...You see I have to talk about some issues withmy boyfriend...he is very complaing with the others and never satisfied...not with me but other people...
And every time I'm with him I want to open this theme and talk about it...
But every time I want to talk about it...he says sweet words, he gives me more attention, he says he loves me...
how come he knows I want to open themes that might lead us to break up...
it seems that he wouldn't let me...and I must admit part of me is falttered...
What do you think about this..any similar experiences....?
2007-09-30 11:00:21 · 5 answers · asked by Aquamarine 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
...I mean he faltteres me in a good way not in a scary way like wouldn't let me like some control freak.
2007-09-30 11:21:52 · update #1
I meant flatteres.
2007-09-30 11:22:22 · update #2
You are being manipulated. Maybe you need to write him a letter. You can take time to carefully word everything in a letter.
When he complains about other people is it to keep you away from family and friends? If the answer is yes, that is a controlling person and not good for a relationship
2007-09-30 11:06:02 · answer #1 · answered by kadel 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He may sense that you have a serious topic to talk about and that's his way of changing the subject. Plus he may figure if he says sweet things to you, that maybe you will put off this topic til a later time. Another words it could be his way of stalling. Just giving possibilities is all.
2007-09-30 18:27:26 · answer #2 · answered by Smarty Pants™ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're right. He thinks he's sooo clever and you won't notice when he's trying to distract you from asking question. I'm afraid to say he's hiding something. Whether its emotional i don't know, but next time he tries to sweet talk you into not asking him things, tell him it can't wait. You want this relationship to be honest. And at this moment you don't feel it is.
2007-10-01 11:04:13 · answer #3 · answered by †100% Angel† 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU HAVE A GUY WHO HAS BEEN DOWN THIS ROAD BEFORE AND THINKS HE IS SMOOTH BUT IF I GUESS BY THE UNDELYING TONES HE IS A CREEP.
IGNORE HIS SWEET TALK AND GET HIM PINNED DOWN OR TELL HIM TO WALK--LATER IN LIFE HE WILL LAY AROUND AND SWEET TALK YOU WHILE HE WATCHES TV, GOES OUT WITH THE GUYS, AND YOU WORK MAKE DINNER AND DO THE HOUSE CLEANING AND LAUNDRY BECAUSE THIS GUY THINKS LIKE THE OLD DUDES--WOMEN ARE HER TO CATER TO A MAN--WOW GIRL WAKE UP AND SMELL THE ROSES NOT THE TREATMENT PLANT--RUN GIRL RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN AND DO NOT LOOK BACK
2007-09-30 18:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by ahsoasho2u2 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to discuss something, then by God DISCUSS IT.
PERIOD.
If you LET him sweet talk you out of it, then you're just as (voluntarily) blind as he is clever
2007-09-30 18:12:00 · answer #5 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋