its a very long story and im gonaa make it short...me and my besttttt freinddd in the world have been going through some problems.....we both got into some bad things and our parents started catching on to some of the things that we were doing so now her famiyl wont let me go on there property adn grounding her and my mom thinks im crazy and bad and doesnt trust me alot and im getting sad because i want thigns to be how they used too...i want to be able to see my freind wenever i feel like it i want to have sleepovers like we used to i just want to h ave fun but everything is going wrong...i feel like things will never be the same..my ffamily thinks she is bad and her family thinks i am bad and if were both getting grounded every second then how will we ever keep our freindship?...its really sad for me....i feel like im in a teen drama reality show.....i dont know how to fix this....
2007-09-29 18:20:29 · 15 answers · asked by im so so crazy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
and now theres another problem...since she knows we were doing bad things now everytime someone tells her i think they did....blah blah blah she automaticaly beleives that and it ISNT true sometimes...she just came up to me yelling and telling me why i did this and i had no idea what she is talking about....=(
2007-09-29 18:30:19 · update #1
It sounds like you both broke your parents trust.
Therefore you are going to have to earn this trust back. Your friend and yourself are going to need to show you have learnt from your mistakes and prove you will not be foolish in the future.
If you are patient and work hard at this, you MAY be able to repair this damage and start resuming this friendship.
It is up to YOU to change things so start now and good luck.
2007-09-29 18:28:39 · answer #1 · answered by Rational Thought 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You said in your story that you two were doing things that you shouldn't have been so you now you need to accept the consequences of your actions and learn from the experience.
If you two have done things that have made it so your parents are unable to trust you anymore the only thing you can do is start working toward repairing that. This means that you have to be completely trust-worthy from now on. Once you're no longer grounded you have to be where you say you're going to be and with who you say you're going to be with.
You also need to not give them a lot of grief about it. If you accept your punishment and do what you can to earn back their trust it will show them that you understand that you were wrong and that you are willing to do what is necessary to make it better.
I imagine that your parents want to trust you. It makes their life easier if they can just trust their kids and not have to track their every move.
2007-09-29 18:41:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have this problem as well soooo I can relate. My best friend ever accidentally hit my car and my dad flipped out. Her mom was trying to say that she didn't do anything wrong so my dad and her mom got into a huge argument and my dad said I could never go over there again just because he didn't like her mom. Anyways our friendship has grown apart A LOT and it really does suck that something so stupid had to make us be less of friends. We still today are not very close like we used to be. I think when you get older and stuff that it will get better and you will be able to see her more and stuff. You can always lie to your mom and say your going to a movie and then instead go pick up your friend and hang out lol. That is what I have done before. But yeahs just wait it out your friendship will grow apart somewhat but still keep in touch and don't stop talking to her or anything. It will get better eventually don't worry.
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2007-09-29 18:27:42 · answer #3 · answered by sk8erinpigtails 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You made your bed, now you gotta lie in it. (I think the key word is here is "lie".) Your parents will not get over this soon. It is time to find a new best friend. I am a parent and it has taken me over 15 years to learn to trust my son and his idiot friends. And now I only do so because they are all over thirty years old!
Your parents do know what is best for you. They have seen lives ruined by so called friends. They have seen kids become pregnant at too early of an age. They have seen what happens to kids that sneak out at night. Kids that get drunk and die, or get raped. Listen to your mom and dad. Don't be stupid any more. You can not fix it. You have to live with it.
2007-09-29 18:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by It All Matters.~☺♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may not be able to fix it. You may have to chalk it up to experience. You can try to talk to your parents, but chances are they have made up their minds and won't listen to what you have to say.
Maybe, if you behave yourself for a long while, they may relax the rules a bit and then allow your friend back into your life. An apology to both sets of parents from both of you might help.
When two friends start doing things they know are wrong, each of them plays off the other and soon they are in so deep, they can't see things clearly. Use this experience to wise up. Be the one to say no. Be the cautious one who says, "Maybe we shouldn't do this!" In that way, you will stay out of trouble and keep your friends.
Good luck with this. In years to come, you will value your parents for having rules and sticking by them. You may not be happy with them today but, believe me, they have your best interests at heart.
2007-09-29 18:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by Me, Too 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You just learned a valuable life lesson....if you choose the action, you also choose the consequences. So stop feeling sorry for yourself and suck it up. Life will never go back to what you call normal and you need to create a new normal for yourself. Probably being with your troublemaker friend is not such a good idea. Your parents have a right to be concerned.
2007-09-29 18:25:45 · answer #6 · answered by ((♫♥♪♫♥♪♫ Shivers ♫♥♪♫♥♪)) 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
as a parent I can say... if my child came to me and admitted that what they did was wrong and started behaving properly.. doing chores as parents ask, obeying curfew, getting homework done on time, getting good grades,,, I would lift the friendship ban and let them hang together,,as long as the other child did the same thing with thier parents.
My biggest issue with my son is that he wont fess up to the things that he does wrong...I do not expect perfection but honesty...your parens are prob the same
good luck
2007-09-29 18:26:38 · answer #7 · answered by sweetsal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are a bad influence to each other, and both family are doing what is best at the moment. Of course you are missing your friend, but learn from the mistakes.
2007-09-29 18:25:50 · answer #8 · answered by R M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just try for now to do the right thing and do what your parents want... eventually you and your best friend will be able to patch things up when everything else fizzles... good luck
2007-09-29 18:23:37 · answer #9 · answered by Yoshi Jr 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u guys should try to regain back their trust...... do something really good that will make them proud... n keep it that way.... when u guys both move out then ur free to take control of ur own lives but even then i'd advise u to be good!
2007-09-29 19:20:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋