2007-09-30 02:10:27 · 27 answers · asked by digibin2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not at this moment. wait untill your divorce is final or that she found it out by herself. If you tell her now it can make the case overrule against you and perhaps cost you more than you expected. It can be considered as an insult to your wife and she may turn and tell the court about your behavior of cheating that may prolong your divorce degree while they will put you under investigation which will cost you. keep it to yourself or otherwise there won't be no use or benefits other than moking her which men shouldn't be doing.
2007-09-30 02:19:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tought spot to be in. However, you are separated and now have your own life and she should have hers. I would definitely wait until the divorce is finalized if you chose to tell her. It may start some troubles if you don't and it really depends on what kind of person she is. Will she get angry or become jealous? Many former spouses do become jealous or threatened, even if they now have someone else in their lives. Tread lightly with all this.
I know people are saying you should tell her, but the only obligation you have to your Ex is what is written in the divorce decree and nothing more. Your main concern should be raising your kids that you have with your Ex in a co-parenting relationship and this does not involve your personal lives. What she does from now on is her business and what you do is yours. I would think the main concern would be how your kids accept this new baby and that is something for you and your girlfriend to work on. Like someone mentioned, make sure they are secure and all shown the same love.
I would wait "if" you are going to tell her and remember you don't owe her any explanations at this point, but do try and keep things civil. Just my thoughts. Best of luck and congrats on the new baby!!
2007-09-30 11:15:11 · answer #2 · answered by 2008girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - tell her about your success and your happiness of being the proud father of the other child with the new women. Take some sweets also so that you can share the double joy of divorce as well as a new entrant in the new family. Don't forget to tell your two kids too. They need to remember how great man is their dad anyway.
2007-10-04 07:38:52 · answer #3 · answered by Raj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. And its your responsibility to tell your children and reassure them that just because another baby is on the way, wont mean they are any less important. You get in there first before other people start to tell your kids stories about how they will be rejected etc. That happened to my husband and I and my lovely step daughter has had a terrible time adjusting to her dad's new family - I tried very hard but she just hated me and my kids (one of which is her dads). People told her that her dad wouldn't care about her anymore - including my husbands ex! So, you make a point of telling your kids and your ex. Before some twit makes a hash of it. And congratulations on your good news!
2007-09-30 10:48:13 · answer #4 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DIvorce is a roller coaster of emotions.
YEs you should tell her and in person if possible. If the pregnancy started during the seperation then she may still be upset but you also need to tell your other children..
They are going to need reassurance that you still love them.
Choose someplace neutral and avoid trying to hurt her feelings.
2007-09-30 09:24:26 · answer #5 · answered by will_955 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like all men you are chicken' you are going to have 2 families to keep now? when the lust wears of I hope you get your come uppence. Your first children will be upset at having to share any feelings you have for them with a new baby. I am very glad I would never be stupid enough to be in your shoes.
2007-09-30 16:25:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stir the pot. It is not the soon to be x-wifes business. You can tell the kids after the divorce is final.
2007-09-30 10:01:01 · answer #7 · answered by Rainwalker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if you value the relationship between your children and your girlfriend you need for them to know other wise they might choose to hate you and her, if you tell your ex and your kids they will feel like you still love your kids and your a good father. not telling them is cruel.
2007-09-30 10:01:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if you told her maybe she will cause you more stress in the divorce which may be likely to affect not both of you but your pregnant girldf
2007-09-30 09:51:19 · answer #9 · answered by Perfectionist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would show her a little respect if she knew, so yes tell her. Also if your children talk to her about it (presuming they are from your marriage) then she wont be put out. All the best. xx
2007-09-30 09:43:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋