~~~Am I an abnormal 15-year-old?~~~?

Question

I stay home most of the time or I go to school (I have to of course), but it seems like a lot of people my age go out to parties and date and have big social lives or something. I've been to a couple sleepovers/birthday parties, but I never go to big dance parties where you get drunk and I've never slow danced with, kissed, gone out with, etc. guys. Am I weird? Sometimes I feel like I should be going out and stuff more, but at the same time I think it's dumb...because it seems like people are trying to have social lives to try and be normal teens. So...your opinions?

Answer 1

nah, you're normal. don't compare yourself to some impossible reality. the life of the average teenager really isn't all that interesting. do what you like. the dating and stuff will come when you're ready for it.

Answer 2

Don't EVEN worry about it. You don't need to go to all the parties and whatnot. Even at 15, not many people do anyways. I'm only 16 now, but I used to be like you. I stayed at home, didn't really go to many parties, etc., but now that I have done all of that sort of stuff, I regret some of it.

If you think it's dumb to get wasted, get in trouble, and be overly promiscuous, then good for you. One more smart person in the world. Sure, I will of course recommend that you try going to a couple of school dances (if you have them). Even if you think they are stupid, go. You might change your mind. You might meet new people. You might get to slow dance with that certain someone...

If you plan to do the whole party thing anyways, just start out slow. Don't drink either. Screws you up.

Answer 3

I don't think you are weird, but, it is probably not what the average 15-year-old thinks of having a social life. Some people are just slow bloomers. I think it is more healthy to have some kind of social life, even if it doesn't mean dating right now. Are there any clubs at your school that interest you? What about the school newspaper or yearbook? If none of that interests you, think about meeting other teenagers participating in some sport or other extracurricular activity like color guard, band, etc. There are groups where you can meet teenagers your age that do volunteer work, like Candy Stripers at hospitals. It is important that you have fun at your age. If you just open your door and look outside yourself, you will find things that can bring you into social situations where you can feel that you are making a real contribution to others. You will also be meeting other young people who have similar interests. The more you do for others, the better you will feel about yourself. Just give it a try.

Answer 4

Everyone is different. It's really great, in my opinon, that you are more focused on going to school rather than what's going to happen friday night. I hung out w/buddies at that age and when I got my drivers license I would hang out a few nights but would be back home by curfew..plus having a job I didn't hang out too much. I didn't start drinking and partying until my senior year but even then I didn't do too much..just once in awhile. With the guy subject...don't rush too much. At that age they are pathetic and ignorant and only want one thing. I wouldn't worry too much about dances until your junior and senior prom when it really matters. If you think it's dumb then don't do it. You are less likely to get pressured to do drugs, smoke, drink or have sex. Have fun the way you want, finish school and make something of yourself after high school and you see later down the road that you were a very smart girl and you are and may be better off than the losers who wasted their time doing other stuff..hoped I helped.

Answer 5

There is nothing abnormal about you just because you don't want to be a drunken, wild loser like most people your age. The people who think getting drunk and going to parties is what it is all about are the ones who are really abnormal. I was like you. I kept my nose to the grindstone and got an education while my friends partied. A lot of them now have menial, dead-end jobs while I make nearly 100,000 a year. Also, when the time is right, you will meet a guy that is right for you. You have plenty of time. Good luck!!

Answer 6

You are doing just fine. Keep your head on straight. Why would you want to go to wild parties just so you can become an alcoholic/drug addict/cigarette smoker and be with boys? None of these things are cool.

I was just like you in High School, and I am one of the few people that graduated without being pregnant or addicted to something. Your holding back from these things until this point means that you have good morals. KEEP THEM!!! Don't think about what others think about you; instead think about how your Heavenly Father feels about your not getting involved with these bad associates. (1 Corinthians 15:33)

Answer 7

NO, you are not weird. I did the same exact thing. I didn't go to dances, parties or anything. My friends were great at school, but outside of school they weren't that great. Getting into trouble. I didn't kiss boys, didn't have sex, my friends did. I just choose to stay true to what I believe. Your parents will appreciate all you are doing. Don't ever feel like your weird..
I am totally normal. I am married with three kids and I was just like you!!

Answer 8

Wow...It's like reading my own autobiography (different gender, though)

The fact that I'm not the only one is kind of sad. I thought that I was the only one on the outside of the party scene and stuff. But really, the problem is...do you want to have fun in the future, or fun now? Sure, fun now is fun, but then when you're life peaks at 18, it's all downhill from there.

So just stay with what you're doing, and just remember to look out for the "socialites" at the ten year reunion.

Answer 9

I am exactly the same way. You are just a step above everyone else, and are living your life like you are in your 20's and you focus on what's important. I believe that you are skipping the crap and jumping right into life, the earlier you start your life seriously, the more time you get to have fun while you are in a good position financially, mentally, socially, emotionally, etc. Congrats, not many teens are like that.

Answer 10

well first of all i was and still am just like you, i just prefer the more laid back kind of lifestyle, the kind where jack johnson is the soundtrack. you are way too young to be getting drunk at 15, im almost 18 and i dont drink. and i think right now you should try and concentrate on school and your grades but you should still have fun, just let things happen and enjoy life.

(and the person above me is totaly right)

Answer 11

no your not weird theres nothing wring with not dating when your 15. try to be a little more social, i dont mean parties and stuff, but hang out with some of your friends, like the ones you really trust.


goodluck


jenniferleigh