Do women comfortably appreciate the beauty of other women?

Question

I have noticed that most women get suspicious when you give them a nice compliment and think you have other intentions. When a woman compliments me, it's usually followed by "I'm not trying to hit on you, I love men."

I, personally, love and appreciate a woman's body, although it doesn't do much for me sexually since I want a man for that. I love paintings that highlight a woman's sensuality in a tasteful way.

Do we automatically equal appreciation of beauty with sex?

Answer 1

I think women who are comfortable with their own beauty can freely admire others beauty and give compliments without feeling that it demeans themselves.

Answer 2

I don't think that the appreciation of beauty always equals sex. Most men and women, if they are honest with themselves, have seen people of both genders who they would consider quite beautiful and not had a sexual attraction to them.
There are many different reasons to admire beauty, such as color, form, line. You put it all together in one package and you have a gorgeous painting, sculpture, or person. It has never occurred to me that a woman or a man might take my compliments of their beauty as "come ons" because that is not how I've meant them.
Maybe I'm too naive, but admiring someone's physical beauty and wanting someone sexually seem to be very different things. Outside appearances are one of the first things that attract us, but surely appearance is not the only reason that the majority of people go to bed with each other? Have we become so politically correct that simply telling someone they look well put together is now paramount to "can we get to the sexin now?" If so than I long for the days when appreciation was just that, and sex was on a whole nother level.

Answer 3

For women, beauty is in the details. She will notice the shape of another woman's eyes and the fullness of her lips. A man may only see her as attractive or not. Therefore, when I receive a compliment from another woman, I pay far more credence to it than I do from men....but its always nice to get a compliment from either. I don't question it, or get suspicious of it...I just thank them for it and move on.

Answer 4

I think that women can truly appreciate the beauty of others(without comparing it to their own or coveting such) when they have come to appreciate their own, both external and internal.

Women who compliment others and say such silly things as what you've been told: "I'm not hitting on you, I like men", apparently do associate physical beauty with sex, because most of our society has been programmed to view beauty only by external features, rather than an overall aspect that is found wherever each person percieves it.

Answer 5

Hi. It's not with sex, its with mating (looking for the Alpha features - we do that to men too). And yes, a woman should be able to appreciate beautiful women because we are beautiful and that is why we are more commonly painted, sculpted, photographed - (no, not a lesbian). Sadly we have created a world where people cannot compliment people because we are afraid being labeled or sued.

Answer 6

I think this attitude varies with different women. My friends and I appreciate female beauty (as well as male, mmm....), but I know that plenty of women are uncomfortable with it. Not as uncomfortable as a lot of men seem to be with male beauty, but we get slightly less sh!t on the gay front than they do. I do remember I once agreed with a guy who was saying Angelina Jolie was hot, and the other guys in the conversation pounced. They seemed to think that meant I was gay, but whatever.

I haven't seen the problem with compliments that you have. What I often see is women refusing compliments ("You look great!" "Thanks, but no I don't"- that sort of deal). I wonder if it's an age or a regional thing?

Answer 7

Women and men are not inherently more or less good-looking one from the other. Women usually made to look more attractive than they really are as a result of makeup, airbrushing, and the careful selection of their clothing.

Some women can look attractive, some men can look attractive. Fact of life. Men should not be embarrased by their own beauty.

(I'm straight haetero-sexual)

Answer 8

No, I often give compliments to other women without them thinking I have intentions.
Then again, my compliments are often along the lines of "X, I would so do you if I were a guy," and replied to with "Right back atcha, sexy."

Answer 9

I guess it all depends what you are usually around. I never equate appreciation of beauty with sex because other women around me don't. I suppose I would if that is how I was taught.

Answer 10

Yes