Would you still think of certain people the same if they were less attractive, or maybe just looked different?

Question

I've been wondering about this for a long time. I find myself sometimes respecting certain people (regardless of gender) more than others because of their appearance.

Of course when it comes to people who are disgustingly ignorant or people who are astonishingly stupid, I tend to see these people as who they really are. Also people who have an amazingly robust personality or who are incredibly smart find a way past my hamartia, which is a good thing. However, this isn't always the case for me.

I know that it's wrong, and despite my efforts to abstain from it, it's a natural cognitive process. I have actually come a long way from how I used to be, but it's still an existing issue within myself.

Do any of you judge by appearance instead of personality sometimes? Be honest.

Oh, in case you don't know: hamartia - error in judgement

Answer 1

First of all, how amazing that you have evaluated this process in yourself and made your own criticism. What a great friend you must be when you develop a friendship.
Few care to self analyze biases; and when they do, most just ignore it. You are working on it, seeing it as a potential problem, but good grief! Give yourself a little credit. You will get where you want to be. Think of the fun you will have getting there! It's human nature to give people the once over and I admit to it. It's something I have had to work hard on.
I have been fooled by it too. Can't always judge a book by it's package. I used to be terrible about gender roles. I was brought up on a farm; women had their jobs and men had theirs. Women and kids didn't eat until the men had their fill.
It took me awhile to change. Sometimes I still go back to the old thinking. But our culture is changing too, and that is good.

All the different types that go through our lives is an intriguing
thing, is it not? Meanwhile, you are past the simple weeding process that gets rid of the losers. With your insight you will be able to if not judge, evaluate whether a person fits in with your notion of who you would like to hang out with or get to know. I have found the most interesting people come in all different sizes, colors and shapes, genders and even social class. Sometimes PhD D's drop out and get away from the rat race to live in Walden. Ken Kessy was like that. So was Holden Caulfield.
I wish you well and I wish you luck.

Answer 2

Good looking people usually get better treatment and for the most part stick together.

Also I found when I first started my restaurant that pretty people treated me better because they wanted vip treatment and I went out of my way to make everybody feel special, I do that in everthing I do. This caused some who were used to being spoiled to feel insecure but in the end I benefited from both sides. The beautiful worked for my approval and everybody else was happy to be treated decent, My motto is the Golden Rule except for Jerks

Answer 3

We did a study in college on beauty. Asked other students to label how attractive and then smart or dumb they thought a person in these photos we had. Turns out people thought the guys who were attractive were smarter, which was kind of what we expected. But women were much harsher on the women who were pretty. And the students guessed what kind of study we were doing. But no one predicted the women would be harsher on the attractive women. We were quite surprised. I think it goes to show women can be other women's harshest critics.

Answer 4

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder:

http://www.chinapage.org/story/beauty.html

"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" - Origin:

This saying first appeared in the 3rd century BC in Greek. It didn't appear in its current form in print until the 19th century, but in the meantime there were various written forms that expressed much the same thought. In 1588, the English dramatist John Lyly, in his
Euphues and his England, wrote:

"...as neere is Fancie to Beautie, as the pricke to the Rose, as the stalke to the rynde, as the earth to the roote."

Shakespeare expressed a similar sentiment in Love's Labours Lost, 1588:

Good Lord Boyet, my beauty, though but mean,
Needs not the painted flourish of your praise:
Beauty is bought by judgement of the eye,
Not utter'd by base sale of chapmen's tongues

Benjamin Franklin, in Poor Richard's Almanack, 1741, wrote:

Beauty, like supreme dominion
Is but supported by opinion

beauty is in the eye of the beholderDavid Hume's Essays, Moral and Political, 1742, include:

"Beauty in things exists merely in the mind which contemplates them."

The person who is widely credited with coining the saying in its current form is Margaret Wolfe Hungerford (née Hamilton), who wrote many books, often under the pseudonym of 'The Duchess'. In Molly Bawn, 1878, there's the line "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder".

http://www.phrases.org.uk/meanings/59100.html

Have you ever noticed that good looking girls usually hang out together with other good looking girls, but when it come to couples the lousiest looking guy dates a Pretty girl and mostly vice versa too.

http://anthonysmirror.blogspot.com/2005/11/beauty-is-in-eyes-of-beholder.html

Beauty in eyes of beholder, study confirms:

WASHINGTON: When it comes to something pleasant, it seems that the phrase "easy on the eyes" may hold more truth than earlier believed, for a study has found that objects or people appear more attractive when the mind can process their looks faster.

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/2037080.cms

Scientists ponder beauty and the eye of the beholder:
Evidence increasingly suggests the human brain is hard-wired for aesthetics.

http://www.sigidiart.com/Docs/beauty.htm

I will give a simple explanation of my own. I will go
to a blind man and describe the beauty of a top cine
actress. Can any amount of description ake him realize
how beautiful she is? He needs eyes to see and
understand for him self.

"When candles are off, all women are fair!"

Answer 5

that's definitely genuine that many aesthetic features are eye-catching for evolutionary purposes. In connection with lady features that anthropologist have got here across to hold basically approximately well-known charm and cultural elegance, there are countless: tender lips, sparkling fantastic eyes, reliable complexion, and an somewhat particular hip to waist ratio. the graceful and normally finished lips are supposedly indicative of youthful human beings, sparkling fantastic eyes indicators that the female is the two healthful/disease-unfastened and returned youthful, reliable complexion shows power and the ideal waist to hip ratio denotes large reproductive features. that is totally exciting how lots of our elegance standards are programmed in by using nature.

Answer 6

Some of the worst criminals in history, were attractive. We all think someone attractive is good. But that is not true. Some of the ugliest people I have ever known, where very attractive. Go figure. Gut instinct is always right. Good, bad, or ugly.

Answer 7

I always judge by what is inside not outside because there can be a beautiful girl but she is extremely shallow never judge a book by its cover

Answer 8

i judge by the first thing someone says to me and how they say. looks don't count too much for me, but i get what your saying. when it comes to having a crush i know that looks determine some of how i feel about someone compared to another, even if they have similar personalities. i am ashamed. :(

Answer 9

yeah, i do judge on appearance sometimes, but most of the time i judge on behaviour.

Answer 10

to be honest, i dont know a lot of pretty people that are nice