My wife of 18 years has been having an affair for the last 6 months. I tried to stay with her to work things out, but she has no intention of stopping seeing him. She says she loves me and doesn't want to live without me, but she can't cut him out of her life now. I moved out 6 weeks ago and she still seems to be holding on. So how long do I wait to pull the plug?
2007-09-30 11:03:14 · 10 answers · asked by Howlin M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do it now. Your wife has told you she has no intention of giving up that other person, then there is nothing left to hang on to.
She is not fully invested in your marriage, and can't be while there's someone else. And she's not willing to make the sacrifice, the effort to get it back on track. She wants it all, and its time for you to say she can't have it.
***Valentinezday - they are married 16 years, I doubt youth is an excuse.
2007-09-30 11:14:08 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to forget that you loved this person for now, and wait and see what are her intentions from this kind of relationship? If she's only lost because she's young and immature or she's just some kinda person who likes to play games and disrespect you.
Pull away and watch what's gonna change. then when you make the final decision it's No regrets.
2007-09-30 11:09:38 · answer #2 · answered by valentinzday 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You don't. Why are you waiting for her to decide what you are doing with your life? Are you kidding? She chose him. She just wants you there in case it doesn't work out. Ewww. Get out of it and get on with the job of making yourself a happy person. Do not listen to what she SAYS. What she DOES is reality. So sorry. Mourn and move on and don't go back unless you want a repeat performance.
2007-09-30 11:07:44 · answer #3 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just get on with your life, find some hobbies, keep busy, and put her out of your mind and work on yourself. Stay separated for as long as you like, you will know when it is time to file for divorce or she will. There is no hurry!
2007-09-30 11:27:24 · answer #4 · answered by Dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are thousands of women out there looking for a person like you. Let them know you are now available.
2007-09-30 11:14:35 · answer #5 · answered by William C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TOSS HER OUT.
She doesn't love you; she likes eating her cake and having it too. Stop being a doormat. He's probably some loser who can't (or won't) support her so she wants you for support and him for sex.
THAT IS PATHETIC!!!!!!! Tell her to pack her bags and get the hell OUT.
2007-09-30 11:17:05 · answer #6 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt be putting up with it anymore!! why undermind yourself?? you should know that you deserve better. no one is worth your time if they cheat on you. shes just holding on to you if things with her other guy end up not working out. ive seen this happen before.
2007-09-30 11:20:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it's hard to let go but she can't love you that much if she is still seeing him. she probally doesnt want to hurt your feeling's by telling you she doesnt love you, also it's o.k. for her to do it but when you date some one you will see the truth. i suggest you start dating and see what happen's. good luck
2007-09-30 11:14:17 · answer #8 · answered by imj420vjs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PULL IT UR BILL IS GETTING TO HIGH!
2007-09-30 11:07:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no longer! do it now!
2007-09-30 11:06:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋