We dated about 4 years before marriage and have been married for 6 years. About 4 years ago she told me she (out of the blue) wanted to start seeing other people cuz she really didnt want to get married at the time we did. She has recently went out of town on th weekend of our anniversary and had sex with someone else, and has also told me that in the beginning part of her even being with me, was to just get out of her moms house.
I feel so stupid and used and naive
2007-09-30 11:24:07 · 26 answers · asked by Flavor Flav 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Holy cow. That is the most rotten thing I've read all day. I give her credit for being honest, but ask myself why you are still there. You were used. She's a donkey and a selfish jerk. I am glad she didn't carry this on for another ten years and two kids. Get her out or you get out and get on with finding the one who will really love you. How absolutely awful. You were nice, she was not. Don't feel stupid, just feel angry, mourn her and get on with the happy part of your life. Unreal.
Why she would ever tell you such rotten things is beyond me. She want's it to be over or she wouldn't hurt you like this. It is time to say good bye and mean it.
2007-10-01 20:12:13 · answer #1 · answered by Larry The Don ® 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Holy cow. That is the most rotten thing I've read all day. I give her credit for being honest, but ask myself why you are still there. You were used. She's a donkey and a selfish jerk. I am glad she didn't carry this on for another ten years and two kids. Get her out or you get out and get on with finding the one who will really love you. How absolutely awful. You were nice, she was not. Don't feel stupid, just feel angry, mourn her and get on with the happy part of your life. Unreal.
Why she would ever tell you such rotten things is beyond me. She want's it to be over or she wouldn't hurt you like this. It is time to say good bye and mean it.
2007-09-30 18:28:54 · answer #2 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that would be painful im so sorry well if she feels that way that it was just to get out of her moms house pack her sh!t and get a divorce how can she use u like that especially what she did on ur anniversary. how can someone do that im sorry i think it is horrible to play with someones heart and emotions u better toughen up and get even. so ur telling me u waisted 10 years of ur life with women hunny move on i know its not easy but no one deserves to be used like that. all that time and energy and money and she is so ungrateful she wants to see other people then she never shouldve got married. i hope u find the Right One for u cuz she aint it bub.u just dont do thta let her "boyfriend " deal with her crap u dont need that from her there are plenty of other GOOD women out there. dont settle for that crap it a marrige based on lies. goodluck let me know how things go i would like to know more email me vandjforever1@yahoo.com
2007-09-30 18:36:13 · answer #3 · answered by vanessa m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is horrible honey and you deserve sooo much better! If I were you would seek counseling now so after you tell her *** you want a divorce you can work on recovering day by day. This is no excuse for her to lead you on or to marry you. Her *** is going to pay dearly for that and after it is all said and done she will be calling you again. I hate that you are going through this but you will be a stronger person honey trust me. Pray about it though because the answer you seek will be revealed to you sooner then you think!Good luck
2007-09-30 18:34:55 · answer #4 · answered by Flyyasever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your wife is immature and a b*tch she needs to grow up and see that you do not go and marry someone for no reasons vows are serious. Your wife is a whore and she needs to be dumped by you, get a woman that will want you and you only...she wants everyone which is kind of gross. I know it must hurt but sometimes it is better just to leave it all behind you!!! :) Your wife is stupid for not seeing what she has she could end up with someone really bad!!! LIKE I SAID DIVORCE HER GOD ONLY KNOWS WHAT ELSE THE DIRTY B*TCH HAS DONE BEHIND YOUR BACK!!!
2007-09-30 18:29:25 · answer #5 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't believe her. She has invented an excuse to do what she wants to do. That is all it is. She wants to cheat, and in order not to feel like a really horrible person, she has given herself permission because she "didn't really want to get married". Its a lie. If it wasn't it wouldn't have taken 6 years for her to realize that.
2007-09-30 18:31:45 · answer #6 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you are crushed, but if she is treating you like that, she doesn't deserve you and that's what I'd tell her as I walked out the door. If she wants to party and act like an adolescent with raging hormones then I'd leave her to her own misery. Furthermore, if she's sleeping around, I'd really worry about contracting a sexually transmitted disease.
2007-09-30 18:36:59 · answer #7 · answered by ursobustedmr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are stupid used and naive. Why would you marry someone who has TOLD you she didn't want to be with you.
What she is doing, is of course very wrong. You should file for divorce. What she is doing is not fair to you.
Next time you think you want to marry someone...listen to what they have to say about the relationship before you marry her.
2007-09-30 18:32:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
At least she is telling you these things. Now that you really know, it's time to move on. If you continue, she will loose the little respect she has for you and continue to play you like a fool. Respect yourself.
2007-09-30 19:09:11 · answer #9 · answered by Lucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer, to make sure of your legal rights, and get out, I know the temptation must be tremendous but don't do anything that will ruin your life. Good luck!!!!!
2007-09-30 18:30:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋