do women get wet when they have sex? asked with curiosity + need?

Question

im a 21 year old...i had sex for the 1st time and i didnt get wet...he said that i was supposed to b wet. i belong to a culture where sex before marriage is not acceptable(and yea the guy im talking about is my husband). so i have very little knowledge about a few things. so could u please help me out? and please try not to insult my question. so am i supposed to get wet like he did? is it supposed to hurt that bad or did he just get the wrong hole? and which hole is the right one anyway?..

(by wet, i mean orgasm pretty much)

Answer 1

You aren't necessarily going to be wet the first time...the first time is always kind of unnerving and unfamiliar, so your body won't be as turned on...but as you have sex more often, your body will warm up to the feeling and you'll become more comfortable, and THAT is when you start to get wet and feel more pleasure! But it's normal not to be the first time!

Answer 2

All women are different.

Usually, if a woman is sexually aroused, then her vagina will lubricate itself naturally. This generally takes some foreplay before sexual intercourse begins. The amount of lubricant will vary from woman to woman.

Sometimes, due to stress or a hormonal imbalance, women do not produce much natural lubricant. This can be alleviated through the use of an artificial lube, such as Astroglide.

At 21 years old, you should know the difference between your vagina and anus. If not, the correct "hole" he should've used would be your vagina, the bigger one.

If you had just lost your virginity, it can hurt. You have a piece of skin within your vagina called a hymen, which needs to be broken, if it hasn't been already. That, with a lack of vaginal lubrication can make sex uncomfortable.

Next time you and your husband have sex, have him "seduce" you and take it slowly. Have him kiss you all over, or other things, in order to "warm you up".

Good Luck!

(I listed some websites below that could be helpful for you.)

Answer 3

Yes women are supposed to get wet during sex. If you are not wet sex will be painful. Women need lots of foreplay to get in the mood. ie lots of kissing and touching. A good way to get yourself wet is to gently rub your clitoris. If you are a virgin having sex for the first time can be painful. If you cannot make yourself wet, you may need to get some ky jelly or similar lubricant. He cant really get the wrong hole either . If you have any other questions maybe you could e mail me at [e-mail]

Answer 4

Sex for the first time never really feels right. It's weird, awkward and painful all at the same time. The right hole is the one that you would put a tampon in and yes, it can be painful the first few times. Getting wet will happen when you are really turned on and this will happen. Relax and enjoy it. Sex is fun and the more relaxed and free you are, the better it will be. This is your husband so don't hold anything back.

Answer 5

The first time I had sex I hurt and I needed lubricant. Getting wet is not the same as an orgasm. Since you're young you should get wet when you're getting hot and bothered and you use the vagina hole, you know the one where your uterus is and where your period flows out, the place that has the potential to create babies.

Answer 6

Usually, women's vagina's become wet or LUBRICATED when they are aroused. If this was your first time, you may have been a little nervous, and been very dry. Buy some lube! Any Walmart has it! I take anti-depressants, and they make it so I'm NEVER wet....so my hubby and I use lube all the time. Don't worry about it! Get the lube that "warms" when you put it on...that's my fav. Good luck. And yes, the first several times will be a bit uncomfortable for you. Also, most women don't '***' or ejaculate like men do.
Good luck!

Answer 7

Are you serious?? The wrong hole? There is only two down there and I'd think you'd know if he wasn't in your vagina. First of all, it'd be a lot harder to get into the 'other' hole. Yes it is supposed to hurt your first time, may even be a small amount of blood. I seriously think you should not be married or having sex until you know about sex, what goes on during sex, and the 'right' hole, and know about your own body.

Answer 8

To get "wet" you must be sufficiently aroused. You and your husband should try more foreplay until you are ready.
Anyway, if you don't even know which "hole" is the right one, you are seriously in need of an education. Ask someone you trust, like maybe your mother. Or you can look it up on the internet.

Answer 9

hahahahahaha. most women are a bit on the dry side their first time.....you were nervous. new experience. and yes, losing your virginity does hurt, the amount of pain varies from woman to woman, but it hurt REALLY bad for me. also.....not orgasming is common for women. only 10 percent of women actually ever reach a real orgasm. the reason you didn't was probably that you were nervous, and a little uncomfortable. once you get used to it, the fluids will start flowing, and you will get pleasure. it just may take a few months. just take it slow and make sure there is a lot of foreplay first. just relax. if you and your husband love eachother, things will fall into place. just ask him to take it slower next time.

Answer 10

My first time was a painful affair too. Neither one of us really knew what we were doing. Trust me, it gets better with practice.

Foreplay helps. If you're both taking your time and doing the things that please eachother then you're giving your body time to get ready.

Use lubrication if necessary. KY jelly is a tried and true product.

If you're still having trouble see your gynecologist. Some women simply have trouble in the "wet" department.

P.S. I hope your husband is a patient and understanding man. If he is, then things will be just fine.