.....that I wouldn't tolerate myself?
2007-09-30 01:47:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
One's married with a child on the way, and the other is engaged.....and he believes she helped him quit drinking, and he might be right.
2007-09-30 01:53:46 · update #1
Um, tell them to act like real men about it and get up and walk right out of their abusive relationships!
2007-09-30 01:51:58 · answer #1 · answered by Theodore H 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
When people complain they are not really looking for advice. I would not say anything because if you do it is a direct reflection of the choice they made when they decided to be with this person. This goes both with men and women. Our friend complain to us not so much looking for advice but for a chance to say what is going on in their own lives and using that to process it. Friends we just support. If they ask for advice give it, if they are just venting keep your opinion to yourself. Good way to keep friends.
2007-09-30 09:29:20 · answer #2 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Imbalanced triangles are never good. You don't want to add gasoline to their fires. You need to support their choices, even (especially) if you don't agree. That's all you can do as a friend. Your tongue will be bloody, but you'll still have the friendships.
2007-09-30 09:51:34 · answer #3 · answered by tornwax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys don't get the opportunity to get our with their buddies enough...especially in your case, with one engaged and the other expecting their first child. Not a bad idea to suggest that you really don't want to spend that time together discussing their relationships. I feel exactly the same way with my girlfriends, and have suggested that when we get together, we don't ***** about men, bfs or husbands....there has to be other things to talk about! Its working out very nicely...
2007-09-30 10:56:48 · answer #4 · answered by Super Ruper 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You're friends might resent you for trying to "help" them. Personally I'd tell them straight up and if they can't handle the truth then they can go ahead and marry their beloved b-tches and not talk to me anymore if thats what cupcake ordains. Some men need to go through hellish marriages and divorces before they wake up to reality but some men still never do. Theres not much you can do about it.
2007-09-30 11:41:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
The word You are looking for is.....(drum roll)....TRUTH! That is how You answer any questions, by telling .....the 'truth'. Show Your honest opinions. No need foe sage advice, just what You think. Let Your friends work it out for themselves.
2007-10-04 03:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by Ashleigh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen and nod your head.
You want to avoid it coming to
1. "How dare you talk about my wife that way?"
2. "She doesn't like you so we can't hang out"
Do things together to build their confidence and self-respect, but don't try to directly intervene or even offer advice.
Another reason for this approach: you don't want him to start hesitating to come around because he feels he's "lost face" with you and seems weak in your eyes.
And just giving him a chance to vent and be heard will do wonders for his confidence.
2007-09-30 09:01:52 · answer #7 · answered by Gnu Diddy! 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do THEY believe the women are controlling or is that YOUR opinion?
2007-10-03 01:13:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Merely smile.
Be your wonderful self.
Then all will be well.
2007-09-30 09:20:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
Don't complain :).
2007-09-30 09:27:27 · answer #10 · answered by AnGe 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋