getting circumsized?

Question

ok so heres the deal im almost 17 and i am uncircumsized. i hate my parents for it. i wish i was circumsized. my foreskin was always really tight and i couldnt pull it back but recently i did manage to get it pulled back but its still pretty tight. its fine until i become erect in which case it hurts. Also the head is extremely sensitive and sometimes hurts when touched or rubbed against. I really would prefer to just get circumsized but im unsure of the cost and whether or not there could be bad side effects for getting it done later in life. if someone could please provide me details of this and/or advice it would be great. Im very self conscious of being uncircumsized and this condition i seem to have only adds to it.

Answer 1

You shouldn't be mad at your parents. They kept your opinion in mind by giving you the choice. There's many users on here that are circumcised and not satisfied with the forced decision; they can't do anything about it. You on the other hand, have the choice; you aren't forced into anything. You should be thankful for that. Unfortunately your foreskin is one of the few ones with 'troubles' but those can be fixed.

It seems like stretching it working. I'd continue working on it so you can see the end result. I also had a tight foreskin as a teen and really liked the end result (when it worked as it should). As for the sensitivity, you can fix that without circumcision. Circumcision would only force it to be fixed by having the head rubbing all the time, so as you can imagine it would be quite uncomfortable for the first few weeks, apart from the month of no sex/masturbation/pain that you'd be restricted to. You can gradually desensitize it better. I wrote the following in another post, but it should help you, too.

If you have a tight foreskin, you can actually stretch it like I did. When you shower. =)

Work on getting it less tight. Here's what you do. When you shower and soaping up your body, pull the foreskin back the most you can without forcing it, and then wash the head there underneath. If you do this for a few weeks each day, you'll see results. It'll slide back a little more every few days.

(and this part is in case your head is too sensitive to touch; might not be if you've been able to pull the foreskin back when soft) Now, as for the sensitivity, as studies have proven, the foreskin keeps the head sensitive. That's not a bad thing, since that creates pleasure. However, you don't want it too sensitive. Yours is just too sensitive because it hasn't been used much before. So you just have to rub it gently at first for some weeks and you'll see the difference. Then you'll be able to rub the head however you want. =) So in a way, those two things are tied.

So yeah, work on it and in a few weeks you'll like it. =) And of course, feel free to e-mail me from my profile if you have any questions!

If you work on it, everything will eventually be fine, as it was for me. (is for me, I mean)

In the end, if the stretching fails after a few weeks, you can ask a doctor for a cream. It's 0.05% betamethasone, which is successful in over 90% of cases. You can even take the study to him. It's a really inexpensive cream; Wal-Mart sells it for $4 with prescription and online you can buy it for about $10 at drugstore.com, for example.
http://www.scielo.br/scielo.php?pid=S1677-55382005000400012&script=sci_arttext

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As for circumcision, from a medical standpoint it does carry risks. For example, studies have proven that it loses sensitivity afterwards. Others have found masturbation difficulty. Here's some info from research from studies and statistics, I hope it helps.

Circumcision is a traditionally Jewish and Muslim surgery, although it was introduced and encouraged to the Western, developed world (North America and Europe, but especially the USA) as a way to stop masturbation, especially with the help of Dr. Kellogg. (see link 1) However, although scientific studies have discovered that circumcision harms masturbation by up to over 60% (2), needless to say, it doesn’t completely stop masturbation. Many circumcised guys just find it more convenient to use a lube like KY or lotion as a result (3) since the typically moist foreskin (like the eyelids) is not there to rub the head of the penis with (4).

Most developed nations quickly rejected circumcision after noticing its ineffectiveness against masturbation (they were quite religious back then!), and as a result the United States remains the last developed nation doing it to a significant percentage of newborns. (5) This was done as a result of the for-profit American health care system promoting myths about benefits of circumcision (6), such as preventing penile cancer (6a, 6b), preventing HIV (6c, 6d) despite the USA being the developed nation with the highest HIV rates and circumcision rates (6e, 5), and preventing STDs (6d, 6f). As a result, circumcision now brings in hundreds of millions of dollars to doctors and the American health system. (7)

However, circumcision has been becoming less popular as years have passed by. In the 1960s over 90% of guys were circumcised in the USA, now circumcision rates are as low as 14% in some states. (8) More and more parents are discovering that circumcision carries more risks than benefits, and realize that by leaving their sons uncircumcised, their sons have the choice of choosing what they’d like, since the surgery is irreversible (you can't go back if you don't like it or if it goes wrong).

Circumcision risks include the loss of sexual pleasure according to multiple studies (2, 9, 10, 11). Those studies take into effect many sensation points, including the foreskin, and they involve many participants. There have been other studies that claim no difference, but they don’t even take into effect the nerve endings on the foreskin, which as seen in one study, are some of the most sensitive points on the penis (10). One study even found an increase in erectile dysfunction rates after circumcision (10a). In another study, it was found that females ended up reaching orgasm with and preferring uncircumcised males in 9 out of 10 cases (10b). In addition, circumcision is extremely painful on newborns (12, 13, 14), and you risk many bad conditions, such as a buried penis when too much foreskin is removed and limits the size of the penis (15), or adhesions or skin bridges that develop from the head to the shaft when the skin heals after the surgery (16), meatal stenosis [occurs in up to 10% of circumcised males!] when the opening of the penis becomes irritated from too much exposure and rubbing and begins to close up (17), and meatal ulcers (18). All those risks are, of course, not including the possibility of having too much skin removed, which can cause discomfort during erections due to lack of skin to allow the penis to expand, and could consequently cause a hairy penis by pulling pubic hair and skin to the shaft. Often a circumcision scar develops around the penis after circumcision. In addition, circumcision has negative effects on breastfeeding. (18)

To conclude, here is a link that describes the anatomy of the foreskin (19) and the development of the foreskin with infants, a link especially helpful for parents (19a). Ultimately, one survey found that although uncircumcised guys are a bit more satisfied percentage-wise, it’s within the margin of error. (20) The only difference is that those unsatisfied uncircumcised guys can simply get circumcised and end up satisfied either way. If you're cut or uncut and happy, you'll say that side is better. If you got cut later in life, you'll say cut because you had problems with your foreskin before. If you're cut and had something go wrong or wish to have had a choice, then you'll say uncut. One survey found that up to half of circumcised guys wished to have had the choice themselves (as in, been left uncircumcised and they could have chosen to get circumcised if they wished later on in life). That's a huge number. (21) That, along with the risks and negative effects that are being seen more with the help of the Internet, may be what is bringing down circumcision rates.

Answer 2

Hey, your parents gave you a choice, more people regret it the other way and they can never get fixed! Is the only reason you hate it because your foreskin is tight? With practise, that should get better, and you can also make your skin less sensitive by touching it more (after all, that's all that happens when you get circumcised, you lose a lot of sensitivity). Best discuss it with your parents, you will need their permission, or wait until you're 18 to get it done. But I would say with regular stretching and rubbing of the head in the shower every day, your problems should improve. It also might be better to get it done later in life than when you were a baby, because they can see how much skin to remove, and can give you pain killers. Dunno why you'd want to though, my bf is intact too and it's great.

Answer 3

It sounds like you need to continue just a little longer with the stretching exercises and/or hormonal cream. Getting cut should be the last resort, as it lessens both your sexual pleasure and the pleasure you are able to give a partner. And clothing rubbing on the head all the time is extremely irritating and unpleasant. I hope Jorge will post something, as he is really the expert here in dealing with tight foreskin.

Once you are cut, the foreskin is gone forever. Don't make a permanent bodily change to treat a temporary problem!

Answer 4

You shouldn't hate your parents for keeping your penis intact. I'm sure if they had known you would experience problems relating to your foreskin they would have ensured you were circumcized. Also, there is no reason to be embarassed about being uncircumcized - it is the made God made you and entirely natural. Over 85% of the world's men still have a foreskin.
However in this instance I would recommend you see a doctor asap. Because it sounds like it is merely medical motivation for wanting it, you should be able to undergo the operation free of charge. If you aren't exaggerating your dilemma then by the sounds of it you will be recommended to get circumcized.
Email me if you want to discuss more about it :-) I'm sure you will be okay in the end... But if you do require a circumcizion then the sooner the better, as adult circumcizions are riskier than those on newborns.

Answer 5

you should not hate your parents for leaving you intact. at least they gave you the choice to cut or not. the foreskin will loosen up with time and the head will get slightly less sensitive the more you have sex/masturbate. would you want the head to be rubbing on your clothes all day? check out the links and see if you still want it done. I'm uncut and have never had a problem at all.
remember we are the ones who are natural and should be proud, i know i am.

Answer 6

As far as the cost, if you are experiencing pain and tightness, it will be covered by your insurance (but may require an authorization that the Dr. can get for you).
If you are doing it mostly for aesthetics, then that's another thing. It's mostly american men that are circumcised. In Europe it's fairly common for most guys to have an intact foreskin. If you are self conscious, just tell people you are foreign! ;)

Answer 7

I suggest keep stretching. I know you don't believe it, but many people hate their parents for exactly the opposite. At least you have the choice about doing this. And yes, there very well could be side effects. I'd suggest that you keep stretching and ask your doctor about ways to loosen things. Cutting it off should be the last resort.

Answer 8

Its sad that you haven't been able to discuss this with your parents by now to deal with this issue. Perhaps you are too embarrassed. Can you talk to a counselor at school, say its a question about sex education. If you feel comfortable talking to the counselor, maybe he or she will get together with you and your parents,
Generally, its best to go to your parents first, but this is such a sensitive issue, your parents may not have the objectivity to deal with what seems to be both a health and sex education issue. I believe you need to talk to a professional if for no other reason than a neutral person could be more objective, not to mention professionally trained

Answer 9

Dude depending on where you live it may have been the norm not to have thier kid cired you really shouldnt hate your parents for letting you make the desicision that most dudes do not have. If you see your doctor and explain to him what is going on and not be negitve just let him know the facts and that you would like to get it done then there should be no problem. as far as you not liking being uncut and self consicious there really is not a reason for you to be that way your body is the way it suppost to be not altered like all the other dudes. you should be confident in your body and not worry about what others say about your unit. I am uncut and my buddies know i am. they found out in school in the lockerroom. i got comments but I am the same dude just because i am uncut doesnt mean I am any different. In my dating life i had one girl not like it so she was kicked to the curb. She should have been going out with me not my unit. all the rest have had no problem with me being uncirced. have self confidence in yourself and who cares what the other dudes say! why are they lookin at our unit anyway.

good luck dude make the right desision

curtdude
Uncut dude

Answer 10

It will only be covered under medical if the Dr. agrees that it is a medical need to have it done .Your Dr. will not do it just because you want it done for cosmetic reasons under your insurance He/She may do it if you are willing to pay for it out of pocket though .

Answer 11

See a doctor as soon as you can and tell him what you want to have done and why. It is important to mention not only the physical discomfort you are experiencing but also the anxiety and self-conscious feelings you have. It is better done now than later, it is only minor surgery and bad side effects are not something you need to worry about, but it will be sore for a few days afterwards and you must make sure you are properly instructed in post-operative care. Good luck.