When I say immediate family I mean mother, father, sister, brother, aunt, uncle, grandmother or grandfather. I have five aunts and two of them in particular get very upset because I don't buy them Christmas gifts. I primarily buy my mother, my brother and my grandmother gifts and that's it. These two aunts are known to act "snobby" about what you buy them. It has to be a certain namebrand or it has to cost "x" amount of dollars. Instead of getting upset about how the react to my gifts, I just say forget it.
2007-09-30 09:04:44 · 18 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Not really, we all understand each others situations, and if someone doesn't have the money, there's no problem. The only thing that matters, during the holiday's is that the family is together, and enjoying them together. We have a rule in our family that, majority of the gifts and enjoyment should be geared toward the young children and the grandchildren.
We also put money together and send a care package to someone in the armed forces, if they can't be home then we send things from home they can enjoy.
Adults understand that, Holiday's are not always about giving presents. It more about the time you spend with family and the meaning of that in itself is priceless. PEACE
:-)
2007-09-30 09:11:44 · answer #1 · answered by ~* Garden Empress*~ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The thing that was missing from this was, why does she hate Christmas? There's a reason for her behavior and, as her husband, you need to find out what it is. Maybe she had a traumatic experience or lost a loved one, etc. Her behavior sucked. That's a given. But you should get to the root of her behavior by finding out what emotions were driving it. Clearly it was a big enough deal that she couldn't think to put your appreciation for the holiday first so that's gotta be something big. Maybe counseling is in order to make her open up to you? You should approach this in a non threatening way but make sure she understands that you need to know why she behaved this way so you can make things better. Once you find out what's really behind it, you can tell her how much you appreciate when she is supportive of your excitement and come to a compromise for next year.
2016-05-17 11:52:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I never get upset about things like this. My family expresses their love in other ways than monetarily. And we have such a large family, that we could easily go bankrupt trying to buy for everyone! So usually the adults will exchange cards, and we just buy gifts for the small kids.
2007-09-30 09:12:48 · answer #3 · answered by Jinxyblue 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd only be offended if they bought something for everyone but me. But if we werent exchanging presents, or I knew they were having money issues, then no, I wouldnt care. In my family we draw names and just buy for that one person. (only for people 18 and over, we all buy for the kids). we usually set a 25 dollar limit. It's way cheaper that way and everyone prefers it. That way we all get one thing that we really want (we make a list for the person who drew our name), instead of a bunch of crappy little gifts, and we dont have to go in debt just because it's christmas.
2007-09-30 09:09:31 · answer #4 · answered by Dani 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
My family kept cutting back more and more until we finally gave up buying gifts altogether. Everyone is a lot happier. Christmas is for little kids was one excuse. Can't afford it anymore was another. It's such a hassle. Getting together for parties, dinners, being together is what counts.
2007-09-30 09:12:48 · answer #5 · answered by Just Tink 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well....
If they didnt do anything for the past 24 days...
Then yeah, I guess so.
I mean, I dont ask for much..
even a little bear would be fine..
but I would feel offended if they intentionally didnt get me anything, because they usually are in the gift-giving nature.
2007-09-30 09:09:28 · answer #6 · answered by weeeebo. 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No, I don't care about gifts. I would like a card or something. But nothing expensive.
2007-09-30 09:09:49 · answer #7 · answered by Some girl there. 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No I don't. We do not make a big deal about Christmas gifts. That is not what Christmas is about.
2007-09-30 09:11:08 · answer #8 · answered by barbwire 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
im used to it ♥ onlee my parents buy me gifts for christmas an birthday. even when my aunts an uncles an my cousins coem to my party, an my friends geve me gifts, an we have a big cook out, an feed them a beg meal, they never buy me anythin, not even a card. i duno why!! ♥ we always make the relatives cookies, or pies for christmas, an we always get our cousins gifts at their birthdays
2007-09-30 09:10:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
No I'd rather see them get gifts for others like little kids.
2007-09-30 09:09:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋