do you think children complicate a relationship?

Question

and thats the reason people end up cheating or getting divorced?

Answer 1

Yes.. I learned in my sociology class that a couple's satisfaction and happiness with each other usually plummits when they have children because of the added stress on the relationship. Sometimes the wife or husband may feel second to the child so they look for an outside source to give them that romantic attention that they had with their spouse before their children were born. In other cases, the emotional attachment is increased when children are born, but the physical attachment may decrease because couples usually have less time or energy to connect physically or sexually when children are born. This may lead to cheating or divorce in some circumstances.

Answer 2

I don't really think complicate is the correct term to use. Along with children come a lot of responsibilities, and they definitely change your priorities, or they should. I do not think children should ever be blamed for people cheating on each other or labeled the cause of divorce. Something was wrong with the relationship with or without children if they cheat on each other, or end up getting divorced. Some people can't change their priorities when kids come along, but that is not the kids fault, it's the parent's.

Answer 3

The responsibility of having children, means that you have to make sure that the decisions you make will be in their best interest. So, in that, yes, children can complicate a relationship, otherwise, one can be pretty free to do anything they want if they don't have to care for anybody else, but themselves.
I wouldn't say children are why people end up divorcing or having an affair.
Those who do that, are those who can't handle any responsibility at all and need a reason, whichever it is to hide behind.
When you go into a relationship, you decide to date someone, it's already complicated, because, it means that your decision can affect your partner and so, you do have to take your significant half in consideration. So, if you're selfish, it's pretty demanding, difficult, complicated and can lead to break up or cheating.
Because, at the end of the day, what you want is to have your cake and eat it. Complication only comes with guilt, because you're doing something you know you should not be doing, since you have responsibility towards someone else: Children or partner!

Answer 4

Of course children complicate a relationship. After children come along the freedom to do crazy, spur of the moment things ends. There are more responsibilities and another life is depending on you. But, children, in most cases are not the reason for divorce.

Answer 5

Children can complicate any and everything like even making dinner!! but they sure as heck aren't what makes people cheat- that is because the one who is cheating is inconsiderate and self-indulgent, not to mention deceitful and immoral.

There is an exception that I have to make a note of, and that is if the cheater is a survivor of any childhood sexual abuse, you probably should give them a chance ONCE to redeem themselves by talking to a therapist and admitting that it is part of a sickness in them that needs to be cured. Also you must not let them get away with it ever again because that will not help either of you. Believe it or not, they want you to keep an eye on them and prevent such actions, not only because it is wrong but because they feel more loved that way.

Answer 6

children can only complicate if you allow them. It is your attitude. They have a natural cost and concerns when someone comes into their parents lives. Treat them as they should be treated and include them in all that you can. Be honest with them. If them are complicating for the other person, maybe it is the wrong person for you. If someone is going to leave or cheat it is NOT because of the kids. Kids are a great blessing to any GOOD relationship

Answer 7

Children should never be a reason to try and save a marriage...so I suppose they could complicate a marriage...but children are never to blame for problems between two adults. Who in their right mind would blame a child as the reason for cheating or getting a divorce?

Answer 8

Children are hard work, not the reason people break up. If the parents couldnt work together in games or bills they will most likely be horrible parents. And its not, "My kid" or "No its my kid". That is truley white trash. A child is to be a mix between two people who love each other and want their selves to keep going for generation to generation. The kid should be considered "Our child" because it is not a possesion or sound mean. Because a child is a mix between 2 people. But children are not the reason parents divorce and break up.

Answer 9

Basically,it all depends on the status of the relationship before the kids. Children can cause and certainly will try the patience of any marriage and take it to the extremes, but a marriae that was shaky befor the children will certainly destroy itself and many will resort to whatever means to help cope with any marital problems. Children themselves will not destroy amarriage but the stress that comes from raising them will. Having children will not save a troubled marriage but will usually compound the problems already existing within the marriage to the point of destruction, but very few,due to children have affairs

Answer 10

YES! I think the #1 mistake of having children is people's naivety. Just because you are married doesn't mean you should have children right off the bat. You need to make sure you are making lots of money and your relationship is great. Also realize that sex will not be like it was when you didn't have children. I don't think that many guys know that. That's why they tend to go ape **** afterwards.