How should you deal with aggressive people who want to fight and cause trouble?

Question

without getting into trouble yourself?

for example, if your in a situation where you need to be assertive with an aggressive type hooligan person, because theyve bothered you......like say, an aggressive stare or something else.......how should you handle it without jeapordizing your own future or life?

sure if you had no principles or simply didnt give a shht you could follow them down to their own level and take em out.

but obviously, if your of good character, are upstanding, have integrity and are just are trying to better yourself and your life....you dont want no trouble...and are just trying to reach your goals in life and make up for your mistakes, then your unfortunate enough to encounter an aggressive hooligan type person.....without getting yourself into trouble, how should you deal with them?

people always say to be assertive, but what they dont say is what you should do if you encounter aggressive hooligan yobbo who dont care about their lives or themselves

Answer 1

This is something that happens in life. But the best thing to do is just walk away, turn your back and walk off. They will say things, they may shove you, but just walk away and try to avoid the guy.

The first thing you learn when seriously training in Martial Arts is that the best thing to do is resolve conflict without use of force. It is important to know how to defend yourself well, but you do not learn to fight so you can beat up anyone who bothers you. Turn around and walk away from them, no matter what they say or do. Its true when they say it takes a bigger man to walk away, its not easy and your pride will telly ou to turn and fight, but just walk away from him, he'll get his someday.

Answer 2

If you cannot avoid the situation by simply walking away, remember that everybody acts the way that they do for a reason.
I read a book called "The Power of the Positive No," where somebody recounts a situation that they found themselves in. They were sitting on a train, when somebody, obviously drunk, barged in and started screaming at everybody and acting very aggressive. Now, the teller of this story had studied Aikido for twelve years and was just about to take this guy out, when a little old man took control of the situation in a very bizarre way. He sat up in his seat, and in the tone of one old friend speaking to another, yelled "HEY!"
The threatening man stopped cold and, at the old man's invitation, sat down next to him. Next thing you know, the man was bawling his eyes out and telling the old man all of his troubles.
The teller said that it was a very humbling experience, and he felt ashamed that he would have resorted to physical violence without any thought of what the other man might be going through.

Answer 3

After watching 'judge judy' on television, she says many times, that if someone tries to insite a fight with you, you should walk away, or you bear the responsibility of the fight also, in a court of law. So, the law is telling you to walk away also. If the stooge is trying to provoke you, don't worry, they'll go on and do it to someone else who will fall for it. It takes far more strength, to walk away in spite of how that appears to others stooges,..than it does to stand there and fight. It seems that men sometimes judge each other on wether or not they are 'man' enough to fight back..but there comes a time, when you must not be a fall guy for someone who just wants to fist fight and you both end up in jail..not worth it, be a peacemaker, ignore their stares, and go on about your business. If they continue, let them attack, and sue them

Answer 4

Certain beliefs answer in certain ways. In Akido, the Philosophy is, "I love you too much to Allow You to hurt me."

What you are referring to is a thing called "Fighting Words." It is an aggressive Verbal Repartee' that can "... provoke the common man (or Woman) into aggressive response..." Ways to deal with it in an ethical manner are, as many have said, to walk away or remove yourself from the situation. Sometimes the opportunity does not present itself to do so. In cases like this, depending on your state of mind, as well as many other factors, you could respond in a number of different ways, all being ethical. For instance, you could engage them in the conversation and attempt to de-rail their aggressiveness, you could ask poignant questions about the aggressor to throw them off their game, or (one of my favorites) you could cock your head to the side and start babbling incoherently as if they said a key word to unlock some secret and repressed psychosis that sends you in a fit of mental shut-down then pretend to go into a seizure.

Answer 5

First you pray for those who spitefully use you. The Lord can change hearts toward you. Second if my life were threatened and I had to react I would quote Scripture, "It is written, no weapon formed against me can prosper" and "He (Jesus Christ) that is in me is greater than he that is in the world." John Hagee had 6 bullets fire at him from close range and he is a big man. All 6 bullets missed him and the police were astonished. Three went to one side and three went to the other side as if an angel stood in front of him and parted the bullets. Never underestimate the power of God to those who believe.

Answer 6

Well, tell your friends and together, you can beat bullies. What ever you do, dont tell! Telling is the worst thing you can do, because the bullie will get back at you because you told him off. If they were beinng mean to you get the coolest boy you know to come and they won't beat you up or do bad stuff. Never call them nasty or naughty, call them bad and mean. Learn the grown up words. Pretend you know something he/she doesn't, he'll start being nice to get wwhat you know. leave it for a bit until something comes aloing then tell him something he doesn't know like his girlfriend cheating with your brother or something and then say theres something else. Bad people will be nice to get what they want, and then it turns out they didn't even want to know it! They'll go mad but make something else up to keep them calm. Find out a weakness and use it against them! Anything to stop Vandalism, and bad stuff!

Answer 7

Hang out with somebody that can't run very fast. When you see a fight coming, run away, the agressive person will get to your slower friend first and by the time he's finished beating him up, you will have made it to safety.

Answer 8

The easiest thing to do is to remove yourself from the situation. Walk away.

Answer 9

Just keep your cool and an even head.

Answer 10

ignore them. let them make an a ss out of themselves.