me and my kids father has been through alot together he was my first sexually partner we have two kids together but every since we start having kids he has been to jail the first time he did 18 months an di was their but as soon as he got out we broke up he stay out for 4 months and went back now he is doing 2 years we are together again but lately i haven't had the energy to play childish games but it seems to me he cant stop playing games he about 8 years older then me and i fiqured he would be different from younger boys he's unfaithful and a liarwhat should i do
2007-09-30 09:00:59 · 10 answers · asked by tiffany m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
only you can decide what's best for you. For me I wouldn't stick around, my kids would need a positive influence from their father not that sort. Kids need the stability.
Sometimes its better to be alone and be happy than be with someone and be miserable.
Don't stay because of the kids, thats putting to much onus on 2 small children, when they grow up and they ask why you divorced daddy and you say b/c we wanted to stay together b/c of you, that can damage a child's psyche and sense of wellbeing. If you choose to leave its b/c of what you want, never say i did it for the kids etc etc.
2007-09-30 09:05:18 · answer #1 · answered by zipperfootpress 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself what do you want in your life, job, future, house, what ever it may be. Then ask yourself who hold you back. Before you do all of that what about your kids.
Men come a dime a dozon. First you have kids to think about. What can he do in jail.
two You are holding YOURSELF BACK! You can do better girl.
Go to school, get a job, what ever you do think about those two little ones first. Then set you some short term and long term goals. (be realistic)
Really you can answer your own question. You said that he is a liar and unfaithful. DO YOU WANT THAT IN YOUR CHILDREN AND YOUR LIFE? People are people and men are men no matter the age.
keep(true) friends and family around who really love you. Learn and grow from what you have been through. Your true friends and family will help you thruogh though times.(when you think that you really want trouble back)
Be strong
grow
learn
love yourself
forgive yourself
believe you are worth more that gold
dont let anyone tell you different
2007-09-30 09:26:27 · answer #2 · answered by Rejeana L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I have been in a similar relationship myself. I had my first child at 16 and her father was my first as well. I got pregnant the first time i ever had sex, and to make matters worst he went to jail 2 days after i find out i was pregnant. he got out when i was 8 months. he stay out until two weeks after our daughter was born, than he went to prison for 3 years. i knew than that we were over so i told him it was over. i was young but not to young to realize that this was not the relationship that god wanted for me and my daughter deserved at least one parent who had her best interest at heart. so i moved and went to college went through 2 more relationships before i found the love of my life. we are now engaged and have beautiful little together, and he loves my older daughter like she was his own he adopted her and gave her his last name. i look back on my life and i ask myself would i changed anything and the answer is no, because if i didn't meet my oldest daughter's father i wouldn't have been blessed with such a loving beautiful little girl. I think that the father of your children is a leaf in your life, and like a leaf he will wither off and die. the man in your future will be the roots to your tree and he is the one that will keep you strong and love you through thick and thin because this is the man that god has made especially for you. everyone makes the wrong choices at one put in their lives, but sooner our later they wise up and they make the right choices and the best choices for themselves and their families. i wish you all the happiness in the world. leave that man and i promise you god will send you a good one. god bless you and your two beautiful children.
2007-09-30 09:30:12 · answer #3 · answered by tasheema22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, don't stay just because of the kids. Second, if you can't trust, what do you have? If you have given him opportunities and he has let you down you really need to sit back and look at what you have. It will keep happening if it hasn't stopped by now. Have you talked with him about your feelings and let him know you are questioning the relationship?
2007-09-30 09:04:59 · answer #4 · answered by tri-mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes unfaithful and a liar??? and you want to know what you should do?? what kind of question is that ? leave? how does he have the time to be in and out of jail then have chick on the die and lie to you? take s\care of your children sweety. its jsut your children and yourself. he aint doing nothing for you. if he cared he would cut the childish games out but he dont and he know that you going to put up with it so he going to keep playing them till you put your foot down.
good luck
2007-09-30 09:06:40 · answer #5 · answered by lizz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah...keep on at it girl. He sounds like the ultimate best guy EVER! (sarcasm) Seriously...this dude has been to jail twice, he's been unfaithful and a liar...and you are here asking WHAT YOU SHOULD DO?! Seriously, he is the epitomy of loserdom!
2007-09-30 09:04:27 · answer #6 · answered by CC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have described a criminal, a cheat and a liar.
ok, he is your childrens father and you cant change that, but is this really the person you want to spend the rest of your life with?
ultimately your choice, but if he is in and out of jail you are basically a single parent already
2007-09-30 09:06:01 · answer #7 · answered by L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to forget him and move on. he is probably going to spend most of the rest of his life in prison for one thing or another and that is not good for you or the children.
2007-09-30 09:06:27 · answer #8 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are u serious dont be another statistic be smart give a good example to your children and make something of youre life but not with him
2007-09-30 09:19:25 · answer #9 · answered by love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like bad news,
if he can't commit to a solid life with you and your children,
it's probably best to keep your relationship at bay.
2007-09-30 09:04:34 · answer #10 · answered by k.ryckman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋