Revenge and personal justice,whats the differance?

Question

Hello,
I had a bad relationship that haunts me to this day.I was with a girl for 4 1/2 years and it was always shaky.We met when I was 17 and she was 16(six months apart) we joined the army together when I was 19 and her 18. Well after a year of training we both got back to our MN arng units. We got a place
I ahad saved all my money and also made alot of gem investments in my fathers company. Well it was subtle at first but at every turn she would supersupcede me.Like my father sending us $1000 to purchase a beater car,She stole my other car and crashed it while on break in her military uniform/
I told her not to drive it to work and just bus like we have been doing because we diddn't have insurance.Well we got the thousand and she was to pay and then be rembursed when the check clears.We went car hunting and she found one put it in her name(I would have it in both our names) and pocketed the money,I was out a grand and she keeps the car? Continues....

and thought this was completely acceptable.Well because of the move I couldn't get mail where we lived because I wasn't on the lease(All though I was soposed to be)and paid my full half,actualy almost all of it,every pay check from work,gem investments,militarypay,returns,everything I gave to her to take care of the bills.
my rent was $325 a month $50 cellphone and uttilities and I never bought myself clothes or anything and could never afford a pack of smokes yet I made over $2500 a month. She was constantly buying herself **** and when she got me something with my own money for me I owed her!! I realy just trusted her and she walked all over me.
Well I lost my job due to an injury inflicted on me by her.She butchered my hand with a big ole knife,had eleven stitches..I diddn't call the cops because I loved her..I was always orientated towards her.Everything I did was for her even joining the army to provide a better ;life for her. Well I wised up to it continue..

I know my spelling sux..after all this **** for some reason or another I've developed dislexia. Well I wanted to just see a phone bill.....that she wanted me to pay and she wouldn't. I was realy screwed.Well we broke up I had on 11 different occasions brought police escorts to retrieve my property with no success.Well the army ordered her to return my stuff and she cut all my army stuff up and sent it to my unit. She then got some army guys to jump me after drills. Well she still has all my stuff and alot of military as well. She's had death threaats sent to myt parents home to kill my 6 yr old niece and 3 year old nephew and to shoot up the house and everything. She intensionaly keeps all my things because she knows I can't let go and move on with some of the stuff she kept. I simply want to move out and move on. If there's a way to f*ck me over she has.She even still has my baby photos and military awards. I can't sue her because of the time thats passed.
I don't want to hurt her

revenge is dumb..I want to punish her and pursue justice.She will never,ever return my things.Since it won't be resolved and I don't want to go against my own princilbes by repeating her act in return. I want to show consequences to the actions and to punish her for whats she done.I don't want to get her back for whats she's done I just want justice....how can this be rationalized..I'm not walking away from it it's either I get my stuff back or she keeps it at a price....... what should I do to end this? Walking away doesn't work and doesn't resolve this///it has to be actions not words so what actions do you think would teach her a lesson

Answer 1

I think I can probably answer without reading the conclusion to your little story. Let it go. Resentment and anger are like a bag of bricks, just set it down and move on your life will be much easier that way.

Answer 2

Both sound illegal to me. Being in love and being ignorant sometimes follow suit. You need to think ahead. You "allowed" all this to happen and are now paying for it. You will pay more if you continue to dwell on it and take any type illegal actions against her. Live and learn.

Answer 3

Dude.

They let you in the army and you can't even spell or compose a readable sentence?

Wow - I feel safer already.