whats the best way to handle a ex who doesn't except that we're over?

Answer 1

ignore him - thats the best way, as soon as you engage in texts etc, then he's back in! No communication at all.

Answer 2

that can be a serious problem for some. Keep a log of when he bothers you, if he does, and consider a restraining order if he starts to harass you. Try to avoid situations where he can find you alone. You didn't say whether that is ex boyfriend or husband and whether you are working or still in school so general things, when you leave school or work try to leave with someone else. get a cheap answering machine so you can screen calls and not answer when it is him. If you lived together and he doesn't live there anymore, change the locks on the door. Good Luck to you!!

Answer 3

Most of your answers are pretty bold with their replies, and don't have very much compassion for your Ex. He is a human being and deserves to be treated like one. If the shoe was on the other foot, you would like to be treated a little kinder then what is suggested. I personally think you should both sit down and have a calm talk. Tell him that you did care for him, but now you changed and you want to move on with your life. Also explain to him that he wouldn't want a relationship made up lies and deceit would he? You would much rather be honest about your feelings then lead him on. A good relationship is build on trust, honesty and love. You just don't feel the same way anymore. He should look for someone that will make him happy, and he can spend the rest of his life with. Try this first, I hope he understands, and accepts your honesty. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Well maybe if you knew what you were talking about he would...
Except:
1. Function: preposition
: with the exclusion or exception of
2. Function: conjunction
1 : on any other condition than that : UNLESS
2 : with this exception , namely
3 : ONLY


Accept: Function: verb
Etymology: Middle English, from Anglo-French accepter, from Latin acceptare, frequentative of accipere to receive, from ad- + capere to take -- more at HEAVE
transitive verb
1 a : to receive willingly b : to be able or designed to take or hold (something applied or added)
2 : to give admittance or approval to
3 a : to endure without protest or reaction b : to regard as proper, normal, or inevitable c : to recognize as true : BELIEVE
4 a : to make a favorable response to b : to agree to undertake (a responsibility)
5 : to assume an obligation to pay; also : to take in payment
6 : to receive (a legislative report) officially
intransitive verb : to receive favorably something offered -- usually used with of

Answer 5

To prepare for the possibility it may take a restraining order, write him a letter. Don't make it long. Tell him in short understandable sentences that it is over. That you do not wish him to contact you again either personally, through others, or any other means.

That you hope he will be mature enough to respect your wishes or you will "regretabbly" take other measures.

Send it "certified" with a return receipt requested. Keep a copy and the return receipt when it comes back to you.

This way if he pesters you again ...take copy and return receipt and get a restraining order.

Answer 6

I am in that situation myself. My ex isn't over me. He had tried to find me on numerous occasions. I had ran into him last year and he said that he still wants to be with me. I am totally over him though. He was trying to convince me that he wants to change his ways and all that BS promises. I haven't been with him in over 3.5 years now. I am happier being single. I was with him for 10 years and we have a child together, I have a restraining order against him, for the assault he did back Feb. 2004.
I told him on the phone that he has to move on, that I am not interested in him...I told him that I don't believe him that he is changing his ways to do better, because he was drunk when he phoned me. I had to change my number and everything.
Tell him how it is. Don't give into him. Get a restraining order if you have to if he is stalking you.

Answer 7

i had a ex boyfriend who brokeup with me, and i didnt except it for awhile, until, he did this to me, then i excepted the fact that its over, heres what you should do, number 1 call him and tewll him you are moving to another state, but secretly dont move, make him beleive you are, right after you get off the phone with him, call the operator and get your phone num,ber changed, tell her you do not want the new number to get out to anyone, Number 2 Get a new car or vehicle, one that he will never reconize you in, change jobs, or change your schedule with your job, soo you have different times, Number 3, cvhnage something outside your front house to make him beleive that you are really gone, Get an alrm on your door also, soo he will think someone else lives in your house, make it soo beleviable soo he will stay away for awhile, until he cools down, it took me 6 months, I really beleived my ex left town, Cause everytime i called him, the operator would say, this is disconnected, Soo when i went to his house, a different car and soo forth, until i ran into him at a football game 6 months later, Boy was hurt, and ran after him, But at that point i really was out of love and didnt care Its a rotton trick but it will work,

Answer 8

I wouldn't handle an ex who can't accept it's over at all. I'd steer as clear as I could, tell him you'll involve the authorities if it gets out of hand, but stand firm and tell him you're done...

Answer 9

Well handle her very carefully indeed because she might get the wrong idea I think if I was you I just wouldn't be alone with her under know circumstances.

Answer 10

Telling him straight that it is over. Introducing him to your new date/boyfriend. Changing your phone number, if it gets out of hand. And finally, getting a restraining order against him.