and cookouts. I just don't enjoy staying over there till midnight, the conversations are so dull and I don't approve of how they raise their kids. What do I do?
2007-09-30 11:56:43 · 4 answers · asked by ashanabu 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I can completely relate to you. Unfortunately, just because your husband likes this guy does not mean you are anything like his wife. I think part of it is because it seems like guys can bond over more superficial things like sports or cars or hunting or something, and they never have to think about this person's views on parenting, etc. For women, it's harder, because if we don't like something about a person's nature, that is more essential to our relationship with them.
One excuse that I have made in situations like this is simply that I am busy. Let your husband go to the cookout or whatever, but that doesn't mean that you have to go. Just find your own thing to do. It isn't your responsibility or obligation to hang out with a trashy dumb drunk woman in your precious spare time. You have better stuff to do. Just politely decline the offers, and chances are, she will take a hint eventually.
2007-09-30 12:04:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Find an excuse so you don't have to go everytime.
2) Call her and tell her you two should go to the movies.
3) Dump those unruly kids on the men.
4) Your husband will quit trying to get you to go along if he gets stuck with the kids while you and the buddy's wife go to the movies.
5) Be sure to be really nice about all of this. He won't know what to think.
2007-09-30 19:04:31 · answer #2 · answered by Julie H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband he'll have to go alone. You don't like the scene and you don't want to go. Just lay it on him.
2007-09-30 19:02:17 · answer #3 · answered by Irish 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your husband about it. good luck
maybe the husbands can be friends and not get you and the other lady involved.
2007-09-30 19:04:13 · answer #4 · answered by Ann K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋