would u love one more than the other???

Question

if u had two children one lets say "perfect" and the other one with disabilities....would u love one more than the other...or would u love them equally....

me..i would love them both the same!!!!!!

my bf and i are having this discussion and we wanted to know what u all thought......please say wether u are Male or Female!

Answer 1

Love the same.

Female.

Answer 2

Well....I`m the "What if" I have 2 children, a boy 14 and a girl 10. My son has disabilities and my daughter excels..............as for how I love them. Your damn right, I love them both the same. But the thing is, not for the same reasons. Both of them have qualities (quirks) that I ADORE..............and they are both so very different. I believe children, no matter whether they are disabled or not have ALL got a personality when they are born. I mean, look around, we are`nt all the same, and we dont all feel the same. To me its just not comprehendable that I would love my "perfect" child more than my other. They both are my world, and I would`nt have it any other way................goodluck ;) Hope that helped your argument, lol *winks*

Answer 3

It's easy to say I would love them both equally and I would hope that's true. However, I don't really know and wouldn't know unless it happened. I might love the disabled child more, because I would feel like he needs more love from me.

I'm female and have 2 daughters 7 years apart that I do love the same, but they're both healthy, intelligent and attractive.

Answer 4

I love all my kids the same, but it's fact that one child can bring more heartache than the other if so inclined.

I have seen this happen, and parents seem to bend over backwards from guilt or something trying to "get through" to the one that needs more attention, and then the cycle starts of siblings fighting over affection. It's kind of nasty when it's that way.

Coming from a pretty dysfunctional family I have vowed to make all my kids feel loved, special and unique and encourage each of them to follow thier own dreams. When one child needs you more so be it. I try to tell my kids that too, that I love them all equally but someones one may need me more and that they have to trust in me and be patient as there is plenty of love in me to go around and they will have thier turn (or time) with me! LOL I want to make sure their needs are fully met while they are young. Many problems stem from childhood and some children never forget some things.

Parents may work, and some children will remember them "never being there". If they are tired and can't cope with one child who is more demanding and have another who is always quiet, the quiet one may say they were ignored.

I think the best you can do is always tell your children that you love them, praise thier accomplishments and encourage them to be the best they can be.

Answer 5

Male:

I would 'love' them equally. I might struggle to balance that feeling in my heart that implored me to love the disabled child more (regardless or how much burden there was placed upon me) and have to work hard to show my 'perfect' child (yeah right) that I 'loved' him or her as much as my other offspring.

I would not have the same expectations and my 'love' might change to give one the 'quality of doing better than others' column and the other love for the 'quality of the way they do things as themselves'. Keeping the distinction between expectations of performance against normal individuals and what I should 'love' in my children would be something I would have to work at, but having children is always work.

Answer 6

You never learn truly unconditional love until you hold a child in your arms. I am the proud father of five children, whose ages range from 12 to 18, and I love them all equally and would never try to consider which one of them is my "favorite", or who I loved more. In example, my oldest son drives me nuts sometimes but I never stop loving him, my middle daughter drives me more than nuts and the same goes for her. My younger son, or to be correct, my step-son, has learning disablities as does my oldest daughter and even though they can be handfuls when it comes to homework, the rule applies there too. So to close, none of my children "outrank" any of the others and as a parent, you can never allow them to. My Great Aunt, God rest her soul, was a middle daughter and fell victim to being neither the "Blessed Eldest" nor the "Family Baby" and was reminded of it by her mother until Great Grandma passed at the ripe old age of 92. My Aunt bore the scars of it emotionally her entire life and never realized that she was doing the same thing to her own children. Love of your children should be and is unconditional, regardless of age differences, handicaps, disabilities or anything else. Love your kids from birth, they're an open book, and you're going to fill the pages.

Answer 7

I would LOVE them both equally but I might like one more than the other. I am female

Answer 8

Mothers love their Children the same no matter what! It does not matter if they are a boy or a girl or have a disability, they are loved and equally treated.

Answer 9

I noticed that when I was a teacher I tended to love the "trouble" kids more. I think that the more you take care of someone the more you love them.
Female


Oh crud! I am going to get lots of thumbs down... I would love them both very much. But sometimes someone who really really needs you becomes a little extra special.

Answer 10

female love them both the same

Answer 11

I think I would probably love them in different ways......but equally. Female