My friend is really depressed...?

Question

She is naturally really shy and now is becoming a doormat, especially in her family. As a middle child, she doesnt really get a look in, so socially she probably feels a bit worthless. I know what a great person she is, but she doesnt. I want to take her out for a day and cheer her up, any ideas? Aside from that, how else can I help her in the long run?
xxx thankyou

Answer 1

I used to be depressed and it always helped me wen my friend would ask if i was ok and call me every day just to check in. Show her you care and that you need her as a friend. I would take her an amusement park or on a shopping trip, something that will get her to talk and boost her confidence

Answer 2

Your friend might have low self esteem rather than being depressed. This can lead to depression and bad life choices, such as not feeling worthy to have a good boy-friend, job or let people use you as a doormat. I wouldn't say that it is a problem of being a middle child, but she does need professional help: maybe a counselor or group therapy before she makes some really bad life choices where she could be isolated from her friends.

Answer 3

You sound like a good friend. Treat her like the great person you see her to be. Don't go overboard with the praise, but be naturally positive. If you go shopping, suggest things for her to try on and compliment her if something looks good. Be honest and candid about your own moments of sadness or low self esteem, share things she can relate to. She may need professional help in the long run, but I hope you remain her friend!

Answer 4

You already are doing your best and are a great friend the way you are .Just continiue being there for her and do things with her as you are,be yourself and not to cheese with it ,because she might think thats why you there only and will not try to get out of her Problem..Now let me tell you how I feel about it..I had a rough life myselfand realy noone to help,but some fiends.Life is tough and it is for a reason,like being able to manage the things that you still have to face later in life.It is like a prperation of your stranght you are going to need later on in life.What ever it may be,we dont know until.
Most things in life is what yourself makes out of it and what you let in your life .We all can control it in most ways,but have to find out the best way of doing so ,which is to satisfy our on wants and needs.You can only feel good about it if yourself descide how to deal with it .It comes from within yourself .and only yourself have to be happy with it...So realy all that is her own choise and to her own dessire.You can only stand by here side and be there if she needs you ,but she are the one that have to do it and want to do it...So what ever realy her Problem is she just have to cope with it from within and descide,than go from there .Talk to her about what ever bothers her and let her know you there..tell her that it all is in her own Control of what she need and want out of life ,her only...Good luck and stay the way you are ..a great friend!!!
Siggi

Answer 5

Talk to her and show her her greatness. Show her her importance. Show her she can trust you and confide in you. Help her to love herself and no that she has a powerful place in this world. Let her know you are there for her and you being that one person makes a great difference. I really commend you for being there for her. She has to understand for herself but you should be there to help her get through this.

Answer 6

just be a friend to her. let her know you care. show her that she is not worthless.
If it seems like it's doing harm to her being depressed, you may want to consider talking with a trusted adult about her to see what you can do to help.