but she crys alot!!! she burned dinner and sat on the couch crying for 20 minutes I held her and told her it was ok" no big deal we will order pizza babe" i told her and she kept apologizing all night...she cries if she cant figure out what is wrong with the baby we fed changed burped held her last night and tried rocking her to sleep and she kept waking crying loudly!!! my wife sat crying saying she was a horrible mom and wife..HELP!!What should I do? Could it be postpartum?
2007-09-30 10:52:06 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like post partum to me. She needs a specialist quick, before it goes on to long and she starts having more serious thoughts or starts acting out!! It is very good that you are supportive but outside help is the answer. Call your local hospital and see if they have some type of nurse hot line so she could at least talk to someone, female preferably.
2007-09-30 10:57:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
her hormones are messed up. Post partum depression is a real issue and should be adressed by a dr. They may prescribe a mild anitidepressant or they may just reassure her that she is ok.
being a new mom is hard, being a new mom with raging hormones and a screaming newborn and 3 other children is even harder. She probably feels like she has been sucked into the miassive hold and feels like she cannot climb out.
Until you can get her to a dr is there anyone who can come and sit for a few hrs? you can take her out for dinner and just give her some downtime. If not than reassure her that she IS ok, she is a great mom, and that you love her.
PPD can have some drastic effects if its ignored or not taken seriously. PLEASE make sure her dr listens to her if he/she will not help and shoves it under the rug please find another dr. Most women get through thsi on their own but there are also a large number of women that needs medication to help through it. Its not forever, its just for a while. if she is nursing do not let the dr say there is nothing that is safe while nursing, there are plenty a/d that can be used safely during breastfeeding.
2007-09-30 10:57:50 · answer #2 · answered by zipperfootpress 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's not clinically depressed, she's a mother. I wouldn't want a 4 month old in a daycare either. Perhaps you guys should find a home daycare instead. That way the baby gets more one-on-one attention. Perhaps your wife would feel better about that. A family friend who's a stay at home mom watches my baby. She raised 5 very nice, intelligent children, so I don't mind at all that she's practically my daughter's second mother. I am very blessed to have her in my daughter's life. I would not feel that way if my daughter was in a daycare. If I was a guy and my wife wanted to stay home that badly, I would find a way to make it happen. But maybe I only say that because i'm female and I understand how she's feeling. Ie., maybe you need to start looking for a better job. Or move into a crappy area now, and once the kid is schoolaged, mom can get a job again and you guys can move into a better area with better schools. Sacrifice hobbies. Clip coupons. Realize that even working costs money (gas, parking, tolls...where I live).
2016-05-17 13:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It definitely could be. You should go out of your way to prepare a special evening for her. Cook dinner, clean up, and pamper her. Prepare something while she's out, or asleep... when she wakes up, surprise her with it. It can be a small gesture, it doesn't have to be huge... but make sure she knows you love her. Hold her and tell her that she's the best wife and the best mother in the world, and that you'll always love her. This won't change the postpartum depression, but it might make her night. In the morning, when she's feeling better, talk to her about getting help for her depression. GOOD LUCK!!! You seem like a great husband. ** Maybe you can get your other kids to help surprise her as well. This will make her feel like she's a great mom.
2007-09-30 10:56:10 · answer #4 · answered by leigh 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Totally sounds like postpartum. Her hormones are all over the place. You should get her to a doctor as soon as possible and you should go with her so you can objectively let the dr know what's been happening. Sometimes women (speaking for myself) don't want to admit there may be something wrong with us and won't tell the dr the entire story. She really does need some help though, wether it be postpartum or even just plain exhaustion. At any rate she is overwhelmed.
2007-09-30 10:58:23 · answer #5 · answered by M e 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah is sounds like post partum. You can help by offering to take care of some of the chores. You could sit and talk with her at night when you have all the children to sleep. Don't bother asking what can be done just do it.
If you attend a church or know of someone she is close to softly suggest she spend time with them too. Talk to that person and get them to agree to take her out for a couple of hours. Just be the loving husband you always are!
Good luck
2007-09-30 10:58:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah it seems like she's got the "baby blues" her body is changing and her hormones are trying to regulate themselves and no doubt she's lacking in the sleep department. plus you have 3 other children she feels the need to take care of plus run the house hold and all that on top of a new baby she has to get to know. I can't imagine how hard it is for you to see her going throug all of this. all I can suggest is that you help her out as much as you can by doing more chores around the house (get the other kids to help pitch in if they're old enough) and maybe you can make dinner a few nights for her. Get up in the middle of the night with the baby and help out a lot with your new little one. Maybe you can send her out (while you take care of the house and the kids for a while) to a massage or spa day for herself even if it's just to get a pedicure or a manicure or a new haircut. Even run her a hot bath at home with sweet smelling bubbles and let her be alone for a half hour with peace and quiet. you can even be the one to give her a body massage at night when the kids all go to bed. just be patient and understanding. you seem like a caring husband who loves his wife and is worried about her. she really is going through a alot. you just have to love her and help her out. it will pass and if it dosen't go away she can go talk to her doctor about it and maybe they can figure something out. just reassure her she's a wonderful wife and mother and tell her how much you love her and that you think she's beautiful...even when she looks like hell. good luck and god bless!
2007-09-30 11:06:47 · answer #7 · answered by tookoolfool 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Postnatal depression. She needs rest and lots of attention. Have her mum or someone close to her to come in and take care of things for awhile, help out with the other children, doing some meals, housework etc., let her relax if she cannot rest, get mum to take care of tending to baby during the day or night so she can get extra sleep. Love her with all your heart, don't baby her just love her.
If things do continue on a downward spiral take her to the Doctor.
2007-09-30 11:02:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it is definitely postpartum depression. Talk to her about the subject but don't "insist".
Say, "Sweetie, I love you and I know what you're going through is because of the hormones from the baby... it's postpartum depression. I just want to help you so I think we should see the doctor. I just want you to be the happy and loving woman I know."
Then, see a doctor ASAP.
2007-09-30 10:58:16 · answer #9 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A call the ob/gyn and let them know what you have written here. It is entirely possible that she is experiencing "post partum" depression due to a hormal imbalance. Not to mention exhaustion from having four kids. Post partum is natural and she needs the doctor to follow up ...no, you all need the follow up help the doctor can offer.
2007-09-30 10:56:30 · answer #10 · answered by wawawebis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋